– Communication doesn’t work on bullies. Telling a bully they’re making you feel bad is the wrong way to go. They want to make you feel bad. That’s the point.
– being kind to a bully doesn’t always mean they’ll stop. Sometimes it means they’ll just use your kindness to manipulate you while still continuing to bully you.
– not every bully has a sympathetically tragic home life. Sometimes people are just mean. Sometimes people just get off on hurting others.
– on that note, a tough home life is a reason, not an excuse. You don’t have to put up with bullying because somebody’s life sucks, just like you don’t have to let someone mug you because they’re broke.
– in order to forgive someone, they have to apologize first. If your bully has not apologized to you, you do not owe them anything.
– getting bullied as a kid can still mess you up in adult life. Maybe kids grow out of being bullies, but the marks they left often don’t go away.
– there are ways to get people to stop bullying you, but they almost all involve being mean back.
– as long as parents keep raising shitty bullying kids, there will be bullies. No amount of assemblies and hand-drawn posters will fix the problem. It’s the parents’ fault.
– It’s not your responsibility to fix your bully or to stop the abuse they send your way, but some adults sure will act like it is.
– Many times (especially in the case of girls) your friends can be your bullies. This makes things even worse as these are people who know you and your intimate secrets and use them to their advantage. If your friends are bullies, don’t take crap from them. Get new friends.
im gonna throw in that its never your fault, people will pick a target to gang up on because theyd rather it be you than them. even if you think “this must be because im weird”- everyone is weird, in different ways. anyone can be made a target. it’s not just you for some reason in particular, i promise.
Apparently before Tolkien specified that hobbits look like humans some people thought they were some sorta weird critter
Let hobbits be rabbits ❤
To be fair, the fact that Tolkien described hobbits as having big hairy feet, hobbit smials essentially being very fancy burrows, and Beorn literally calling Bilbo a “little bunny”, all supports this idea so I can’t really begrudge people who thought hobbits were rabbit-like
Did i ever tell y’all the story of how one year my family picked up a hitchhiker in the middle of nowhere (like you do) and just..drove him to my grandma’s house for thanksgiving and he stayed with us for the whole weekend and my grandmere was So concerned that like…he wasn’t getting enough food she made a whole extra pie and pierogies just for him, ofc some to take on the way back. And he just ate with us like the 12+ ppl that consist of my family and dave who we picked up from the road. Now this man had. Nothing on him except his clothes and wallet like no backpack…nothing. so she also gave him some of my grandpa’s clothes and it was a little awkward but he was nice and funny and at the end of the weekend we offered to take him back or anywhere he needed to go (mind you we drove him like…7 hours away from where we picked him up) and he was just like…“nah just drop me off where you found me” and so we did and i never saw or heard from him again and thats how im pretty sure i met an immortal
@ fae side of tumblr please explain what kind of deity i interacted with
I’m pretty sure your family is the fae in this situation
We’re getting pretty close to having adults who weren’t alive during 9/11, and we really need to admit at this point that the overemphasis on 9/11 in the US is just a propaganda machine to indoctrinate the younger generations into nationalism and to justify all the horrible war crimes the US committed in the Middle East, and the continued mistreatment and distrust towards refugees.
Also remember when we were told that “They” attacked “Us” because they “hated our freedom”? That was some of the most blatant and transparent propaganda that was churned out of 9/11.
As an addition, in response to some of the replies to this post, I didn’t see the OP saying that it wasn’t terrible that 3K people died, or that we shouldn’t care, or that some people aren’t still traumatised by it. They simply pointed out it’s been used as propaganda, which is true.
Just one thing that I can attest to myself: I was in East Jerusalem on 9/11. We had been working in a hospital on the Mount of Olives (Princess Basma, if anyone cares), and we had no idea what was happening until we got back to our hotel. We did notice that it was quiet as we walked back, but that was it.
I had turned 23 a few days before, also in Jerusalem. A new graduate, doing some voluntary work in the Middle East.
We only found out when our group leader met us at the hotel and told us what had happened – and by the way, I vividly remember thinking it sounded like something out of a movie, and that when he said the Pentagon was on fire, I almost laughed. Not because I thought it was funny, but because it seemed so absurd, and for a second I honestly thought he was joking.
Until I got home almost a week later, the only footage I saw of the attacks was on a tiny TV screen in a darkened room that was where the proprietor of the hotel (a Muslim man named Ibrahim) was watching it. It was very surreal. Ibrahim was scared, because it was initially being blamed on Palestinians, and as he put it, “if we did this, no one will ever care about us ever again.” (Paraphrased, because this was a long time ago, but I remember the sense of what he said very clearly.)
