Jose Nunez, a sheriff’s deputy, is being held on a felony charge of “super aggravated sexual assault” for violating a 4-year-old girl, who is related to him. Authorities said he threatened the child’s mother, an undocumented immigrant from Guatemala, with deportation if she reported him.
At a news conference on Monday, Bexar County Sheriff Javier Salazar said Nunez, 47, a detention officer with the Bexar County Sheriff’s Office in South Texas, was off-duty when he was arrested on Sunday after the mother took her daughter to a local fire station for help.
“The details of the case are, quite frankly, heartbreaking, disturbing, disgusting and infuriating all at the same time,” Salazar said.
PAY ATTENTION! This is how you weed out the men who deserve your time and the ones that don’t. These dudes are literally telling you who they are, but y’all refuse to listen. Your safety comes first.
I’m in a FB group where dudes 30 and older were having full tantrums over this post. These are the same guys that admit:
Not deleting nudes post break up
Not believing when women that were sexually assaulted
Not believing sex with a partner that is sleeping is rape
Etc.
Please do not date people that take issue with your protecting yourself.
That woman prolly saved her life the only reason u would be that uncomfortable with if you were planning to do something bad. Ive personally asked for a guys license and took his pic and sent it to like 3 people and he didnt have a problem with it only date men who dont have a problem with it
I had a girlfriend text me a guy’s picture and contact info before their first face to face date. When she told him about it, he said, “What a smart woman! I like her already!” That is an appropriate reaction to the situation.
Yeah i even followed the link to their explanation and im still really not getting it like… If some people wanna use mlm or wlw thats their choice. There’s about 10 billion posts all over tumblr using every single term for anything under the Sun, if you want something different go get it. Untill there is a LGBT+ grand council to tell us what the One True Terminology is then its up to the individual to decide what they like best.
You know whats REALLY exhausting? Infighting over nothing.
i’m not real interested in replying at length, because you don’t sound all that interested in listening, but tl;dr: bisexual men & women desire men *and* women. in theory, WLW/MLM should include bi men & women. in practice, as in this post, it doesn’t. and in that post specifically, it basically takes a giant shit all over m-spec/bi+ folks and says “lol ur basically straight”.
make more sense now? or you wanna keep sticking ur fingers in ur ears?
Theres no way you would know this, but your not the first bisexual whose opinion on this particular post (or these terms) that I’ve heard. There are actually many bisexuals in my life, and many more online, whose opinions ive heard on this issue. So please dont assume I’m simply plugging my ears to bisexual voices.
A lot of them actually do use these terms, because they happen to like them. You do not. Thats fine. Thats the thing about the multitude of labels; not everyone is going to click with them. I personally use lesbian for myself, but thats mostly for ease of explanation. Like everyone else, my sexuality can be complicated and I use what terms i feel best suit me for the time being. Its useless and counter productive to get mad about any specific term simply because you feel it doesnt suit you. This post really does not exclude bisexuals, nor do the terms somehow imply they are “basically straight”. You are maby the first person Ive seen pull that from this post. But thats okay! Your life is shaped to your experiences so, if you choose not to identify with these terms dont use them. But dont throw shade at them, because others DO like these terms and find use for them.
Tl:dr: labels and terminology are going to vary from person to person because sexuality is complex and multifaceted and going around saying “this label exhausts me” just because you dont personally use it is actually pretty rude, please reconsider.
I am not even gonna bother tryna talk with you because you’re obviously pretty set, and set on being pretty damn patronizing about it, but just replying to let you know: nah, you’re wrong, you obviously are not understanding the actual issue here, and the words we use as identifying labels matter more than just “what sounds nice” or “clicks”.
Nice dismissal of someone’s emotional experience with your little “don’t show me your pain, it’s rude”, at the end there, though. 🙂
‘The only queer part of a bi/pan person’s experience is the part that looks just like a gay experience.’
That’s all that original post and 90% of wlw/mlm posts ever say.
Well, they say this too:
“We’re only interested in relecting cisgender people.”
If we could stop trying to annex the identities of other queer people to serve our own gay interests, that would be super awesome.
^^^ What Dawn said.
Also, suppose we, as bi people, do fall into the “wlw” or “mlm” categories (nvm that they tend to… not be inclusive of nb people). Nine times out of ten posts like the one in the screencap tend to… shit all over men. And “why are men Like That” and a myriad other things and turns of phrase that essentially come down to “ew boys why would you like those”
It… you’re essentially telling us that the only valid part of us is the part that is attracted to the same gender, while completely invalidating the fact that we do, in fact, like the opposite gender. And, worse, telling us that the opposite gender is gross and we have no reason to like them and, by association, we are gross and should be ashamed for liking the opposite gender.
Y’all…. I like men and women. I am dating a wonderful and amazing man. Do you have any idea how tiring it gets to see people who should be supportive of you shitting all over your relationships and experiences because “you’re basically straight”?
