I’ve been holding off on posting this before I had more info on solutions but so y’all know: my car broke down on the way to work today and it’s in the shop for diagnosis but it’s looking like it’s a broken transmission, which idk if you know anything about cars, but in many cases it’s easier to just get a fucking new car than pay to fix that.
My work is about 1hr bus ride away there and back and since I’m most likely gonna have to sell my car for scrap idk what the fuck I’m gonna do. Everything sucks so fucking much and I wish I could just catch a fucking break.
What a way to start pride month huh?
I’m not gonna set up an official fundraiser until I know exactly how much the repairs will be or what the cost to get a new car would be, but if you wanna help a trans lesbian bitch out here’s my paypal: http://www.paypal.me/TweelilLass
Ya’ll please please please help my gf out, she could really use the support
Given names in Korean are almost always two syllables, with the first syllable usually being shared with your siblings and cousins (all the children of the same generation of a family, basically). I just grew up with this and didn’t think it was weird until I had cause to explain it to someone yesterday, at which point I stopped and wondered if I was making all of this up, it seemed so weird, how the heck do they coordinate that? Do the parents of the first kid of the new generation decide, or something? That doesn’t sound right. I looked it up, and it turns out that family lines keep a constant character array in a poem:
The sequence of generation is typically prescribed and kept in record by a generation poem (bāncì lián 班次聯 or pàizì gē 派字歌 in Chinese) specific to each lineage. While it may have a mnemonic function, these poems can vary in length from around a dozen characters to hundreds of characters. Each successive character becomes the generation name for successive generations.[1] After the last character of the poem is reached, the poem is usually recycled though occasionally it may be extended.
Generation poems were usually composed by a committee of family elders whenever a new lineage was established through geographical emigration or social elevation. Thus families sharing a common generation poem are considered to also share a common ancestor and have originated from a common geographical location.
Which is mindblowingly cool, I think.
Interesting! I just noticed this name trend in my own family a few months back, and asked my parents about it. I don’t know much on this topic or whether this is the same thing you’re talking about it, actually, but assuming it is, I think it’s referred to as dolimja (돌림자 or 항렬자) in Korea, with a whole complicated system that I still have a hard time understanding.
According to my parents: The syllable in question is decided on a wheel-like pattern based on the five elements: water, (which grows…) wood/trees, (burned by…) fire, (which produces ash, or…) earth, (which melts to form) gold/metal, (which— my dad laughed as he said this— can be squeezed to form) water again, and so on. It alternates every generation, and so the syllable is a variant of/related to the said element next in that pattern for that generation. I pointed out that for our family (both sides), it’s the second and not first syllable of the given name which is shared. Apparently, that also alternates on some sort of pattern. My father says the shared-syllable-across-a-generation trend is for male family members only (I observed this in my own generation— my brother and two male cousins have a shared syllable; my female cousin and I do not). However, my mother disagreed and said that while it was mainly male family members, her family had it going for female members too, at one point. Up to family, I guess, though I’m sure it’s a patriarchal thing.
According to my meager research: Determining the syllable(s) can be done in multiple ways! Something about brushstrokes… it’s complicated and I don’t understand most of it myself, haha. And though most families continue to have naming rules like this, a few new generations nowadays don’t always hold to them and name kids however they please.
The commentator narrating the pup’s moves with the ball is AMAZING and I’m crying
“(…) right, but he decides to kick the ball. He gets close, and who grabs it? The Friend(dog)! Yes! A pup got into the field. He’s tied to it. He puts it under his paws and shows what football was missing in the Gasometro (field’s name). The [team]’s men want to grab him, but they cant! The Friend has his eyes on the ball. He runs to find it again. Yes! He bites! He kneads! He wants it close! He gets lost, he’s so happy! Castro (player) wants to kick his Corner but he can’t. He tells the pup “enough, enough, go over there”… however *commentator laughs*, there’s the pup! When he puts it on the floor, [the dog] goes again for the ball. And of course, as any skilled man, wants it all for himself. A bit of an over-eater, this pup. And he clearly has shown conditions / talent. [The team] found the way to the goal thanks to the Pichicho’s (little dog) essential input…. who, of course, as any protagonist had his place at [the tv show].“
*camera switches to interview where dog barks and mounches on the reporter’s mic (who allows him do it)*
I’ve been watching Argentinean football all my life and I can confirm this is the best to ever happen on a match.
What? I know! I did the research and I found that I was ethically able to order these swimsuits. They’re the only all-over printed items I carry which aren’t printed in the United States, but I talked with the manufacturer for a while to assure that I wasn’t supporting sweatshop labor. So! I’m able to (as ethically as I can) offer these kick-ass suits! And the best part?
