Couple Mourning Their Cat Find a Note from a Stranger Whose Life was Touched by Their Cat
A couple from the UK were saddened when their cat suddenly passed away, but little did they know that their beloved feline had helped fill a void in a stranger’s life.
Bear and his brother Teddy were always together, sharing their every adventure. What their humans (reddit user TravUK) didn’t know was that they had made a friend next door for quite some time.Two weeks ago, Bear suddenly passed away. As the couple was still in mourning, they came to find a note attached to Teddy’s collar one day. That’s when they realized that someone else they had never met was also missing their cat.The note reads: “Dear Owner; I’m your neighbour, living in 4. I’m also your cats’ close friends as they (2 cats) are used to coming to my room everyday. But one of them, a bigger one has disappeared for two weeks. Is he ok? I’m so worried about him. He is so lovely cat and always touched my heart. Wish he is fine. – Y.T. 2/March/2017.”
“We posted a letter back into number 4, saying that our other cat had passed away. We also included our email address,” TravUK said.When they woke up the next morning, they received a lengthy email from the neighbor, explaining how she loved her time with their cats, especially Bear.
The cat admirer is an exchange student from China studying at a nearby University. She loved every second she spent with Bear as he filled her heart with joy and kept her company when she needed a friend. As a student studying overseas, she experienced being homesick. Bear was able to comfort her and remind her of home.The email she sent touched the couple’s hearts. She shared how she used to practice her university presentations to Bear. “He would sit on her bed and listen… she didn’t have anyone else to practice with. Very touching… She even attached some pictures they had taken of my boys which warmed my heart,” he said.
The neighbor visited Bear at his grave in their garden and brought him flowers to show him just how much he meant to her. “Makes you proud that he could brighten up more than just my households lives.”
Here’s the thing about being a “perfectionist”, the anxiety doesn’t come from “this has to be perfect and even if I have to do it 100 times.” The anxiety come from “if I don’t get this perfect or correct on the first try, then I’m an idiot and a total failure.”
A lot of the time, this is not an idea that people have just pulled out of thin air, either. That message has been pushed at them to the point that they’ve internalized it.
to me, one of the weirdest things about our economy right now is the credential inflation
like my dad got a job as a mechanic when he graduated high school, and he was employed with a high school diploma to a full time job with a union, and had health insurance and benefits.
at this point, I have graduated from high school, have a Bachelor’s degree, have a Master’s Degree, have two years of experience working in my field, and am a due paying member of multiple professional organizations. And that qualifies me to compete in a two-stage interview process for a part time job that offers no health care.
This is what decades of stripping the working class of their rights looks like.
If you were in a social skills class or a life skills program, did they ever teach you:
-The signs of a toxic/abusive friend, family member, partner, spouse, etc,.?
-How to cut off a toxic/abusive friend, family member, partner, spouse, etc,.?
-What to do if someone touches you in a way you don’t want them to?
-How to deal with suicidal ideation/feelings/thoughts?
-That you can tell someone to not touch you if you’re not comfortable with being touched?
-How to tell if someone is trying to take advantage of you?
-How to defend yourself if you get mugged?
-How to know if someone is lying to you?
-That it’s okay to fuck this shit up sometimes?
-General self-advocacy?
Because to my knowledge, I wasn’t taught shit about these in social skills classes. But IDK if my schools just had shit social skills programs or if this is happening everywhere.
I wasn’t taught the signs of an abusive person until my first year in college, in my Sociology class AFTER THE EMOTIONAL ABUSE HAPPENED.
If I was taught those in high school, especially for social skills because a lot of abuse tends to rely on manipulating communication, it would’ve probably saved me so much time and effort.
Blackfeet Nourish has been providing food for the Medicine Bear Shelter and Blackfeet Food Bank for more than six years. The month of February has been grueling. Blackfeet [Nation reservation] has been hit by blizzard after blizzard with hurricane-force winds. Many people around Blackfeet Nation are both trapped in their homes and trapped out of their homes, in shelters, and other people’s homes.
100% of the donations will go to food for the Blackfeet Nation and dispersed [by] the shelter and as directed by Blackfeet Tribe’s Incident Command Center.
The state of Texas inserted itself into a lawsuit in federal court Tuesday to help argue that a black high school student was required to stand for the Pledge of Allegiance, once again kicking the political football of flag protests into play weeks before the fall election.
NFL players who have taken a knee during the national anthem to protest racial discrimination loom large over the case, which began when India Landry sued the Cypress-Fairbanks Independent School District last fall after school officials threatened to expel her for remaining seated during the Pledge of Allegiance.
Landry — then 17, now 18 — was attending Windfern High School in Houston last fall, where she had abstained from the Pledge of Allegiance more than 200 times without a problem, she said in a complaint filed in federal court. But on Oct. 2, 2017, she was in Principal Martha Strother’s office when she refused to stand during the pledge. “Principal Strother upon seeing this immediately expelled India from school saying ‘Well you’re kicked outta here,’” the complaint continues, adding that a school secretary then added, “This is not the NFL.”