The answer is very.
so i’ll admit it took me awhile to understand what the problem was with a post that i thought was p funny but it finally clicked and is super obvious now lmao
(problem in super-clear language for those still brain-farting like i was: the screencapped post basically says that “wlw don’t like men (because they’re “like that” aka gross)”, but “wlw” does not in fact mean “lesbian”, it means lesbians and bisexual women, and bisexual women sure as heck do like men, so the usage of “wlw” in that post is inaccurate at best, and otherwise, well, what the posters above me said)
although, i disagree that it entirely “shits all over m-spec folk” bc the (actually accurately used) mlm slant is “how can we be expected not to like boys when they’re “like that” aka hot as hell”
or at least that’s how i interpreted it?
sorry if i’m still missing a bit tho x.x
m-spec as in multisexual spectrum, not masc!does that help? if… that was the problem. other than that, yeah, you got it! (mlm still has the exact same problems in common usage, and in that post, as wlw tho. it’s still just working as a synonym for gay.)
thanks for your clarifying explanation for others tho! i’ve been super aggravated by the acronyms for ages, and i’m well aware the saltiness of my OP is a bit obscure for anyone not tuned in to the same wavelength.
worst of it is, the post wld be pretty cute and funny…. if it just said gay & lesbian instead.
oh yes i was reading m-spec as masc-spec lol thanks
i don’t feel that the post excludes bi men though, bc it’s not saying they’re not attracted to women as well, just that they’re not limited to women bc men are (also) hot? that’s how i’m reading it at least
and yeah i can 100% understand your fatigue lol
Yeah, you’re giving it the pretty charitable reading. After seeing so much usage of MLM to mean gay, I’m pretty unwilling to be so generous, lol. It could be read as you are reading It, or it could be seen as just reinforcing the idea of “why be (attracted to women) when men are Like That”.
I think kids on the internet these days–and by “kids” I mean anyone under 18 honestly–need to be re-taught about internet safety and keeping your personal life away from your internet life, for safety reasons. I’ve been noticing this a lot lately, but I’ve found that the younger generations just never learned about Internet safety and keeping your personal information… well, personal.
Listen. I am a 90s kid in my late 20s. Yes, I do list my age on my description, because I feel comfortable doing so. But lately, there’s been an alarming trend where you, the younger generations, expect us to cater to all of your needs and keep you safe. And more, even.
The internet is a big, scary place. People my age and older, and some a little younger, grew up with the internet. We grew up with the dial-up noise and “get off the internet so I can use the phone!” and being limited in the way we interacted with the internet because it was expensive and strange and modems were not a thing. We also grew up with massive internet safety campaigns and worried parents scared of the unknown. Scared of the predator on the other side of the screen. It was normal for parents to be worried and assume predator until proven otherwise.
As such, everyone in my generation and older grew up with a massive internet safety awareness. Don’t give out your personal information, don’t tell them where you live, your name, your age, where you study or what. Say nothing. Share nothing. Most of us have created for ourselves internet personas, much in the way that I am Saku on the internet but someone else in real life.
Yes, the line has blurred somewhat, and over time people have lost the alarm and concern that the internet caused in them. But most of us still remember what it was like back then. Most of us remember the safety rules, remember the techniques and tactics to tell if someone was or wasn’t telling the truth, remember the golden rule about not sharing personal information on the internet.
Because the internet back then was a big, scary place. And the internet now? It still is a big, scary place. It’s just more…. normal. More a part of our everyday lives that we all just sort of take for granted.
What you kids are missing now is that we, as the older generations on the internet, the generations that grew up with the internet, still remember what it was like back then. And we still abide by our internet safety rules.
You all may think that sharing your age on the internet is not a big deal, but it is. Whatever you post on the internet can be used against you, regardless of how “safe” you feel. And one way or another, we are not responsible for you or your internet experiences. We protected ourselves back then, we policed and monitored our own internet content and use, and so should you.
The internet is not yours, it’s all of ours. And we got here first, way before you were even born, in some cases. I’ve been on the internet since I was 9, and that’s well over a decade and a half ago. If anything, fandom spaces are made up primarily of adults. Who do you think writes the good content that you consume? Who do you think produces the best art and the best fics? Who do you think writes the well-written, hot, sexy smut you shouldn’t be reading at 3 in the morning?
When we got here, we all assumed that everyone was older than us on the internet. For some reason that’s changed, and now people assume that everyone’s younger, or their age. But we’re all still here. We’ve been here for the past 15, 20 years. Even longer.
There is nothing wrong with us. We don’t owe you anything. You make your own safety on the internet, and you are the one responsible for making sure you’re safe. That’s not on us, it’s on you.
If you’re uncomfortable talking to an adult on the internet, then you’re more than welcome to unfollow, or block, or whatever. But it’s not our responsibility that you do so. If you want to know something, ask.
Most importantly, we’re not all predators. Don’t shame or fault us for existing on the Internet. We were here before you, and we enjoy things just as you do. They aren’t yours, you don’t own them any more than we do. And we have a right to be here too, without having to bend over backwards for you just for existing.
I was expect in this days and ages when people being doxxed frequently should teach those kid some restraint when it comes to posting personal information online, but I guess not. Bonus, not every one gonna be honest; in fact, it’s best to think that everyone capable to lie to you in default. The Steven Universe incident, for example. I was lucky to pry some info about one of harasser that got visited by the police from the caller, and hell, that dude is a freak in his late 20s, but lied that he was 16 so he could harass Zamii (I suspect other people as well) and use “but I’m a minor!” as a defense tactic.
To be totally honest I still firmly abide by the internet safety rules I learned young. My internet persona has several layers to it. I am wary of quizzes and games that can give away identifying information. I keep separate spaces for those who knew me irl first. If I’ve told you my actual name, take that as the highest form of praise possible, because it means that I trust you completely.
Please enjoy and explore, make friends and connections, but be safe.
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