misplacedlight:

dream–coffins:

the-ladythc:

antiandrogen:

the problem with the monogamy polyamory discourse imo is the focus on identity. you let monogamous or polyamorous be who you are instead of a mere description of the way you form relationships. people aren’t hardwired one way or the other, at the end of the day you’re making choices about your boundaries. why don’t you just let life surprise you sometimes so it’s not a full on identity crisis every time you want something or someone you didn’t expect

👆☝👆☝ “what do I want right now?” “What am I comfortable with right now?” “What do I feel safe doing right now?”

@misplacedlight

One of the many reasons why I identify with descriptive rather than prescriptive language, and not just around relationships.

Some people feel identified by their relationship style. Cool. Some don’t. Rad. Some change many times over their lifetime, or even over a few weeks? Go you. Take care of yourself, be honest with yourself, and the haters can pound sand.