I made the choice to abort (twice) due to a risk to my mental health and I couldn’t face a life with my sanity gone. But since my physical health wasn’t at as much risk I get told it’s ‘not a good enough reason’ as mental health isn’t considered important enough.

You’ll die without an abortion? Well okay that’s an acceptable situation.

Your mental state will be destroyed without an abortion? Well you can still live while being insane so no, it’s not a valid reason.

The fact is that nobody should have to justify to another (unless of course they want to) why they got an abortion. It doesn’t actually matter if it resulted from contraception failure, from not using contraception, from a health issue, from a relationship issue, from money problems, from a lack of desire to have kids…etc. the list goes on. It just doesn’t matter that you may not fit the ‘standards’ of another person because it has FUCK ALL to do with them.

Your healthcare choices affect only you directly, therefore that’s the only person who has to agree.

elodieunderglass:

moonwyvern:

Dinotopia is a fictional utopia created by author and illustrator James Gurney. It is the setting for the book series with which it shares its name. Dinotopia is an isolated island inhabited by shipwrecked humans and sentient dinosaurus who have learned to coexist peacefully as a single symbiotic society. The first book has “appeared in 18 languages in more than 30 countries and sold two million copies.”Dinotopia: A Land Apart from Time and Dinotopia: The World Beneath both won Hugo awards for best original artwork.

God these images still send this ENTIRE thrill through me. They just evoke that feeling of being a child with a book too large for you, staying for so long on a single picture that you feel like you could turn around in it.

Gurney consistently produces a world that feels completely reasonable and real. The color, the light, the relationships between fore- and background,

the fact that it seems like a real world, where people are engaging in perfectly reasonable cultural activities…

The natural gestures, implying the personalities and relationships of characters in a single image…

And it’s quite creative. I mean, look at this pair of bagel sellers. WHAT A GREAT WAY TO SELL BAGELS?

I feel like there is so much to learn from the way Gurney does his work – his blog is here http://gurneyjourney.blogspot.com

lovingexotics:

Source: here

If you ever catch me staring, I am:

averitablelexiconofnonsense:

kephazard:

ahungrygirlsfitnessjourney:

1) admiring your piercing/tattoo/hairstyle/outfit

2) trying to figure out if I know you

3) think you’re gorgeous and can’t help myself

truth

4) just staring into space and haven’t realised I’m staring at a living person

corvusvulpes:

If you’re non binary are you always in mixed company, and then what sort of things are you allowed to say?

bubobubosibericus:

pointless-letters:

TRANSLATION: “My best friend has come out to me and told me she is in a relationship with another woman, but let’s focus on how this is really all about me.”

I smell jealousy

pointless-letters:

MILK OF HUMAN KINDNESS: Imagine being this angry at the very idea that people who are literally sleeping outside on the street are going to get some help, maybe a chair to sit in, and the means to heat some food. Just imagine.

pointless-letters:

Stewart, on a completely unrelated note, I think the nice, soothing, calming herbal teas are in aisle 5. Just saying.

(with many thanks to Ashles3000 over on Twitter for this one)

I’ve been a animals nerd for over three decades and sometimes I’m still just stunned speechless by the existence of an animal I didn’t know about

integrationbydarts:

bogleech:

THIS IS GENUS PHYLLIROE.

IT EVOLVED JUST LIKE A FISH.

IT’S A GENUS OF SLUG.

convergent evolution bay-bey !!!

lines-and-edges:

socialjusticeichigo:

I keep seeing people suggesting that the fact that (sub/dom) drop and aftercare are things in BDSM and kink that BDSM and kink are inherently abusive?

And like… I’m not going to claim to be an expert on kink or BDSM, because I am so very far from it. But the way I’ve seen it explained is that sub/dom drop and subsequent aftercare are the result of people coming down from the adrenaline and endorphin highs during a scene.

Like, yes, the symptoms described in drop definitely can be symptoms of abuse too but they’re also symptoms of coming down from any extremely elevated mood state. It’s an adrenaline/endorphin crash. People experience it for all sorts of reasons outside of kink and BDSM.

I guess I just feel like if someone says to me, “Yes, I experience drop sometimes, and yes I require aftercare sometimes, but everything I do with my partner is 100% consensual and I truly love and enjoy our scenes.” I’m not going to go, “Actually sweetie, it seems you just don’t know what’s good and bad for you, allow me to tell you.”

That’s just. So patronizing and infantilizing to assume that someone just can’t determine these things for themselves. And I’m not saying that abuse can’t or doesn’t happen in kink and BDSM or that none of these scenarios ever actually involve abuse where the person doesn’t realize they are being abused. But I feel like it’s not for me to decide which cases fall under that and it’s definitely not for me to decide that they all do. I think it’s up to the BDSM and kink community to spread important information such as warning signs that things have become abusive or unhealthy so that people can self determine whether what they’re engaging in has become unhealthy for them or not.

I’ve been meaning to make a post about this but my notes never got sufficiently organized. But I just want to add my autistic two cents:

* Needing aftercare is a common effect of sensory overload or cognitive/emotional overextension. I sometimes need aftercare after noisy conversations at completely G-rated parties.

* Doing something that causes sensory overload or cognitive/emotional overextension isn’t automatically unhealthy or abusive!

* If so, slow vanilla sex with lots of eye contact would also be in that category for many people.

* Being pushed to overextend yourself by doing a thing past your limits day after day can be unhealthy, which is why I’ll believe anti-kink people earnestly mean well when I see them coming out to protest the fluorescent lights in retail stores. By any statistic these are a more common source of forced sensory overload than kink, and not only for adults.

Anyway, a discourse that assumes everyone responds the same way to the same physical stimulus is a discourse rooted in ableism, and you cannot meaningfully support the rights of neurologically and biologically diverse people and also assume we all have the same sexual needs as everyone else, or punish us for sexual behavior that isn’t a close emulation of abled neurotypical sex.