novafuzzcheeks:

pervocracy:

While I’m at it, I’m really not happy with the way Tumblr is restoring “the innocence of youth” culture to 1990s-purity-ring levels.

It’s somehow transmuted a few good principles–adults shouldn’t have sex with underage people, underage people shouldn’t take part in porn, very young children shouldn’t be exposed to explicit sexuality–into bullshit like:

– All fiction involving underage sexuality, even non-sensationalized written descriptions of the kind of sexual relationships teenagers often have with each other, is child porn

– Sex education that talks about dealing with STIs and pregnancy and rape is okay, but teaching teenagers about sexual pleasure is gross and anyone who does it is probably a pedophile

– People under 18 all find sexuality frightening or offputting and don’t want to be exposed to it (I’m sure some feel that way, but if you think this is a universal or majority thing, wow, you must’ve gone to a very different high school than I did)

– Even acknowledging the existence of underage sexuality is suspicious, why would you be talking about this if you weren’t some kind of pedophile

It’s tough to talk about this because it immediately puts you in the company of people who really are being creepy about it, but I think it’s important to push back against these things.  Young people have sexualities, they aren’t “innocent” and many of them don’t want to be, and it is possible to acknowledge these facts without exploiting them.

My introduction to sex was finding a porn tape at age 11 in the vcr. That is NOT how you want kids to learn about sex. We really need comprehensive sex education for kids and teens, and to be realistic about human sexuality. We need to teach that it’s alright to have a sex drive, and it’s alright to not want sex. We need to teach how to be safe and happy if they DO want sex, so they don’t do shit that will traumatize them well into their late 20′s. I desperately wish someone would have REALLY taught me about sex, healthy, safe, happy sex, when I was young. Because all my education from 11-16 came from porn, and I was hypersexual as fuck and made a lot of bad decisions because I had nothing to go off of. Please stop pretending all teens aren’t sexual and start being realistic.