backstageleft:

bapeonion:

brooklynfeministfury:

tarynel:

shitrichcollegekidssay:

When the Boss Says, ‘Don’t Tell Your Coworkers How Much You Get Paid’

The HR manager tried to convince me that the offer was competitive. She told me that she couldn’t offer more because it would be unfair to
other paralegals. She said that if we did not agree to a salary that
day, then she would have to suspend me because I would be working past
the allowed temp phase. I insisted that she look into a higher offer and
she agreed that we could meet again later. Before I left, she had
something to add.

“Make sure you don’t talk about your salary with anyone,” she said
sweetly, as if she was giving advice to her own son. “It causes conflict
and people can be let go for doing it.” (This is to the best of my
recollection, not verbatim.)

It wasn’t all that surprising to hear this from a corporate HR manager. What was surprising was the déjà vu.

Just three months earlier, some of my coworkers at the coffee shop
told me that our bosses, who worked in the office on salaries, and even
the owner, got a higher cut of the tips than we did. One barista told me
that when she complained about it, the managers reduced her hours.

When you make minimum wage and have to fight for more than 30 hours
per week, tips are pretty important, so I sat down with my managers to
discuss the controversy. That’s when they told me not to talk about it
with the other baristas. The owner “hates it when people talk about
money,” my manager added, and “would fire people for it if he could.” I
sulked back to the espresso machine, making my lattes at half speed and
failing to do side work.

In both workplaces, my bosses were breaking the law.

Under the National Labor Relations Act of 1935 (NLRA), all workers
have the right to engage “concerted activity for mutual aid or
protection” and “organize a union to negotiate with [their] employer
concerning [their] wages, hours, and other terms and conditions of
employment.” In six states, including my home state of Illinois, the law
even more explicitly protects the rights of workers to discuss their pay.

This is true whether the employers make their threats verbally or on
paper and whether the consequences are firing or merely some sort of
cold shoulder from management. My managers at the coffee
shop seemed to understand that they weren’t allowed to fire me solely
for talking about pay, but they may not have known that it is also
illegal to discourage employees from discussing their pay with each
other. As NYU law professor Cynthia Estlund explained to NPR,
the law “means that you and your co-workers get to talk together about
things that matter to you at work.” Even “a nudge from the boss saying
‘we don’t do that around here’ … is also unlawful under the National
Labor Relations Act,” Estlund added.

And yet, gag rules thrive in workplaces across the country. In a
report updated this year, the Institute for Women’s Policy Research
found that about half of American employees in all sectors are
either explicitly prohibited or strongly discouraged from discussing
pay with their coworkers. In the private sector, the number is higher,
at 61 percent.

Damn managers have definitely told me this before

Always reblog

adding to this on the subject of medical/family leave: 

a coworker of mine (and integral part of a voluntary team he and I are the sole members of) had to have foot surgery and was told he’d need six weeks to recuperate. when he went to HR they told him his best option was to resign and then reapply for his same job after his 6 week recovery time. 

he originally asked them if he could take those weeks as unpaid time off, and was about to take their “quit and come back” offer because they made it sound like the only option. this would have cancelled the very same healthcare he was using to pay for the treatment in the first place. 

this is a fairly common tactic HR managers will try to use to scare workers out of taking any leave at all, or force you to reduce the amount of time you are “unproductive.” 

it is also illegal under the federal Family and Medical Leave Act – http://www.dol.gov/whd/fmla/ 

you are entitled to twelve full weeks of (unpaid) time off to care for a family member or to recuperate from medical conditions. the explicit qualifying scenarios are listed on the website above.

you are entitled to keep your job and return to your position on completion. any repercussion/dismissal from your company is illegal. do not get bullied out of your job for medical treatments you or a family member needs. if you are in a situation where you are being forced to quit for a situation that qualifies under FMLA you should contact a lawyer.