FREE SHIPPING (YES, EVEN INTERNATIONALLY) FOR THE WHOLE MONTH OF JUNE! FREE. $0.00! YES, REALLY!
Hey, do you have swim trunks?
No, not yet! But I’m working on that. I’m in communication with my printing company. I know! You want them! I want them too! As soon as I get them, they will be posted SUPER FAST.
What about [insert flag here]? How come you didn’t post that?
I posted the flags which most commonly sell in my pride flag items. But have no fear! If you’d like to purchase your flag on a swimsuit and I don’t have it posted, contact me and I’ll be happy to make sure that you can purchase it ASAP! As a poverty-line artist, I can’t afford to put up every variation of every flag – it actively costs me money to keep open listings that don’t sell, so I handle less-frequently-ordered flags on a per-request basis. That way everyone can get the suits they want and I can afford to pay my mortgage.
I need it by [time], can you rush shipping if I pay for it?
No. 😦 I don’t have control over that. The average print time is 2-3 days at my print provider & shipping is 5-10 days after that since they’re coming from overseas. I cannot guarantee an arrival date, so order quick if you want them by a certain date!
Okay, awesome! Where can I buy these suits?
You can get them on NerdyKeppie, along with a bunch of other bomb-ass stuff.
(Please note that free shipping ONLY applies to the suits – if you pick up other stuff, and it would be rad if you did, you’ll be charged for shipping for the additional items only.)
Reblogging for the afternoon crowd!
I went here and there isn’t a single piece of swimwear that represents the lesbian flag but I dunno what I expected from a shop that calls their clothing “queerwear”
lesbians: hey could y’all try to remember us when making merch? we have our own flag and we’d like to see it on pins, shirts, etc. it’s not the rainbow one, we want the one that’s specifically for lesbians. we have money saved cuz we never get to spend it on these things that never get made
OP: i can’t afford to keep listings open that don’t sell so i’m gonna skip the lesbian flag and y’all can share with the gay men. that’s cool right?
lesbians: *crying, slowly fading away like Marty McFly*
That is so disingenuous. The OP literally said “Hey, if you want a different flag just contact me.” You literally just have to contact them. Just like anyone else who is part of a group that doesn’t sell often enough.
But go ahead. Act like the fact they haven’t gotten enough business for lesbian flag items to regularly carry them (something mentioned on another post) is a personal attack, when they still make and sell those items when asked to.
yeah i neglected to check for that and you’re right, they did cover that in another post, so i retract my complaint. i was going to argue your use of ‘disingenuous’ to describe my actions, since i wasn’t trying to be deceitful, but that’s just a cop-out. i got all self-righteous bc i kept hearing this was a common problem regarding lesbian pride merch and knee-jerk reacted, but by the same token, it’s a common problem for people to shoot their mouth off like i did and then feign ignorance like that excuses anything, so i can see where you’re coming from.
thank you for pointing this out to me, and for doing so without being a tumblr asshole. i’ll apologize to vaspider and hope they accept
I should also apologize for the passive aggressive way I went about mentioning this. I shouldn’t have assumed that you were intentionally making a false statement, because while that’s a rampant problem, everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt.
Thank you for responding maturely the way you did, despite my initial tone.
This is Wholesome. Also, I can attest to @vaspider ’s flexibility in making custom orders. Our baby has a grey onesie they made with “they/them” printed on it, and THERE AREN’T EVEN ONESIES IN THEIR ETSY SHOP.
Thank you. It was my pleasure to make that for your tiny bebe. WHO ISN’T SO TINY ANYMORE.
And y’all seriously it gets so exhausting to see this. Most recent tags from @9ovae who just happened to be the most recent person to put up tags like this when I was answering this post:
Like, maybe just… read? The notes on the post? This gets so tiring, and it is only coming from one group, who also consistently are not buying stuff with that particular flag on it in my shop. If someone wants a pan flag they don’t yell at me, they ask, and I make it. If someone wants an agender flag they don’t yell at me. If someone wants a bear flag on something they don’t yell at me or do that nonsense. They just ask. I’m so tired of people snarking at me for not having this stuff up… and then never asking… and when I did have it up in so many shirt designs and was yelling about it for NINE MONTHS, NO ONE BOUGHT IT.
How many times do I have to say ‘buy it often enough and I’ll make it part of the default’ before people read it in the notes? I can’t just pay for listings that never sell. 😦
Okay. Good talk. I’m gonna post up that butch lesbian suit that was asked for, tomorrow after sundown, now that I have the image link for the exact flag that was being asked for.