Later that day, we went down to call home from a payphone near (if memory serves) the Damascus gate to let our friends and family know we were okay. (The biggest fear at that point for us was that America would attack the West Bank, in which case, we would’ve been toast.) It was quieter than we’d seen it. The whole city, to my memory, was quiet. The Damascus Gate was almost deserted, where it’s frequently a morass of people.
When I got back to the UK, and saw the footage of the towers collapsing, it was shocking and surreal. But one of the things that shocked me almost as much was that there was some footage being shown of Palestinians celebrating in Jerusalem. And I was very, very shocked, because barring one day when we went up to visit Galilee, I was in Jerusalem every day from 9/11 to the following weekend – I forget when we flew, I think it might have been the Monday. And what I remember about Jerusalem that week was that everyone’s mood was low and shocked and scared.
What I saw with my own eyes on the streets of Jerusalem was not what I saw being reported in some channels at home or what I have seen in YouTube clips since. I’m not saying “no one celebrated, everyone was sad”, because I didn’t spend those five or six days scouring Jerusalem to make sure no one was happy about it. But what I can say for sure is that I have seen videos of these supposed celebrations happening on streets I recognised, on streets I walked down in the aftermath of 9/11, on streets in predominantly Muslim/Palestinian parts of Jerusalem, and when I was there, when I was seeing those streets with my own eyes, those things were not happening. (My memory is shakier on this, but I think I actually saw footage from the Damascus Gate as a throng of happy people, and again, my own firsthand memory was totally the reverse.)
That’s one small aspect of how 9/11 was misreported, twisted, and misused. I can only speak for my experience – I was in Jerusalem, I wasn’t in Gaza, I wasn’t in another country in the Middle East. But I have seen the contradictions with my own eyes, and I know that at least some of how it was reported and the footage that’s been said since to show what happened in Jerusalem is, at best, misleading as to the extent and nature of the reactions, and at worst is deliberate lying and misrepresentation that is completely the reverse of the truth.
It’s not contradictory to say that 9/11 was a terrible tragedy, that none of those people deserved to die, that the first responders were brave and incredible, that what happened was awful, and at the same time admit that the portrayal of the event and the way it’s been used in the 17 years since it happened has often been dishonest, misleading, and a political tool to make sure that the people at home hate and mistrusted the right people so that our governments could get their hands dirty for reasons that often had little or nothing to do with 9/11.
In fact, to mislead, to lie, to pretend it was other than it was is unconscionable. The people who died in horrible, horrible ways in those attacks shouldn’t have their deaths used as propaganda. They deserve better, and frankly, so do we. Both those of us who were alive at the time, who remember watching in disbelief and horror, and those born since. That’s not contradictory at all.
I know I’ve been begging a lot lately. But I’m seriously in need still.
Let me begin by introducing myself. I’m allyson Marie, I’m 24 years old and I live alone in subsidized housing. I suffer from many mental and physical illnesses (Ehlers-Danlos, systemic lupus, chronic pulmonary embolisms/ pulmonary fibrosis/ asthma, epilepsy, narcolepsy, POTS/ dysotnomiaNOS, chronic pain from many sources, anorexia purging subtype, ADHD, autism seminonverbal, BPD, OCD/ OCPD, and schizoaffective disorder)
Because of these illnesses I cannot work or leave my house much, I am on disability and make very little every month. Simmalarly to last month I am very far overdrawn in my bank account (-$270) and I have no food and can’t refil my medications. Rent always come first so that I won’t be sick and homeless. But now I have no money and no sustanence.
If you are able and willing to help, I would really apriciate it
Ways you can help:
• send me food by ordering me take out somewhere local to me, and have it delivered to my house.
• donate money to me to help get me out of the negative.
• have a grocery service deliver me groceries.
If you cannot help, I completely understand, but just sharing this post gets me out to people who may be able to.
Boozhoo (hello), my name is Ken, I am a disabled Ojibwe artist from northern Wisconsin. I am writing this post because I am having a hard time making ends meet and any donations I could possibly receive at this time would be greatly appreciated. Recent events have left my bank account depleted and my cupboards bare, I have some food but it will not last and I still do not know how I will cover all the utility bills.
I do have PayPal, that is really the best way to donate at this time, the email I use for that is: baapimakwa@gmail.com, or you can click here.
The utility bill for September is in and I definitely do not have the funds to cover it this month, any help is greatly appreciated.
On top of everything I am still short $80 for the utility bill
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