On Tuesday, Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton, a Republican up for reelection in November, filed a brief in US District Court for the Southern District of Texas on behalf of the state, asking a federal judge for permission to argue against the student in order to defend a state law that mandates parental permission for students who sit out the pledge.
“Requiring the pledge to be recited at the start of every school day has the laudable result of fostering respect for our flag and a patriotic love of our country,” Paxton said in a statement. “This case is about providing for the saying of the pledge of allegiance while respecting the parental right to direct the education of children.”
But the student’s lawyer, Randall Kallinen, told BuzzFeed News that he believes Paxton’s moves are political.
“It’s election time,” said Kallinen, adding that, while the state can defend its laws by joining lawsuits, the press announcement was designed to get votes. “This is to further their Republican values.”
Kallinen pointed out that Landry’s mother, Kizzy Landry, supported her daughter’s choice to stay seated. But, he said, President Donald Trump chastising NFL players has inflamed conservatives. “Trump condemns the people kneeling for the national anthem, and he said we should kick the bums out,” Kallinen said. “When he said those words, he emboldened people within the school district to punish kids who sit during the Pledge of Allegiance.”
Asked why she sat out the pledge, Kallinen cited Landry’s comment to local news stations and added, “Generally the same things, in many ways, as the people who kneel at the national anthem during NFL games.”
Conservatives have seized on the debate over kneeling during the anthem as the midterm elections approach, including in Texas, where the protests have been seen as a convenient wedge issue for Republican candidates.
Landry told KHOU shortly after the incident, “I don’t think that the flag is what it says it’s for, for liberty and justice and all that. It’s not obviously what’s going on in America today … I wouldn’t stand because it goes against everything I believe in.”
“They were making rude comments saying ‘This isn’t the NFL, you won’t do this here,’” she said of school officials.
On Oct. 5, Landry and her mother, Kizzy Landry, attended a meeting with the principal, who said India must stand for the pledge to be let back in at Windfern High School. “Principal Strother said that sitting was disrespectful and would not be allowed,” according to the complaint. “Principal Strother suggested that India write about justice and African Americans being killed. Ms. Strother then said the meeting is over and if India does not stand for the Pledge she cannot return to Windfern.”
A cascade of lawsuits over the Pledge of Allegiance has risen through US courts for decades, most notably West Virginia State Board of Education v. Barnette, in which the Supreme Court held a student could sit out the pledge in protest. However, the issue in Texas and some other states is more nuanced. In Florida, which also has a law that requires parental permission for students to opt out of the pledge, a lower court judge ruled in a student’s favor. But later, the Circuit Court of Appeals for the 11th Circuit issued a mixed ruling, largely reversing the lower court. It found that a student could skip the pledge, but it ruled the parental permission law was not unconstitutional on its face.
As Paxton pointed out in the Texas brief Tuesday, the Texas Legislature enacted Texas Education Code Section 25.082(b), which states, “[t]he board of trustees of each school district … shall require students, once during each school day at each campus, to recite … the pledge of allegiance to the United States flag in accordance with 4 U.S.C. § 4.”
“Texans also recognize that a critical aspect of the liberty guaranteed by the United States Constitution — and represented by the United States flag — is a parent’s right to direct the education and upbringing of his or her children,” the Texas brief said. “A State may act to protect that interest, and the Texas Legislature did so by giving the choice of whether an individual student will recite the Pledge to the student’s parent or guardian.”
But Kallinen contends the state has no legitimate interest in whether students sit or stand for the pledge, and he notes that the court ruling in Barnette protected a student’s right to abstain from the pledge. “I say let’s go to the Supreme Court and ask them.”
This is yet another reason why Texans need to vote out Ken Paxton and replace him with Justin Nelson as #TXAG.
There’s a fine line between “pushing yourself out of your comfort zone” and “pushing yourself into a mental breakdown” and we need to fucking find it and stop encouraging people to do the second in an attempt at making them do the first.
A German pedagogue named Tom Senninger developed this model called the “Learning Zone Model.” Senninger talks about three zones: comfort, learning (or growth), and panic. I think that’s really important because some people do talk like anything “outside your comfort zone” is automatically good and brings growth.
But Senninger knows that you can only stretch so far before you’ve stretched too far. Both experience, personal work, and therapy can help expand the first two zones and shrink the third, but we’ll always have that place where panic and/or pain sets in, and our goal should be to recognize and respect that in ourselves and others, rather than force ourselves or someone else to “push through it.” There is no “through it.” The only thing on the other side of the panic zone is more panic.
It’s also important to keep in mind that your comfort zone might be someone else’s panic zone. Just because you don’t think someone is pushing themselves doesn’t mean that they really aren’t.
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