Don’t be entitled and obnoxious to creators. Unless you’re commissioning work from them that you have paid for and both agreed on, they actually aren’t required to cater to your wants and needs at all. Rather than getting upset about that, how about you create the things you want to see, or commission someone else to create them for you?
And now they’re attacking my identity, like clockwork.
It’s predictable. It’s so predictable that I even put a section in the original post saying what to do if you wanted something in your flag and didn’t see it, which I will straight up admit was specifically intended to stop that whole ‘where’s the lesbian flag’ in its tracks before it started, where ppl could either buy stuff or stop harassing creators. But of course it didn’t.
Aight. I am getting ‘honey, stop, I know you’re upset, please come watch Drunk History with me’ from @dadhoc.
@vaspider dude i get thats it’s really hard to make so many pride flags for so much clothing, but perhaps, and this is just a thought, if u advertised products with the lesbian flag,,, lesbians would buy them more literally there are millions of posts Made By Lesbians about how if ppl showcased that their pride article was Available in Lesbian Flag Colors THEY WOULD BUY MORE
My market research and experience trumps your wishful thinking and attempts to shame me, friend.
No, they won’t. I had literally HUNDREDS of lesbian pride flag items available for NINE MONTHS, as I said in the post you were responding to, and you know how many lesbian pride items I have EVER sold?
3.
1 patch (I am still in the negative for the thread costs) and 2 shirts.
Three. In nine months since I started selling shirts and 17 months total on Etsy. I ended up giving away the lesbian pride kippah I made and delisting it bc no one bought it in 16 months of shows and being listed.
I am still literally in the negative on lesbian pride flag items. I have lost money. I have not made money. Thousands of lesbians have not come out of the woodwork to buy that stuff. They have, however, bought the rainbow flag stuff, as evidenced above by the SAME SHIRT referencing a canon lesbian character, in both the lesbian and rainbow pride flags, which was up on my shop for months and months and months.
I could pull the lesbian vs rainbow pride versions of ANY shirt and it would look the same, even ones like ‘the moon is my girlfriend.’ The only version of that I ever sold was a custom one where someone requested the bisexual pride flag.
You could have found all of this on my Tumblr, btw, had you spent like 3 minutes looking for it, because I have written a lot about the fact that I am a poverty line disabled artist with a teenager to support and I can’t afford to just post things that do not sell.
And as I have shown in this once again posted essay, they don’t fucking sell. This is why they are custom request items.
Oh, and the first line on every single one of my t-shirt and swimsuit listings?
** If you don’t see your flag or would like a different shirt cut, tank top, etc., MESSAGE US and we’ll add it for you!**
And if you ask anyone who has ever ordered a custom item from my shop, I do it fast, and I will absolutely add it if you want to buy it.
Sourcing fleece in six shades of pink and white that is the right colors and weights isn’t easy. Sourcing embroidery thread in the right colors isn’t easy or cheap. Sourcing candle wax in six colors of pink and white that is the right colors and right kind of wax so it can all be made into a candle isn’t easy or cheap either. And even on the shirts where the main cost to me is time (I charge $25+ an hour for graphic design, and I’m pretty cheap in that regard) and the cost of listings, that’s still a cost. I could be writing something for my Patreon or working on my freelance writing assignments or whatever… and the listings still cost me.
So, yeah, I am not spending money on listings every three months to keep things open that don’t sell in the hooooopes that someone will buy them, just so people can go ‘gasp, lesbian rep’ and then not ever fucking buy the thing, or, alternately, leave shitty comments in the tags on my post like you did. And don’t pretend like the goal wasn’t to make me feel bad. It was! And if you’d read the part of the post I tagged you on, even, you’d see you’re not even the first person to behave like this today.
You are just the latest in a long line of people today to display this behavior, and it is a very specific subgroup of people who behave like this, so maybe like… maybe the problem isn’t me, or the multiple other creators who have gotten this kind of reaction and treatment when they post Pride stuff? Maybe the problem is people being assholes when they don’t actually intend to buy the stuff? Because if you intended to buy the stuff, you would have said ‘hey, when is this gonna be posted ‘cause I wanna buy it,’ like the person who actually asked me and thus I will be posting the butch lesbian flag in a vintage style suit for them tomorrow night once Shabbat ends.
Just a thought, maybe the problem isn’t the creators. Maybe there’s a subset of our community that has real bad behavior and needs to assess how they treat creators.
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