If you think of asexual as “not having a sex drive,” then you’d probably be surprised to learn that aces used to be a part of the bi community.
But if you think of it as “not having a sexual orientation,” then it might suddenly become clear.
Because in a world where so many people only ever think of, or mention, “gay or straight” as possible orientations, there’s not that much difference between “not having a sexual orientation” and “not being either gay or straight.”
When the question is only framed as “which of these opposite points does your arrow point to,” I don’t feel like there’s a huge difference between your answer being “point???????” or “arrow???????”
we’re really gonna go back to ‘women should just choose to not date men and call that lesbianism!’ again huh
we’re gonna do part 2 of this? in 2018???
it’s such an insult to bi women AND lesbians to just dismiss how fucking hard it is to love women. and it’s an insult to bi women and straight women to act like we’re dumb or less woke for potentially loving men as if we had a choice in the matter.
and, yeah, i am defending straight women here. like… it’s not funny or just pitiable that every time they develop feelings for men and act on them they risk severe violence (physical or otherwise) from their oppressors. the idea that one of the most pure feelings in the world (love) is an inherent risk for women of all sexualities isn’t like… funny or a race to prove how your love is more work. loving men? is a huge fucking risk when it comes to things like domestic violence, being forced to take on domestic labor, and just about all the other shit that comes with being with men. loving women? is a huge fucking risk when it comes to homophobic violence and other forms of discrimination.
women’s attraction, desire, and behaviour is framed as a lose-lose-lose situation and to act like we can just “choose” a better option is fucking insulting. there’s really no better term for it–it’s just insulting.
“Well, women can just choose to not date at all if they aren’t attracted to women!” The idea that women must live lives without romantic love because being with men is such a risk isn’t like… something we should celebrate or act like it’s an easy task. It isn’t fair to put the onus back on women to “protect themselves” from men instead of putting the onus on men to end patriarchal oppression or at least be decent enough individuals that women can feel safe loving them.
And let’s not forget that women in relationships with other women can also still be ast risk of abuse and violence. Not as high a risk, perhaps, but one still.
I was so worried that someone wasn’t going to bring up abuse by other women. Like one of the most recent people I was seeing had to call the cops on her ex because she decided to come home drink and beat her up after she spent the night with me when her gf was the one who pushed us into going on the date in the first place.
She tries to take back her families business only to find that it’s been taken over by a cult of Evil Cowboys
are you kidding i’d watch the fuck out of this
Her love interest is an Actual Cowboy from the Old West who was the greatest gunslinger of their age and who won countless duels, but they still aren’t as good at it as she is because of Reasons
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