“Okay I didn’t read all of this but,”
Then👏 Why 👏The👏 Fuck 👏Are 👏You 👏Commenting👏
Hot fucking take, if a post is long and informative, you likely need to read all of it to make an informed contribution to the topic instead of just talking over people or dismissing them based on the first few lines of opening up a dialogue.
“Honestly I read the first few lines and this is bullshit, I—”
Oh you read the first few lines. Of a multi-thread reblog post, where others have put time and effort into trying to convey a complex issue, but y’know. You read the first few lines, and felt like you had something to say and are convinced it will be in no way irrelevant, repetitive or refutable. Okay. Great.
They read the first few lines, you guys, we’re good.
istg this is one of the biggest frustrations I run into these days. I put time and effort into laying out my perspective and my reasonings and all I get back is “who’s going to read that fucking essay, try harder”
it’s unspeakably rude! it’s a staggering lack of good faith, plain disrespect towards someone who’s trying to have an actual discussion, and I literally cannot understand why people think it’s any kind of an appropriate way to behave.
It. Drives. Me. Bonkers.
“Condense your life experiences and perspective into a soundbite so it looks on brand for quick and snappy reblogs so we can all feel woke about it.”
The same person a hot second later. “Well there’s no perspectives or proof to back this up so your point is invalid.”
Ok. I do genuinely understand where everyone is coming from here. I do recognise that it is exceptionally frustrating when someone is actually being lazy and genuinely can’t be bothered to read because they just want to yap their mouth off etc.
That being said.
Can we *please* be aware that people with ADHD and other processing issues exist and in those cases, because the person may have read a bit, had a thought and want to get it down, they start writing their ideas before they’ve read it completely so the thought doesn’t vanish. Furthermore, because of said processing issues a proper explanation would be ‘I haven’t read all of this, (I have ADHD and wanted to get this thought down before I forget) but (I fully intend to read the rest), anyway my thought was…’ and the bits in brackets are what doesn’t make it to the response because their processing has caused them to delete those bits from their short term memory while writing.
Also, sorry to have to say it, but if you’re more concerned about coming across eloquently and so forth, then basically you’re admitting that you’ve written a long response just to show off that you’re clever.
Fine, absolutely, someone who’s being lazy should just read it through.
However, I know for a fact that if a post is quite long, people with processing issues may find it daunting and would actually appreciate a condensed version so they can more easily follow the conversation and contribute.
Yes, I write long posts but if someone reblogged a post asking me to condense it for their understanding, I absolutely would.
If I can do that, there’s no reason you can’t and if you’re going to grumble about it, it shows that first and foremost you’re happy to shove people with processing issues under the bus in favour of being able to show off.
I apologise if this comes across as unnecessarily harsh but I think more people need to think about the ways in which they engage in actual ableism.
If you’re automatic response to ‘could you explain this’ is to accuse people of laziness, the only people you are hurting is those with processing issues. The people who are genuinely just being lazy will just strop at you and digitally storm off.
Meanwhile you will leave someone with an issue they cannot change, because it is hardwired, feeling bad about themselves and more likely to not engage with topics of interest, because they’ll be accused of laziness for being overwhelmed by the amount of text etc.
As someone with ADHD, this is not even remotely what this post is about.
It’s the venting of a personal frustration that I expend so much energy and focus trying to explain things to people, being as concise, relevant and thorough as possible, (because inevitably someone always tags on “but what about X issue! why are you being problematic and missing out X issue!”) and then some rude person comments with the lengthier version of “tl;dr” and then proceeds to talk over everyone else in the comment thread, either being needlessly repetitive because they didn’t read the comments, or just outright wrong or just plain dismissive.
Someone needs me to condense and clarify, I will. I absolutely will. But the way to get me to do that is not to say “I didn’t read all of this, but here’s my opinion anyway.”
It’s a post about people butting in where they should take the time to sit down and process something rather than interjecting for the sake of hearing their own voice.
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