Day: August 6, 2018

prep:

hey so i don’t normally make posts like this but i urgently need to go visit my dangerously depressed 14 year old cousin who is bisexual and in the closet and it’ll take around $270 for the bus tickets and cab fare to get there and back because she lives in another state

i am a bisexual woman who has lived with bipolar disorder since i was her age and i need to go spend some time with her because she has no one else around her who understands & i’m afraid that if her parents find out about her sexuality & self-harm, their reactions will push her over the edge

my PayPal is paypal.me/rhianimated and my kofi is ko-fi.com/rhianimated if you can donate to help me get up there to see her this month (also signal boosting is super helpful)

dendritic-trees:

mx-kai-rose:

whyyoustabbedme:

Think of the minor crimes and false accusations. There were several deaths of inmates shot by police trying to escape prison to avoid starvation.

Can we talk about the fact that they drowned?? That’s such an awful way to go, and some people in there didnt deserve anything like that! Imagine being left for dead over a fucking parking ticket or tax fraud

Also… consider… maybe that none of the people in there deserved that.

People who had been sentenced to be in prison fairly for things they entirely deserved to be in prison for still weren’t sentenced to being drowned or starved. That’s not how justice works.

Source: whyyoustabbedme

wlwtxt:

its my bday soon! help me get funeral + wedding clothes?

hi!! my name is moon and i have a funeral and a wedding coming up this month that i desperately need some semi-formal clothes for. unfortunately i literally only own 2 pairs of jeans, 1 skirt, some sweats, plain tshirts and 2 pairs of shoes. i am going to go to the goodwill and thrift stores to look for stuff but i am extremely poor. it is my bday this month so u could consider it a bday present and nice clothes r something i can reuse/keep for interviews and such!

! here is my paypal ! (pls dont call me by my dead name)

i am on a time limit so i need some clothes ASAP. i understand money is tight for everyone but any amount would help me greatly!! if u cant donate, RBs r highly appreciated ^_^

thank u for reading this 💕

sleepsykid:

pseudo-euphoria:

Sorry for the ugly post (I’m on mobile) but Behrouz Boochani is a refugee being held in an internment camp by the Australian govt in a country that’s treated as a de facto colony and there’s now a penalty of up to 25 years prison for any reporter who covers the internment of refugees so this is a hugely important book. Manus is basically a black zone

Link to the article

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/jul/31/writing-from-manus-prison-a-scathing-critique-of-domination-and-oppression?CMP=soc_567

Boochani had to dictate a lot of this book over the phone and phone access is incredibly difficult. There’s a group that collects donations to buy credit for refugees on Manus and Nauru and I can personally vouch for them. You can donate here

https://giftsformanusandnauru.org.au

you can buy it from here https://www.panmacmillan.com.au/9781760555382/

Source: pseudo-euphoria

marcsalmonds:

snakegay:

please stop claiming any and all shitty embarrassing behaviors are “autism traits” or whatever. like i know you think youre making an epic win against ableism when you call some weird annoying shit ~autistic behavior~ and therefore ableist to insult but you really arent

I mean going off of this its insulting to me as an autistic person that like. You’ll call being upset that someone says something obviously rude or unkind ableist youre implying we’re all unthinkingly mean? Thats a step back from any progress and theres this attitude prevalent on tumblr about literally everything that if you say any call out of a behavior ableist you can get away with continuing to do it even if its not healthy or self destructive or hurts other people. Please.

The main thing I can think of when I encounter “All My Rowdy Friends Are Coming Over Tonight” is when a family acquaintance died in a car wreck in the late ‘80s. (When he was younger than I am now.)

He had apparently very specifically stated in the past that he wanted that song played at his funeral. So, his family decided it was Wholly Inappropriate, and ignored the request after a lot of arguing back and forth.

It maybe didn’t help that he had managed to wrap his car around a tree, coming back from a girlfriend’s house while he was half sloshed. (Also married at the time.)

But yeah, that musical choice was just sooo Curtis, and I still think they should have done what he said he wanted. That’s really not my taste either, but it sure did fit better than generic hymns.

token-white-friend:

lord-kitschener:

captainbooksnob:

kuntsuragi:

lord-kitschener:

a LOT of slasher flicks from the 70s and 80s strike me as sexually violent revenge fantasies against women’s growing independence at the time tbh

Siskel and Ebert beat you to it in 1980…. Part One

Part Two

I had also added in another chain that a lot of it is also a violent revenge fantasy and/or demonization of LGBT people as a backlash against the growing visibility of the LGBT community at the time. Look at how many killers and victims are horrible stereotypes meant to demonize LGBT people, and make the audience feel good when they get ripped up

…y’all ain’t gonna mention how those movies always kill the black people first? And the 70s and 80s were a time civil rights groups were unjustly painted as extremists and “black supremacists”. horror movies gettin revenge on everyone not straight male and white for wanting rights.

brainwad:

the-real-seebs:

sprite-truscum-pepsi:

This has just always been a thing I’ve known but now I wonder if it’s common knowledge bc it should be;

If you’re going to a doctor about anything, instead of just describing the symptoms, describe how it has affected your life. ‘My arm hurts when I straighten it’ will usually get you ‘wait a few days to see if it gets better’. ‘My arm hurts when I straighten it, and it has stopped me from being able to drive or use my computer at work, so I can’t function properly’ will usually get you a lot more consideration, and usually tests or a prescription.

This also applies for mental conditions, including gender dysphoria.

Make sure your physician knows the effect that your condition is having on your life, as this makes it a lot harder for them to dismiss you. This also makes it easier to hold them accountable if they ignore a dangerous condition, should you wish to pursue legal action.

what

i did not know that. useful, thanks!

OH MY GOD

korrasera:

wetwareproblem:

fangirlinginleatherboots:

churchyardgrim:

shuttheupfuck:

fangirlinginleatherboots:

teaching children that they are allowed to walk away and cool off if they are feeling overwhelmed might literally save their life as teens/adults

could save other ppls lives too.

I feel like the key here is letting them know that they can come back to the discussion, and that you’re not just sending them to their room with different words

“go calm down” is just dismissive, but “go calm down and we’ll talk more about this in half an hour” validates the child and lets them know that you’re not just brushing them off 

its also worth noting that “go calm down” as a statement, regardless of what follows it, comes across as dismissive. add plurality to the comment.

“LET’S go calm down.” “LET’S take a break” “WE BOTH should step away”

never expect a child to do what you yourself arent willing to do in the situation. otherwise, its just a time out.

Speaking from the perspective of someone who has spent her whole life struggling to be allowed to do this, well… that’s the other half of the equation: Actually LET them go calm down. Let them out of their room anytime they’re ready – this isn’t a punishment, after all – but don’t come stomping in when YOU decide it’s been long enough.

Every time I tried to back away from confrontation in my household, my mother would pursue me and continue the argument/fight/disagreement until she got angry enough to storm out. Usually while yelling.

So, I can also confirm that not being allowed to walk away from a confrontation is extremely stressful and hellish for a child.