TO REITERATE:

IT IS ILLEGAL TO BE FIRED FOR DISCUSSING PAY WITH FELLOW EMPLOYEES. IT IS A TYPE OF WORKER/UNION SUPPRESSION.

urfvgrl:

myliminalspaces:

fullten:

sylveon-rosepetal:

fullten:

I look after friends, and friend of friends kids a lot, and the personalities molded by the people around them is so… obvious. Kids who have parents who allow them to be themselves are, confident, out going, happy to talk about things they like, have no issue telling you “yes I’m happy with this” “no I’m bored”

But the kids whose parents/authority figures don’t support them? Scared to tell you what they like because they don’t want to be made fun of. Quiet, scared to form an opinion, if they don’t like something they just suffer through it because they don’t see their happiness as something important, as something anyone cares about.

And a lot of parents prefer it? They would rather have a quiet kid than a happy one. It’s so disgusting. Don’t even fucking have kids then. Get a pet rock, you’ll have more in common.

And a lot of parents who have kids who are afraid to form or express their opinions and emotions often tell their kids it’s ok for them to express how they feel, but the moment they do they’re guilt tripped, mocked, told their problems aren’t valid/important/a big deal, they tell other people without their kid’s permission, made fun of/told they’re childish, etc.

There’s a lot of that. Parents who want to know what their kids are thinking and feeling only to make the child more vulnerable to abuse, manipulation, humiliation.

There’s so many people who should never have children.

Sometimes my kids are on my last fucking nerve and I have to remind myself, “I WANT them to tell me if something is or isn’t okay, even if it’s the 500th time today that something small and random was upsetting – maybe they’re having a crappy day, and me telling them to knock it off wouldn’t help at all”.

^^^^^^

Deuce and I have managed to raise a VERY self-aware, emotionally developed child.

Which means ALL DAMN DAY LONG, I’m hearing, “Mom, I’m so sad and mad and frustrated!!!!!!!!” or “I don’t like that, you’re making me feel upset!” Alllllllllll day.

“Yes, kiddo – I get that it’s frustrating that your Lego keeps falling apart but… y’know, Lego be like that sometimes. Maybe you gotta try a different way or try to figure out why that piece doesn’t fit.”

“Yeah, I KNOW it’s upsetting to be disciplined but you just threw your food across the room and that’s not acceptable. I AM NOT happy with you right now and you WILL receive a consequence for that action. I’m sorry that makes you upset but… y’know, consequences be like that sometimes. Next time, let’s try to remember a better way to react so that we can both feel happy instead of upset.”

It is exhausting. So many times, I’d much rather just say, “Enough! Just be quiet. Figure it out. Don’t make things worse.”

But he needs to know he’s safe to talk to me about things that don’t feel right/good. He needs to know it’s important to me that he is happy and comfortable. And, most importantly, he needs to learn how to acknowledge these feelings (oh boy! has he got the hang of that!) and healthy ways to deal with and work through them.

I am not a fan of the emotional outbursts at all. Sometimes I worry that I’m too impatient with them. But I’m lucky that I have a kid who can say what he feels, calm down, then find a solution in under 30 seconds every time he has an outburst. I hope, as he grows older and is less impulsive, the outburst portion will dissipate altogether.

I will NEVER make him feel bad or guilty or stupid or like a burden for any feeling he expresses to me.

Without exaggeration, the internet as we know it could disappear forever very soon.

grrlgeek72:

canitellusmthin:

grrlgeek72:

thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

lioness–hart:

I’ve changed my avatar in preparation for the day of action to save net neutrality.

Net neutrality is really important. Basically, right now, the internet is treated as a utility, like water and gas. Everybody’s rates are the same, and nobody can pay more for faster or better service.

This may be about to change.

The FCC and Chairman Ajit Pai want to reclassify the internet to make it just like phone and cable services, i.e., companies charging exorbitant prices for shoddy services and charging even more if you want faster service.

If net neutrality fails, ISPs can slow down or even block websites completely, which would stifle and kill the innovation, creativity, and free expression the internet has allowed us to have. Without net neutrality, the internet will be just like cable TV: the content you see is only what the provider puts in front of you.

