Hey everyone! Many of you know that I’ve had a donation button on my tumblr for a long time. I am about to take competency exams for my PhD and could really benefit from help to feed myself / self care during them.
If you don’t know what competency exams are, for mine I will be taking them for 2 weeks with a week off in between each week. Each week I will get 2 broad questions about sociological theory / my specific research area and need to answer each question with a 16 – 20 double spaced page response. I’ve spent the last 6 months reading 80 articles (about 20 of those were books) for one reading list and then reading 45 other articles for the second week that is designed to turn into my dissertation topic.
In between each week I am going to an academic conference, driving there + staying at the cheapest places possible to afford it. Though, I’ve paid for most of it months ago. I am camping for $12 a night in northern Pennsylvania after the conference to recover a bit and prepare for week 2 of exams.
Basically, if you have been following this blog, support the work I do and want to support my continued work financially please donate so I can make this time a bit easier. I’m working hard to care for myself so my disability doesn’t make the time unbearable. Any donation will be directly going to self care and helps me work towards finishing my doctorate. It also helps me create amazing research that looks at the lived experience of fat people.
Donate here! ( If this link doesn’t work there is a donation button on my main blog page) (or send directly to fatbodypolitics at gmail)
Updated this with a new link and other ways to donate. I think the link times out after a bit.
Thank you to everyone who donated to my self care fund for prelims. They start at 9am tomorrow. I am fully prepped and ready. If anyone else wants to donate send it to fatbodypolitics at gmail via paypal.
before you ever even consider having a child you should be ready to handle a disabled child, you should be ready to handle twins, you should be ready to handle a gay child or a trans child
because if you’re not ready for your child to be anything other than one straight, cis, able bodied and able minded child, you’re going to end up neglecting and abusing somebody for years to come
and even if your child is all that, you might have a feminine boy or a masculine girl on your hands. so be fucking ready for your child to be a human being and not YOUR PRODUCT or PROPERTY or CREATION
fucking sort your shit out, i am so tired of shitty parental sob stories about how “hard” it is to “raise” (read: beat the divergency out of) an autistic child or whatever. do you know what’s harder? being the divergent child of parents who you’ve already let down by virtue of existing in a way they didn’t ask for. putting up with years of neglect and abuse because you’re just not good enough for them, you weren’t what they were planning for or expecting.
Last paragraph is a fucking mic drop
then these same parents always act like being depressed and anxious is something that just NATURALLY GOES WITH being gay or autistic without taking responsibility for how they always treated us like we weren’t acceptable and forced these issues on us
While I’m at it, I’m really not happy with the way Tumblr is restoring “the innocence of youth” culture to 1990s-purity-ring levels.
It’s somehow transmuted a few good principles–adults shouldn’t have sex with underage people, underage people shouldn’t take part in porn, very young children shouldn’t be exposed to explicit sexuality–into bullshit like:
– All fiction involving underage sexuality, even non-sensationalized written descriptions of the kind of sexual relationships teenagers often have with each other, is child porn
– Sex education that talks about dealing with STIs and pregnancy and rape is okay, but teaching teenagers about sexual pleasure is gross and anyone who does it is probably a pedophile
– People under 18 all find sexuality frightening or offputting and don’t want to be exposed to it (I’m sure some feel that way, but if you think this is a universal or majority thing, wow, you must’ve gone to a very different high school than I did)
– Even acknowledging the existence of underage sexuality is suspicious, why would you be talking about this if you weren’t some kind of pedophile
It’s tough to talk about this because it immediately puts you in the company of people who really are being creepy about it, but I think it’s important to push back against these things. Young people have sexualities, they aren’t “innocent” and many of them don’t want to be, and it is possible to acknowledge these facts without exploiting them.
My introduction to sex was finding a porn tape at age 11 in the vcr. That is NOT how you want kids to learn about sex. We really need comprehensive sex education for kids and teens, and to be realistic about human sexuality. We need to teach that it’s alright to have a sex drive, and it’s alright to not want sex. We need to teach how to be safe and happy if they DO want sex, so they don’t do shit that will traumatize them well into their late 20′s. I desperately wish someone would have REALLY taught me about sex, healthy, safe, happy sex, when I was young. Because all my education from 11-16 came from porn, and I was hypersexual as fuck and made a lot of bad decisions because I had nothing to go off of. Please stop pretending all teens aren’t sexual and start being realistic.
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