chavisory:

fierceawakening:

moranion:

greywash:

lilliburlero:

skeleton-richard:

viletorpedo:

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vethica:

who-gives-a-ship:

shobijinsandy:

Dear people who ship taboo relationships

Such as in///cest and ped///ophilia

Do NOT harm yourself. That doesn’t help, and asking you to do so doesn’t help.

Instead? Tell your parents. Tell your family, tell your friends, your teachers, your employers, EVERYONE you know and interact with, that you support and even romanticize abusive content. Tell them that you think it’s harmless.

Well?

We’re waiting.

I do tell a lot of people. My mom, for example. She’s a writer too and she knows that I enjoy writing dark stories. I said people were mad at me on the internet over a ship and she immediately guessed which (very problematic) ship it was and was shocked that people had told me to die over something so ridiculous. I recently told my therapist that I write and enjoy darkfic sometimes, specifically mentioning the sort of sexual content they involve. His first impulse was to worry that I might feel guilty about my harmless interest. I told my previous therapist that I get off to violent fictional media and she said it was fine because she knew I’d never hurt a fly in real life. I’ve told my coworkers about the sort of movies I like (horror) and they didn’t care at all. Turns out people who work at libraries know how fiction works. My childhood best friend has known I’m a sadist for as long as I can remember and it never seemed to bother her. I still have a reputation as a very polite and helpful person, and my friends feel comfortable telling me secrets and asking for advice.

You know what always shocks people? When I tell them about the hate I’ve recieved online for my ships. My mom regularly says she’s proud of me for standing up for myself and others online, and my therapist considers it a very positive act. I don’t tell EVERYONE I interact with about my problematic ships (hi I’d like a number 1 combo with cheese also I think Thor and Loki should kiss), but I don’t hide it at all. The worst I’ve ever gotten is people being mildly surprised that someone as silly and positive as me loves horror.

Tell your family, tell your friends, your teachers, your employers, EVERYONE you know and interact with

“and that’s all 300 pairs of fictional characters I want to kiss each other. any questions?”

“ma’am this is a wal-mart”

Told my mom I wanted to rip open kylo rens abdominal cavity and she just shrugged so op idk what you’re expecting to happen here

“Hey young people, i want you to initiate sexually explicit conversations with lots of grown ups you barely know”

NICE TRY JARED FROM SUBWAY

I feel like antis might not know what kind of things get written about in published books.

Like if you think ya mom hasn’t read books like flowers in the attic (probably still the English-speaking world’s most popular incest book) or the world according to Garp (in which a woman gets pregnant by raping a disabled man and later a different woman bites off a dude’s cock) or never watched a soap or a telenovela in her life and is going to be shocked by these things……….I mean even if you’re like “no my mom reads only respected works of literature and has never heard of television” or something have I got news for you about those as well the absolute most shocking sexual abuse stuff I have ever read was in poetry and I felt like my teeth had been punched down my throat, reading it, it was amazing, yes it was even more shocking than The Bluest Eye (go ask your lit-reading mom what that is, it is a very important book you should know about). Also I guarantee you even if your mom has literally only read the Bible in her entire life you know there’s incest-rape in that, right, it’s only in one of the most famous bits (it comes after the attempted gang rape of the angels, the dude offering his daughters up for gang rape instead, and then his wife getting turned into salt, so I guess him getting raped by his own daughters later gets left out of the tale a lot).

People understand about literature. They comprehend fiction. They can distinguish between fantasy and what people do in reality. They really do, and can, without too much trouble.

Imagine what the world would be like if everybody did this — if it was totally normal for my boss to walk up to me and tell me what fictional relationships she considered to be tolerable reading material in the interests of transparency. I’m not saying it would do anything, I just think it would be really funny. Even if my opinions about the relationships of fictional characters were likely to strike fear and horror into the heart of everyone who’s ever met me, I guarantee people would also be weirded out if you went around sweetly reciting the list of your wholesomest cartoon character ships and how you only read about the purest, most innocuous content. Nobody actually gives a shit.

“Mom? I have something really important to tell you, because somebody on the Internet said so. Sometimes I write fanfiction where vampires kiss. Sometimes I write weepy self indulgent screeds about bad stuff happening to my fictional favorite characters. Sometimes I read about butt stuff. I’m sorry. I’m so sorry.” My mom, surrounded by Laurel K. Hamilton and Anne Rice first editions while watching a TV drama about age difference arranged marriage cousincest, shakes her head solemnly and hangs up the phone. I’m dead to her.

…I’ll make sure to include a transcript of my Ao3 profile with my CV. Yes I know I wrote that good paper on the Cult of Reason and also have done groundbreaking work in translating Middle English poetry but… I have to admit I’ve written several fics that involve an age gap of 20+ years… And I’ve written a lot of incest with first cousins… I’m not proud of my sin…

Why is it that your interests and work has to be the business of everyone else and their arbitrary rules? Whatever happened to ykinmk? Do people never go outside?

I’m disconnected enough from fandom these days that I forget about purity culture for months on end and then I get a reminder that somehow the anti thing is still chugging along, and I have a good laugh because my one colleague who is actually a legit world-famous writer made her name writing Gothic drama about paedophiliac incest and cat people.

hey everyone I have a GREAT idea

oh my god, op

like, the most fucked up movie I’ve ever seen in my life (and funny enough, one of my favourites) is The Night Porter – and guess who recommended that to me?

yeah. my mom. the same person who told me when I was 14 or 15: “Please don’t have sex this young, but if you must, here is some cash for condoms, and if you ever think you might be pregnant, tell me, I promise I won’t be mad, we’ll take care of it.”

I’m sorry that you had a puritanic upbringing and you think mentioning smth sexual and/or – gasp! – illegal to your parents or to your friends is just the awfulest thing ever, but luckily, that’s not the norm. 

Okay, so I don’t generally think or write about the particular thing that has this generation’s antis so riled, but

…people who want to know what I think about can buy my books? They can write reviews of what they think about them? Hell, they can pirate them if they’re douchebags who don’t like being minimally decent to smalltime queer authors?

I’m not sure what public announcements above and beyond that would do.

This is what I was talking about re: antis not reading enough non-fanfic to know what is really in books, and why most people read what they read.

Hell, even “respected works of literature?” The year that the Communications Decency Act was a thing, my ability to buy the books I needed for AP English class was in serious danger for a minute there. Like, Beloved, anyone? The Once and Future King? Tess of the D’Urbervilles? The Prince of Tides? Like Water for Chocolate?

Do you know what is in books?