argumate:

intel-i386:

thathomestar:

eidolous:

mockwa:

Russian roads, only 30 sec

What’s with Russia and dashcams?

to have car insurance in russia, dashcams are required because russians are terrible drivers

did you really need to ask what’s up with dashcams in Russia after watching this video

still doesn’t beat that dash cam footage of the meteorites coming down and the guy just grumpily adjusts his rearview mirror to avoid the glare and keeps driving

lord-kitschener:

Quick question wtf is wrong with people who go on posts where someone’s upset about how they’ve had their life ruined by medical bills/lack of access to care they need to be like “wow that’s terrible 😦 in my country 🙂 that’s free/super cheap 🙂 and it’s easy to access 🙂 I don’t get why ur country keeps picking such shitty laws :)”

Like how did your parents raise you thinking that’s in any damn way appropriate

Do you think most asexual people understand how awful it is to date a sexual person without disclosing beforehand? It makes me wonder if a lot of asexual people understand how powerful sexuality is for sexual people. Most of us don’t want relationships with people who just put up with sex. We want passionately enthusiastic sex partners. Being allowed to develop feelings for someone only to be told after the fact that sex is off the table is awful, it feels like being tricked.

aspergyneity:

geekandmisandry:

millenniumfae:

are you seriously under the impression that ace ppl dont know that others prioritize sex

why do you think we struggle with trusting our autonomy, why do you think we hesitate to date others and come out to allo partners

and no, you are not being ~tricked~. you developed feelings for an ace person that doesn’t view sex the same way you do, thats part of them as a person, the same person you had feelings for in the first place, and if you actually respected them as a person that’s not a trick. ‘being allowed to develop feelings’ are you kidding me what entitlement is this

yeah yeah passionate sex is what you want. but us ace people will stay concerned about our own safety and sexual rights before we begin to worry about your dating preferences. itd be nice if you people began meeting us in the middle 🙂

“Tricked”.

Holy shit that’s some grade A entitlement. Sure, it’s disappointing to know you’re not compatible with someone, but they didn’t trick you by not telling you something intimidate about themselves.

As an allo partner to an asexual man – the kind of perspective that this anon is claiming to speak for – all I can add is that if your feelings for an asexual person vanish the second they won’t fuck you in the exact way you want them to? If you feel “tricked” or “lied to” because their sexual feelings aren’t up to your standards, or may not be compatible with yours?

You don’t love them. Not only do you not love them, but you never did.

If it’s true love, then you will be able to talk about what to do next. If you honestly care about their sexual autonomy, then you will listen to them and take what they suggest on board and you will meet them in the middle, just like you would for any allosexual partner. You will check up with them regularly to see if things are still comfortable and okay in that area, you will respect their boundaries (and stand up for them if you see other people disrespecting them), and you will not hurt them over who they are. Discuss with them what you would like, yes, but do not force or pressure or manipulate. 

I hate that these are simple, “don’t abuse your fucking partner” statements but it apparently, sadly, bears reminding for some people.

If they don’t want to have sex with you then of course it’s up for you to decide if you still want to continue a relationship with them – you don’t have to remain in a relationship that doesn’t fulfil you or makes you unhappy. I understand the fear that it can cause – am I going over a boundary? Are they being honest about being okay with this? What if I’m hurting them and they’re just not telling me? – and if you’re not used to the idea of someone having love but no desire, then it can certainly fuel some insecurities. If you really just can’t match well with an asexual person, then fair enough…

…But that’s not actually what anon is saying here – what they’re saying is they’re not only sad that an asexual person might not want to have sex with them despite them at least believing that there’s shared romantic feelings involved (which is honestly where this “tricking” shit comes from, because creepers gonna creep apparently), but they’re sad that any sex they might have with that asexual person won’t be enthusiastic enough for their standards.

That’s the sentence here that truly, deeply disgusts me: “Most of us don’t want relationships with people who just put up with sex. We want passionately enthusiastic sex partners.” I mean yeah, I’m disgusted by all of it, but people have noted above why the “tricking” comment smacks of entitlement – I want to really emphasise this sentence here about “enthusiasm” and “putting up with sex” because it’s not just entitlement to a sexual act, it’s entitlement to a specific sexual performance.

This person doesn’t just want sex with an asexual person, they want their ace partner to fake enthusiasm and sexual passion that they might not even have – during an act that they might not even enjoy. What the actual fuck is wrong with you, anon?

