The last month and a half have been rough for me for a *good* reason. I’ve been doing a CPAP trial run after a sleep study came back with news that I have Sleep Apnea, that is one cause for my growing energy problems.
So far, it seems to he helping. I’ve managed to do quite a bit this last month, including *getting* to the checkup appointments, hanging out with friends and doing art/prep for commissions and games over on @midgardia.
But I’m down to the last leg of the trial and to continue using CPAP to improve my QOL I need to… pay for the equipment. I’m getting 80% of the price covered by insurance, but that still leaves 20%.
I have 2 weeks to get $500 to afford
buying the equipment that will help my energy lvls so I can make ends
meet. I need all the help I can get. Due to the aformentioned lack of energy, it’s been very hard to make money in the last few months, and my bank account is running on Empty.
As it stands, I can’t afford the CPAP machine at all. I need help funding that 20% so I can rely on this machine to help me actually be able to work on art and other projects to make a living.
Thanks to @enecoo this got reblogged 200 times more than I expected it to. I am up to $200 and I am likely getting my hands on another $50 from art commissions this week. But I know I’ll need more help to reach the $500 I need by Tuesday next week, so if you can help out, even if it’s just $1, please do! If you can’t, then reblogging helps get the word out. Every little bit helps!
The treatment has been having noticeable effects on my sleep patterns and ability to wake up with energy. I’ll be able to do SO much more with the energy provided by just this one piece of equipment that is letting me get actual, restful sleep for the first time in *years*. Please help me afford keeping this machine!
Hi… I had some cash but it went to few unseen expenses (I’m already worn out and sick so it really took a blow to my self and damn bank account) anyways I was originally gonna use that to buy groceries for myself. If you’d like to help to eat for the next week or two, my cash me is $valentinesdean
I also have to pay for this fee to get my birth control transferred (which basically regulates my period and is kind of essential to me not like dying or having to go to the hospital again) so if you could donate anything even a dollar would help me rn.
Oh boy. For a client, I found myself looking over a variety of “save money/spend less” tips and some of them… Here’s some gems I found:
1. Put half of your paycheck into savings. Hahahahahaha! How many of my followers could pay for food and rent on half of their paycheck?
2. Don’t buy something unnecessary for 30 days. Because we should only buy what’s necessary, at all times.
3. Line dry your clothes. Hands up apartment dwellers? Hands up people who’s HOAs say “Don’t line dry, it’s unsightly.”
4. Take cold showers. Personal hahahaha from the person with a thyroid condition who finds cold showers literal agony.
5. Buy quality stuff. Because we can all afford to spend more right now. (I do try to do this, but I know…)
6. Compare electric rates. Okay. WHO has more than one electric company to choose from? Nobody I know.
7. Always put one item back when you go shopping. So, which essential would that be? (I suppose if you have an actual problem buying stuff on impulse…) Make a list and stick to it is a much better piece of advice here.
8. From a list of tips to save money on healthcare: Stay healthy. Uh. Yeah. Right. Like we have the choice.
9. See your doctor regularly. Because everyone reading this has health insurance.
Just…okay, there’s a lot of sensible suggestions out there like buying in bulk when you can, etc. But…some of them assume you’re actually pretty rich or just…don’t seem to see reality.
I knew a woman who had rich in-laws while she was struggling financially. Once while visiting her mother in law pulled her aside to say that she’d heard the woman had trouble paying her bills on time, and just wanted to offer the friendly tip that she should just sit down once a month and write the checks, just a set day each month. The rich woman could not conceive that her daughter in law wasn’t paying bills on time because she did not have the money.
My unfavorite remains the one about how you’re apparently supposed to deny yourself all “unnecessary” indulgences.
Like… yeah, ok, there’s such a thing as taking Treat Yo Self to an unhealthy extreme, but most of us who are struggling financially aren’t going to have a huge difference made by whether or not we go on a friend-date to Starbucks once or twice a month, or if we get a chocolate bar or bathbomb once in a while, or spend $10 on a meal occasionally. it’s worth trying to squeeze the most enjoyment you can out of your Treat Yo Self fund for the least money, sure, considering whether that $10 of Treat Yo Self money going toward sushi would bring you more or less joy than spending it on a face mask and a new bottle of nail polish instead of jumping on every whim is reasonable, but everyone needs at least a little bit of a Treat Yo Self fund to stay sane.
If you have an actual problem with impulse buying, then imposing a wait period or whatever is a good idea, so you don’t end up buying stuff you only think you want.
I found another doozie, which is basically “You’re not allowed anything that isn’t essential unless you can put the same money into savings.” That’s another way to say “If you’re poor, you should never have a treat.”
