sex is not supposed to be about what you can tolerate!!!!! sex is supposed to be about what you genuinely want and enjoy!!!!! and if you’re traumatized and/or not straight, believe me, I know it’s not that simple to figure out what it is that you actually want and enjoy.
you’re not a bad person if you do something that you don’t particularly enjoy because, for example, it makes your partner happy, but always remember: you have no obligation to engage in sexual activities that you don’t fully like and enjoy.
and you don’t ever, ever need to justify that – if your partner has an issue with “It makes me kind of uncomfortable” or “I don’t really like it”, then that person does not deserve a moment of your time, in or outside of the bedroom. you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone; you don’t have to meet anyone’s standards of acceptable vs. unacceptable activity (or lack thereof); you don’t have to force yourself to be comfortable with something because of any perceived political connotations of performing or refusing that act.
saying yes because you feel guilty about saying no is not consent. saying yes because you’re scared of what will happen if you say no is not consent. saying yes because you figure you might as well just endure it is not consent. sex ed on here and elsewhere doesn’t give a single shit about traumatized people and I wish someone had told me all of this a lot sooner.
when i was 8 i drew this comic about two girls kissing and my mom was out raged and i thought it was because my art wasn’t good enough so i kept trying to draw girls kissing and she sent me to therapy and my therapist tried explaining homosexuality to me and i didn’t even know what that had to do with my art skills
The key to getting over imposter syndrome is to know everyone else is an imposter too. Tell yourself you deserve a stake in the scam they’re all running.
@natalunasans – You’ve got that right, and sympathies 😩
Totally understandable. I wouldn’t necessarily expect other people to notice the cribbing, anyway, unless they saw those posts very close together. It did mostly stick in my mind because, like I said, I hunted down the source and pasted in the text rather than trying to transcribe it. My brain is pretty good at seizing onto phrasing, to begin with, though with plenty of lapses sometimes too 🙄
(I also didn’t mean to come across as passive-aggressive at anyone, BTW, much less people who had no idea. Just didn’t want to add anything directly on to that post, with zero spoons right now to deal with any attempts at harassment.)
Terry Crews said he was threatened with retaliation for speaking out about a sexual assault by a Hollywood agent, saying the producer of The Expendables 4 warned of vague “troubles” unless he withdraws his civil suit.
In testimony this morning before the Senate Judiciary Committee, Crews said Expendables producer Avi Lerner called his manager and asked that the actor to drop his case against Adam Venit in order to appear in the fourth installment of the action film.
Asked By Sen. Amy Klobuchar asked Crews if he has a role in the sequel.
“No. Simply because this same producer is under his own … investigation,” said Crews. “Abusers protect abusers — and this is one thing I had to decide, whether I was going to draw the line on. Am I going to be a part of this or am I gonna take a stand, and there are projects I had to turn down.”
Crews was one of three people called to testify at a hearing about the
Sexual Assault Survivors’ Bill of Rights, which provides new rights for
victims of sexual violence in the federal criminal code. The committee
was reviewing the implementation of that law, which was enacted two
years ago.
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