Times Are Tough, I Sing For My… Oven?


As most of you know, our family is comprised of disabled queer artists. I’ve been working my ass off on building our business since our corporate jobs went belly-up last year, and we’ve been paddling furiously, keeping our noses above water.

Right now we’ve run into a Situation we can’t handle on our own, though: our stove/oven, which was old when we moved in ten years ago, just went belly-up. We have one working burner and I’m not confident about that one lasting much longer. 

Since I have celiac, ordering out or eating microwaveable food is not financially feasible: I need to be able to cook for myself. So. If you like what I do, please consider:

Supporting me on Patreon! $1 gets you instant access to multiple chapters of multiple queer fictions, a bunch of short stories, some queer theory related rambling, and more.

Buying me a coffee! I like coffee.

Donating to my PayPal. I pay bills with this money and use it to get to doctor’s appointments and buy supplies.

Buying something from my Etsy. It’s full of amazing queer things! 

In support of this, all of our digitally-printed items on the shop – shirts, leggings, and the brand new Doctor Who shoes – are 30% off until April 25th!

Or just boosting this post. Thanks, friends. ❤

“Is it normal?” The binding edition




  • Getting winded after walking quickly/upstairs with binder on, but able to catch breath
  • Chafing in the underarm areas
  • Soreness (during or after) in arms, shoulders, or back
  • Increased acne on chest or back
  • Mild anxiety about tightness
  • Chest sagging

No, take it off and rest, see a doctor if problem gets worse or doesn’t go away after taking the binder off (or after one week):

  • Nausea during or after binding, including nausea caused by pain
  • Bruising
  • Out of breath/can’t catch breath when not wearing binder
  • Skin rash
  • Sharp pains in ribs
  • Not able to cough or sneeze
  • Numbness in arms
  • Feeling too tired/sore to do everyday activities
  • Suddenly having any of the above symptoms even if you’ve been binding for years 

No, see a doctor ASAP, could be a sign of serious injury:

  • Anything from the above category if you can just tell/feel something is wrong, better safe than sorry
  • Extreme claustrophobia/panic attacks 
  • Sharp pain in chest/heart skipping beats or beating very fast
  • Not able to breathe  
  • Dizziness
  • Blueness in lips or fingertips
  • Change in shape of ribcage
  • Fainting

good stuff to know if you wear a binder, especially if you’re new to it. this is way more informative than the basic “don’t wear it for more than 8 hours uwu!!!111!!” – although that is also good advice. sometimes the time you keep it on will vary because of your schedule, and you don’t have to panic if that’s the case. just pay attention your body, know what’s safe, and crack your poor back as often as you can.


William Henry Walker (1871-1938), ‘The Milliner’s Nightmare’, “Life”, Vol. 28, #718, Oct. 1, 1896


“…millinery is the design, manufacture and sale of hats and head-ware. A person engaged in this trade is called a milliner or hatter.

Millinery is sold to women, men and children, though some definitions limit the term to women’s hats. Historically, milliners, typically female shopkeepers, produced or imported an inventory of garments for men, women, and children, including hats, shirts, cloaks, shifts, caps, neckerchiefs, and undergarments, and sold these garments in their millinery shop.” (Source)





Haha 😂

I mean I guess on some level, if my problems kill me- they cease to be my problems.

you’d be surprised at how much of a relief it is to think like that.

you’d be surprised at

how much of a relief it

is to think like that

^Haiku^bot^9. I detect haikus with 5-7-5 format. Sometimes I make mistakes.

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“Since moving to the US, I cannot shake the envy of the coming-out narrative. Coming out here is hard, heartbreaking, too often dangerous, and requires great courage; but it is a thing. It is a story. You get to hear it. “How I came out.” There are queer people in the media, even if those are negative portrayals. There are books, role models – not enough, but they exist here and there. There are words. Of course, the US is not uniform and not everyone had the same experience; so much depends on location, ethnicity/race, class, the parameters of one’s queer identity. But I don’t think these gradations existed in the Soviet Union.* There was no “coming out narrative”.
Coming out was not a possibility for me, not even because of the price to pay, but because, growing up in the Soviet Union, I didn’t know what I was. I had no points of reference.
No books, no TV personas (negative or positive), no movies, no newspapers. NO WORDS. I had no WORDS in which to describe myself, I had no LANGUAGE to help me understand who I was.”

RoseLemberg.net » No Coming out Narrative, or Growing up Queer in the Soviet Union.