That means if they don’t like your startup website or the website you made for your new company, they can charge you exorbitant fees, which they then pass down to consumers, for allowing your website to even exist.

That means that if they don’t like anything the Resistance does (and they wouldn’t like most of it; Comcast and Verizon are multimillion dollar donors to the GOP), they can block these websites. Your efforts at resisting the Trump administration will be suppressed.

If you are poor, or live in a rural area, you won’t be able to afford the exorbitant rates ISPs would charge for even basic internet access. This is designed specifically to target the poor and POC.

BUT ON JULY 12TH, WE’RE FIGHTING BACK.

Websites, Internet users, and online communities will come together to
sound the alarm about the FCC’s attack on net neutrality. Battleforthenet.com (linked above) is your resource guide.

I strongly, STRONGLY urge you to participate.

Artists who use the internet to promote your work, you have a stake in this fight.

Anybody who reads fic on AO3, you have a stake in this fight. 

Anybody who’s ever had an online shop or store, you have a stake in this fight.

Anybody who uses the internet, you have a stake in this fight.

Learn more and join the fight at battleforthenet.com/july12

Go to Gofccyourself.com and submit a pro-net neutrality comment to the FCC directly today and every day!

BOOOOOOST

If you examine the comments there, the bots have posted many many cut and paste comments SUPPORTING the end of net neutrality by claiming the Obama administration regulations stifle innovation.

The corporate fascist botnets are hard at work.

That’s pretty shitty. :/

It’s worse than you think:

https://www.techdirt.com/articles/20170510/08191137334/bot-is-flooding-fcc-website-with-fake-anti-net-neutrality-comments-alphabetical-order.shtml

bughaze:

starry-eyed-wolfchild:

Bee Hotels for Solitary Bees

You may be wondering what bees need a hotel for, when they make their own hives. The truth is that many species of bees are solitary – the do not live in hives but instead construct their own nest. The main reason for this is because in these species every female is fertile and this would not make for comfortable communal living in a hive.

air bee n bee

mookybear12404:

mookybear12404:

Can we please please normalize subtitles? 

Subtitles are:

1. A necessity for deaf people

2. REALLY helpful for those who are partially deaf, have APD (like me and my sister) or any other hearing problem

3. really helpful for those who can’t focus well, especially for those with ADD/ADHD (like me)

4. Is incredibly helpful for people learning a second language, or for bilingual people who can read better than they can hear 

5. Even if you aren’t into learning the language, there are countless amazing foreign movies and songs you really can’t enjoy without subtitles!

6. Can help people (like my sister) who have reading comprehension 

7. Can help when you’re having a party and you don’t want to pause every time someone wants to make a comment/joke

8. Can help when the characters in the show have a heavy accent (especially in period shows) 

9. Let’s be honest subtitles can really add to the humor of the show! (”sobs mathematically”, “screeches loudly”, “angrily fixes bowtie”)

10. Can let people watch content without headphones, or in areas of loud noises. 

11. Alternatively, If someone has sensitive hearing or is triggered by loud noises, they can turn the volume down low and still be able to enjoy the content

12. The last bit is VERY true for movies where they switch between soft speaking and LOUD BOOMING NOISES (I’m looking at you hunger games)

13. Very good for helping young kids recognize and associate words and learn to read faster!

14. Really good when you’re eating chips/crunchy candy and can’t hear the movie

15. IS A NECESSITY FOR DEAF PEOPLE!!!

I can’t even tell you how many of my friends made fun of me for needing subtitles, to the point of where I just don’t bother with them anymore. Asking for subtitles at an event is the scariest thing I can imagine. People often complain that it “gets in the way” of their movie. Watching shows (especially in loud areas or with people who talk a lot) is incredibly frustrating for me. People often think I’m stupid for not understanding a show or needing to rewind when someone talks. Most Youtube users don’t bother to create subtitles for their videos (and auto-generated subtitles are crap). I just wish people were nicer to people who need subtitles, and that they were more accessible on other platforms.