For a lot of people, asking someone to do something sexual with you can be an intensely vulnerable experience. Many of us have had it reinforced over and over that our worth, our purpose, is all tied up in being sexually desirable/desired. This can make the stakes feel much, much higher than they actually are when you ask for consent.
For some people, asking for consent feels like asking someone their opinion of your inherent desirability and maybe even your worth. Rejection of an activity can feel like a rejection of your entire self.
This is a problem. It’s not healthy for your entire relationship to be on the line every time you ask someone for sex. You need and deserve to be secure in your own desirability and worth without relying on the unpredictable sexual urges of other people to maintain that security. Your partners need and deserve the space to say “no” freely and without emotional pressure.
Rationally, you probably know that what makes sexual desire happen is complicated and that someone not wanting sex isn’t a punishment or an attack – it’s your emotional response that doesn’t have that memo. When it feels like “no” is a violent dismissal of your entire being, not just a refusal to do something specific, it’s really important to acknowledge those feelings and also realize that they’re not an accurate reflection of reality.
Plan ahead of time how you can work through these feelings without making your partner feel punished or obligated to change their mind. If you have a regular partner, it might be good to let them know about your insecurities and how you plan to handle your response, so they know, for instance, that if you need to go for a walk or take some alone time, you’re not punishing them and you don’t want them to change their mind to placate you – that you know it’s your responsibility to work through your feelings and that you’ve got it handled.
You can also preempt some of these insecurities by working on finding other ways to feel good about your body or to feel close and connected to another person in a way they do freely consent to.
The most important thing is to consistently reinforce your desire to hear an honest answer, even though sometimes you have an emotional response that may be uncomfortable, and to not treat those uncomfortable feelings as a crisis that your partner must handle.
They need to hear and see from your consistent actions that it’s not their job to to agree to anything they don’t want just to keep you from having bad feelings. And that even when “No” feels bad for you, you’d rather hear it and respect it, and deal with your feelings yourself, than do something sexually that they’re not interested in. Without this groundwork, it’s easy to make someone feel obligated to agree to unwanted sex, maybe without realizing that’s what you’re doing.
It is possible to work through this fear and make it less scary to hear “no”. It starts with accepting that “no” is going to happen sometimes and figuring out how you can take care of yourself and your partner when “no” hurts.
Antonio Pirrello’s gasoline-powered roller skates. Made by Antonio Pirrello in 1956, these skates feature a 19-pound gasoline motor that is worn like a backpack. The gas connects to the right skate to push while the skater holds his left foot out in front to steer. A second cable connects to the hand-held clutch to regulate speed: quite a lot of speed. These skates can roll at up to 40 miles-per-hour! Mr. Pirrello and his motorized skates were featured in the magazines Life and Popular Mechanics and were guests on You Asked for It and The Today Show.
No offense but can ya’ll like also normalize trans guys that DON’T bind. Like there’s guys who don’t want to, choose not to because of the risks, and guys who CAN’T because of medical reasons. Not every Trans dude is wearing a binder 24/7 and some don’t ever.
… also i know its just hyperbole but literally no one should be wearing a binder 24/7. even guys who bind will have times they are *not* binding.
for any number of reasons: its hot (binders in the heat? worse than bras), they’ve already worn it for 8+ hours that day, they are in the privacy of their own home, they just woke up, they’re doing laundry, they just plain can’t be arsed because binding is a pain in the ass even as it helps…
and then yeah, all of what OP says, too. (another demographic: too big to bind, or too small to bother)
“Did these people [in academia who claim that they are not exposed to disabled people] realize that when they encountered the work of Rosa Luxemburg (who limped), Antonio Gramsci (a crippled, dwarfed hunchback), John Milton (blind), Alexander Pope (dwarfed hunchback), George Gordon Brown (club foot), [Jorge] Luis Borges, James Joyce, and James Thurber (all blind), Harriet Martineau (deaf), Toulouse-Lautrec (spinal deformity), Frida Kahlo (osteomyelitis), Virginia Woolf (lupus), they were meeting people with disabilities? Do filmgoers realize when they watch the films of James Ford, Raoul Walsh, André de Toth, Nicholas Ray, Tay Garnett and William Wyler that these directors were all physically impaired? Why is it when one looks these figures in dictionaries of biography or encyclopedias that their physical disabilities are usually not mentioned – unless the disability is seen as related to creativity, as in the case of the blind bard Milton or the deaf Beethoven? There is an ableist notion at work here that anyone who creates a canonical work must be physically able. Likewise, why do we not know that Helen Keller was a socialist, a member of the Wobblies, the International Workers of the World, and an advocate of free love? We assume that our ‘official’ mascots of disability are nothing else but their disability.”
— Lennard J. Davis, Enforcing Normalcy: Disability, Deafness, and the Body (via irwonder)
Urocyon's Jaunts 2.0 
You must be logged in to post a comment.