simonalkenmayer:

simonalkenmayer:

TERFs are not unfairly labeled. They are labeled thusly because they actively refuse to recognize the rights and identity of trans women. Personal preferences or attractions do not in any way have to detract from another individual’s gender identity. You say “same sex attraction” and “not being inclusive enough to the other sex” and these alone illustrate that you view trans women as not being women. Which means that you have categorized people based on your own desires, and not along the lines of what is productive or beneficial to the world or others.

The population of women on earth contains tremendous variety. Let us say for the sake of argument, that you are only attracted to brunettes who are tall and thin, or blondes who are curvaceous. You prefer that “type” among the population, but you don’t then say only those who match your preference are  women. You don’t point to every woman in the world but the ones you like and dehumanize them, call them infiltrators, mock them, or accuse them of being men “muscling in” on a female space. Women who don’t match your ideal are still women, and perhaps you don’t prefer that type or that sort or that look, but you have no right to question their femininity, just as no one else has the right to question yours.

The way you have addressed the topic of the TERF label–outlining it as if it is an unfair slight against you, when in fact you appear to have earned the moniker, remind me of how racists sound. “Oh poor us, I’m so upset! I don’t think the races should mix, and I have a right to say that, but when I do I’m unfairly labeled as a racist! I don’t hate black people! I just don’t think they should be spending time with my kids. And it’s so unfair that black people can talk about black pride, when I can’t say white pride without being labeled a racist.” Well, now…see here…that is precisely what makes a racist–the predisposition to see others as being lesser or different simply along the lines of skin color. Lesbians aren’t being victimized by trans women. Lesbians aren’t being secretly undermined by trans pride movements. Your dislike of or division from trans women is drawn very simply along the lines of “They’re actually men and isn’t that disgusting?” and has absolutely nothing to do with them. Your perception and your selfishness are preventing you from being at peace with others and allowing them to be at peace with themselves.

You have the ability to make someone else feel accepted and loved, and all it requires is
that you try and see things a bit differently and expand your
definitions. Instead, you’d rather be small and keep the world strictly
categorized in all these tiny narcissistic packages, when in fact, there
is vast complexity to all of it, and you have no business playing the
gatekeepers of femininity. Those constructs don’t have gatekeepers. You
don’t have the right to play one because you happen to be a “woman” who
also likes “women” and so of course, is the only authority on what
constitutes “womanhood”.

When you exclude someone, you are excluding them. Plain and simple. You are keeping them out. That’s you. Doing that. When you don’t have to. You can simply stop. It’s not as if you’re the only one who sees a universal truth. It’s actually simply a case of you refusing to change your own mind. Life is too short and too complicated to be the playground of your ego. You are not entitled to define everyone else for them or tell them which spaces are theirs. And frankly, you’ll be dead some day quite soon and are spending far too much energy on such mindless discrimination.

So, I’m afraid you’ll get no sympathy from me, no matter how you try to phrase your pathos. I routinely switch genders at will. I dress according to my desires or my personal feelings at any given time, and more than once I’ve encountered TERFs who believe me to “actually be a man” “pretending to be a woman” or gay men who think I am a trans man. I have no sympathy for rudeness, for exclusion, for a breech of simple decorum. I have been called every name in the book, and all because of the inaccurate perceptions of others. I find such behaviors disgusting and truly on e of the vilest attributes of humanity.

If you cannot accept trans women as being women, albeit women to whom you aren’t attracted, then I have very little respect for you as a person. In fact, I’m fairly certain I’ve learned all I need to know about you. So unless you’re willing to rethink that position, you can see your way off my blog.

We accept people in my little corner. In fact, acceptance is the entire purpose of this blog.

I might also mention that expanding your notion of “woman” does not in any way detract from your own femininity. Including trans women doesn’t make you less female, in the same way that including gay marriage in the definition of marriage in no way detracts from the sanctity of the act. These are merely excuses to denounce others.