As I said, I’m dating an asexual man, and having discussed it – and we’ve discussed it a lot over the years – we’ve reached the compromise in which we do have sex. He is not passionately sexual, he’s described it as being like folding laundry in terms of interest – but he makes me laugh and he makes sure I’m feeling good, and he does it because he loves me. Why in the fuck would I complain about that? If he told me tomorrow that he never wants to touch me again then I will fucking deal with it because fucking him – much less trying to convince myself that he isn’t asexual – means so much less to me than loving him does, and I have done my best to let him know that.

Fuck off back to space, you absolute cock – you do not speak for me, or anyone else; just because you don’t understand or respect asexual people doesn’t mean they have to pretend to be someone else for you.

Spread the Spoons Strike

hotellesbian:

peoplescommissariat:

This is the main article from the new Wetherspoons strike bulletin ‘The Spoons Striker’, avaliable in PDF form for real world distribution.

It can be hard to live on the money we make. We spend most of our wages on renting damp flats, we have to walk to work when we can’t afford the bus, and we have to choose between dinner and a haircut. We’re forced to work as fast as we can for long shifts with barely any breaks, even when we’re sick or injured. We’ve seen the people we work with struggling to make ends meet, sofa surfing and scraping by. Meanwhile, Tim Martin is worth £322 million. Our work has made him, the bosses, and the shareholders rich beyond our wildest dreams, but we’re left a few weeks’ pay away from poverty.

We won’t take it anymore. That’s why we’re fighting back. They won’t listen to us when we complain, so we’re taking the next step. In two Brighton pubs we’ve taken the decision to all stop work and go on strike on October 4th. We’re fighting for £10 an hour and union recognition for every Wetherspoons worker in the country.

On your own, you can’t change anything. Hiding in the freezer, stretching out your break time, getting another job – none of it solves the problem. The bosses have all the power and they don’t give a shit about us. We know that we will only win when we fight together.

How do we know that we win when we fight together? Because we’re already winning. The recent pay rises didn’t come out of thin air.

In the past, millionaire shitlord Tim has argued against the idea that all workers deserve a living wage. He thinks it’s ‘unrealistic’ that we get paid enough to get by. But suddenly, just after two pubs announced they were going to vote on strike action, he changed his mind. Now we’ve shown we can stick up for ourselves, generous Tim is willing to give us a couple of quid extra out of the profits we make.

The abolition of 18-20 youth rates means than some workers will be going £6.60 an hour to £8.26. That’s two pounds an hour better – all because workers at just two pubs stood up to Tim and the bosses. Night shifts will get paid a pound extra per hour, and the tiny annual pay rise has been brought forward a few months. But it’s not enough. At minimum, we deserve £10 an hour – because everyone deserves a wage you can live on in comfort.

But as well as the national pay rise, we’ve managed to get stuff changed in both of our pubs. At the Post and Telegraph we gave our pub manager a letter signed by half the staff complaining about the way our rotas were done, and things were changed immediately. At the Brighthelm, we handed in a letter complaining about the introduction of night shifts and they were stopped straight away.

If just two pubs in one city can force the bosses to give us a national pay rise, then what could ten pubs do? What about twenty?

We need the get organised all over the country if we want to win more. Tim can afford to give up a bit of his £322 million to the people who work hour after hour making food, cleaning toilets, closing up and taking stock. But he won’t do it unless we force him too. The only way to force him too is to organise and fight back.

In Brighton, we’re members of the Bakers Food and Allied Workers’ Union (BFAWU). Unions are groups made up of lots of workers. Together, as part of a union, we can organise to immediately change our own lives. When you’re in a union, you don’t have to put up with a bad job, terrible wages, bullying managers or the rest of it.

We’re asking you, workers at other pubs across the country, to join the union and organise where you are. There are over 900 spoons across the UK. Workers in as many of those as possible need to get organised and take part in the movement. There are tens of thousands of us and only a few of them – together, we can run our pubs for the many not the few.

Weatherspoons workers will be taking coordinated strike action with McDonalds and TGI Friday’s workers on Thursday 4th October. 

yes! good for you wetherspoon workers, support this strike!

Spread the Spoons Strike

bunny-butch:

bunny-butch:

Having a halfway decent relationship with your abusive parent during adulthood is so weird. Its like, “oh mom, you’re so funny and cute! You violated me and made my childhood a living nightmare, causing trauma that I will never recover from, but nowadays you’re just a barrel of laughs!”

Like, its so great bc as parent and child you share a lot of mannerisms and personality traits, you’ve got a lot of in jokes, you just also have the heart wrenching awareness that this person will never, ever apologize for how they have victimized you, or even just admit to it