One thing I hate when articles praise disabled people for doing stuff that is expected of able-bodied/neurotypical people is when they use language like, “They were different but their parents loved them as much as they loved their other kids!”
Like, that stuff is dehumanising! It’s not something that should be mentioned and praised in an article, it’s something that should be expected of a parent!
The “friend zone” and unrequited love are not the same thing. Unrequited love is, “I love you, you don’t love me in that same way, I am sad about that.” The “friend zone” is, “I love you, you don’t love me in that same way, you have therefore wronged me.”
Unrequited love is, “My unilateral crush is my problem.” The “friend zone” is, “My unilateral crush is your problem.”
labradoodles are nice and all but combining the food obsession of a lab with the intelligence of a poodle creates the ultimate stealth unit whose sole mission in life is to get into the pantry and Eliminate All Bread
I’m detecting multiple stories behind this post
Honestly though having been a professional dog trainer (until permanent disability overtook my ability to fucking stand for long periods) this is basically the truth. It’s like…. beagle + boxer is the other disaster mix tbh because you get the single greatest wandering dog of all time. You will never contain this dog, you will probably not be able to RECALL this dog, and it will never consider property boundaries a meaningful concept. But he’ll be happy to eat your sandwich for you.
A professor of evolutionary biology at the University of Arizona, Alexander Badyaev
also happens to be an award-winning nature photographer.
Inspired by
both passions, perhaps, his curiosity was piqued by the fawn and rabbit
skeletons he would often find perched on the branches of ironwood trees
outside his home in the desert near Tucson, Arizona. “Once I discovered
that these trees are social centers of gray fox activity, I got hooked
on observing these animals and learning their biology,” he says.
As explained in the California Academy of Sciences’ magazine, bioGraphic,
the curious species first evolved more than seven million years ago in
the lush tropical forests that once enveloped the area that is now the
American Southwest. “Since that time,” notes bioGraphic, “this
anatomically distinct fox has accumulated an impressive array of
un-fox-like adaptations for life in the canopy, including primate-like
flexible wrists and cat-like paws with long, curved claws that allow it
to grip tree branches…”
not to be old and out of touch but i saw a bunch of teenage kids using the word wavy to describe something cool and i genuinely have no idea what that’s about
LISTEN.
I am twenty-eight god damn years old. I am going to be thirty next year. I have no idea what these kids are on about anymore. I’ve become Old™️; I don’t understand the lingo anymore. I have peaked in my lingo and internet usage. The last thing I learned was “AF” and I don’t think people even use it anymore.
Humpback whales are known for their haunting songs, which are complex sequences of moans, howls and cries that often continue for hours, according to National Geographic. Only male whales sing, so scientists think they are trying to attract potential mates.
A male may sing for hours, repeating the song several times. All males in a population sing the same song, but the songs of each population are different. For example, whales in the North Atlantic sing one song, while whales in the North Pacific sing another song, according to the NOAA. Songs gradually change from year to year.
Songs can be heard 20 miles (30 km) away, according to the NOAA.
Olmec culture (Veracruz, Mexico), Middle Formative period, 900–600 B.C.
22 cm (8 ½ in.) high
This is one of the finest Olmec masks in a public collection. The
naturalistic features of this masterpiece recall monumental Olmec stone
heads rendering historical individuals. Perhaps the portrait of a ruler,
this may have been a symbol of state authority or a funerary item. The
mask originally was green; the gray color was caused by its being put
into a fire, as part of a religious ritual. Similar masks have been found in a freshwater spring in western Tabasco state, where presumably they were left as offerings.
all the highly empathetic people i know in my life have had abusive home lives and that’s because we were trained to read a situation at any given moment in our homes and learn how to react within seconds because if we didn’t and said or did the wrong thing, we’d get fucked up and beat and hurt
but like subconsciously always reading the mood of any atmosphere or space you’re in, always being able to gauge how people feel, it’s not a fucking gift, it’s exhausting. you can’t turn it off, even if you want to. you read the situation and if it’s negative, you freak out because if someone’s angry at you, it’s the end of the world
like we’ve internalized the scars from our childhood when an adult being mad at you was the worst thing ever and it’s carried with us into adulthood. it’s hard to unlearn all that.
so like a lot of us have mental health or anxiety issues because we also start internalizing all the energy from people, be it positive or negative, and so anxiety-inducing and frustrating to the point of tears
…..I had no idea this counted as hypervigilance. no idea what so ever.
#thanks Youre welcome. I’m writing out all the shit I learnt from the cptsd specialists when I was in the hospital because so much of it was brand new information for me, (and i consider myselr fairly well educated on my illness) and even being there for only three weeks gave me enough info to completely change how im viewing my plans in terms of treatment and recovery.
I figure it will also be extremely relevant to a lot of my friends on here, but it’s going to take me a while to sort it all and write it out in a readable way. But I’m working on it.
this is so fucking helpful for me
the symptoms of ptsd (and cptsd) are so poorly known by the general public tbh, as is the cause. Friendly reminder:
And child abuse is chronically under-reported. I didn’t know until I left my family that anything was unusual about my upbringing, and was diagnosed with PTSD this year from it.
also, that
you freak out because if someone’s angry at you, it’s the end of the world
like we’ve internalized the scars from our childhood when an adult being mad at you was the worst thing ever and it’s carried with us into adulthood
This is a type of flashback. What’s known as an emotional flashback. People think flashbacks have to be sensory hallucinations, when in fact in C-PTSD (that is, PTSD from chronic mistreatment, like child abuse) it’s more commong for flashbacks as a symptom to manifest as emotionally responding to a situation as if you’re “back there”. You sense your friend is mildly displease with you and you get a strong fear response, despite the fact that your friend hadn’t and wouldn’t be hurtful towards you for it? That’s your body using that maladaptive schema it developed from when you were in abuse!environment to try to protect you from what it learned was a dangerous situation. It too is absolutely a symptom of PTSD.
This is why confrontation is so difficult for survivors sometimes. Reactions to people who have reasonable/mild disagreement can FEEL like a serious threat, so you can be compelled to respond with appeasment, strong defensivness, shutting down, basically your go-to survival response.
It’s a hard thing to train yourself out of, but if you have this kinda symptom you can mitigate the effects by actively recognizing when it’s happening (this is the hardest part imo), then taking a step back to assess the reality of the situation. Is this person’s emotions your responsibility? What is the likely outcome of this conflict? How mad is this person actually? Are they even mad at you?
It can also help to have a plan for people you interact with a lot, like a partner or best friend. For instance, you sense someone is angry and it feels like dangers, talk about asking how angry they are outside of a conflict, maybe like a number scale. “I’m senseing you upset. What’s your number? What’s going on?” “Oh, pfft I’m just a two cos my amazong package didn’t get delivered on time today.”
You can learn how serious a vibe is and what it’s actually directed at by asking, and it can help mitigate that constant impulse to ask if someone is mad at you.
Also, if you have access, I strongly rec a good therapist to help you reasses how much responsibility you should claim in other people’s feelings. Maladaptive schemas can make you feel like you’re responsible for other people’s happiness, to the point where you can start to micromanage and become codependent. It can even feel like you’re doing a good thing. It’s not. Pls learn how to take care of yourself folks
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