No one actually wants proof someone was raped or assaulted because they’re willing to give men the benefit of the doubt in literally every microform that they can. If a woman’s assault was taped someone would say footage was manipulated, “that her body said yes,” that she didn’t resist enough, that she didn’t scream, that she didn’t fight. There are no ethical or moral bounds with which people won’t cross to denounce the totality of women’s sexual brutalization
You know I thought about it some more and honestly believe that even if a man were willing to acknowledge a woman was raped or assaulted he would do everything in his power to downplay this crime in every way he could. To be perfectly clear I 100% believe Republicans would continue to vote Kavanaugh in even if there was irrefutable proof that he assaulted Dr. Christine Blasey Ford. In fact some Republican women are saying just that.
The root of the matter is when undeniably confronted with women’s sexual brutalization, people repeatedly choose to look the other way, because they don’t care about women
That last quote from the clipped article is chilling, because sexual assault is so normalized that even some women will totally dismiss it.
I knew men in college that didn’t know a woman couldn’t consent when drunk and openly admitted (angrily) that they never had consentual sex if that were true (it is). They believed that this is just the way things were. I knew women who thought that, too, and they didn’t realize they were survivors themselves.
Men refuse to accept that these thing consititute rape and sexual assault because it means that they themselves are rapists. It is a defense mechanism at best and outright malicious behavior at worst
This
is Basket Owl (a baby great horned owl). Its mother, who is perhaps a
first time mother, selected an old, very small (for an owl) crow nest at
the top of a tree. Not surprising to the people watching her constantly
pulling her baby back under herself as it bulged over the edges of the
nest, the baby fell out when very young. Thankfully, some kind humans
noticed and instead of absconding with the baby, they grabbed a new nest
(a deep basket) and secured it part way up the
nest tree, then placed the baby in the basket. Thankfully, mom realized
this was a much better nest and resumed sitting on her baby in their
new home. This is Basket Owl yesterday, several weeks after its rescue,
doing well and in the “brancher” phase (i.e. not quite fledging, but
moving around in the tree a bit). It’s such a cute puff and a testament
to people trying to keep the baby with its parents instead of just
kidnapping it with good intentions.
Please, if you encounter baby birds this season, do your best to place
them back in the nest or up in a bush or tree, off the ground. Don’t
immediately take the baby and accidentally kidnap it. If the nest seems
to have broken, find a cardboard box or a small basket, place the baby
inside, and secure it up in the nest tree, off the ground (the parents
are very likely going to find it). If you feel the bird may be
legitimately injured, call a bird expert or rehabber BEFORE taking the
baby away from its parents.
Enjoy watching all the cute baby birds this season!
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Could you imagine if Hillary Rodham Clinton or Sonia Sotomayor or Ruth Bader Ginsburg had been this angry during a congressional hearing?
people FLIPPED SHIT at Sotomayor for running a hot bench (that is, asked questions of parties during oral argument) because it was “aggressive” and “bullying.” female lawyers are regularly subjected to “no-crying motions” by opposing parties to undermine them in the courtroom. any woman pulling the shit kavanaugh is doing would be fucking crucified.
the reason that social and sexual dynamics are screwed is that most people don’t like most people, but still want things from them.
i was thinking, for example, about the “respectful promiscuous” male archetype. the kind of guy that gets laid a lotand is very good at sex, and so acquires a reputation as being some kind of player, with the implication that being a player means being kind of a jerk. women like him, so of course he doesn’t care about them. except that in reality, the reason he gets laid a lot is that he really really–almost to the point of weirdness–likes women. people focus on the negging part of game, the idea of manipulating someone into seeking your approval. but half of the fun of being teased is the idea that someone is paying enough attention to you to tease you. when it’s well-intended, teasing is an attempt to build intimacy and rapport. it’s attractive because the attention part is complimentary while the “insulting” part reassures you that you are not being pedestalized. it suggests that you 1) like someone, 2) as they are. it’s a kind of pact to be okay with each other’s imperfections. teasing is just a shortcut, though. as long as someone believes that you like them for “authentic” reasons, attention is extremely attractive.
so people (notjust women, this is a broader social principle) “like jerks” because jerkishness is a signal of authenticity, but they will absolutely accept authenticity in other forms. confidence is attractive because it assures people that you like them because you like them (or will like them because you like them, if they can convince you to like them), not because you want people to like you so you can feel good about yourself. imo, the focus on the idea that confident = high status = attractive obscures this more important reality, namely, that people really like being liked.
problems happen because unless you’re a rare charismatic bird that likes everyone, you probably can’t give credible signals that you authentically like all the people that you might want social or sexual validation from. this is why “be yourself” is seen as the best advice to win friends, lovers, and social influence. it’s an admonition to make your (liking-people) signals more credible. which is great advice, in some ways, but often feels like terrible advice because the more actually credible (rather than fake-credible) your signals become, the more the pool of people you can convince you like them shrinks.
Not sure how much of this i agree with but I will say that I think it is spot on about teasing. In my experience as a slightly neuroweird human who often takes things too literally but can sometimes reason my way out of doing that:
Teasing between friends makes sense to me because I already know they like me. Either they are making note of flaws I actually have and assuring me they know about them but don’t take them too seriously, or they are bullshitting. In either case, I know what they are doign and can laugh at myself.
Teasing from people I don’t know confuses me, because I don’t know if they are saying my flaws are deal breakers, letting me know they see my flaws and can use them to hurt me, etc.
This is why negging as a strategy has always confused me.
I dont know how you could find a line of logic in that to agree with. It looks like a bot wrote it.
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