we’re really gonna go back to ‘women should just choose to not date men and call that lesbianism!’ again huh
we’re gonna do part 2 of this? in 2018???
it’s such an insult to bi women AND lesbians to just dismiss how fucking hard it is to love women. and it’s an insult to bi women and straight women to act like we’re dumb or less woke for potentially loving men as if we had a choice in the matter.
and, yeah, i am defending straight women here. like… it’s not funny or just pitiable that every time they develop feelings for men and act on them they risk severe violence (physical or otherwise) from their oppressors. the idea that one of the most pure feelings in the world (love) is an inherent risk for women of all sexualities isn’t like… funny or a race to prove how your love is more work. loving men? is a huge fucking risk when it comes to things like domestic violence, being forced to take on domestic labor, and just about all the other shit that comes with being with men. loving women? is a huge fucking risk when it comes to homophobic violence and other forms of discrimination.
women’s attraction, desire, and behaviour is framed as a lose-lose-lose situation and to act like we can just “choose” a better option is fucking insulting. there’s really no better term for it–it’s just insulting.
“Well, women can just choose to not date at all if they aren’t attracted to women!” The idea that women must live lives without romantic love because being with men is such a risk isn’t like… something we should celebrate or act like it’s an easy task. It isn’t fair to put the onus back on women to “protect themselves” from men instead of putting the onus on men to end patriarchal oppression or at least be decent enough individuals that women can feel safe loving them.
And let’s not forget that women in relationships with other women can also still be ast risk of abuse and violence. Not as high a risk, perhaps, but one still.
I was so worried that someone wasn’t going to bring up abuse by other women. Like one of the most recent people I was seeing had to call the cops on her ex because she decided to come home drink and beat her up after she spent the night with me when her gf was the one who pushed us into going on the date in the first place.
She tries to take back her families business only to find that it’s been taken over by a cult of Evil Cowboys
are you kidding i’d watch the fuck out of this
Her love interest is an Actual Cowboy from the Old West who was the greatest gunslinger of their age and who won countless duels, but they still aren’t as good at it as she is because of Reasons
You know sometimes I see those useless lesbian stories and I think to myself that can’t be true
Then I remember that before she asked me out my first gf kissed my cheek as a causal greeting, would always hold my hand in the hallway, gave me pet names such as “sweetums” and “babe,” would talk about how she wanted us to buy an apartement and raise a dog together in our twenties, one time literally straddled me and told me that she thought it was adorable that I was so flustered, like the list goes on and like,,, I still had absolutely NO IDEA that she liked me. And it wasn’t even that I was questioning if she liked girls because she was openly bi
Then when she asked me out I thought she was joking. Like. She had to do it again a week later, I was dating this girl for an entire goddamn week and I had no idea. And when she asked me out again, guess what? I STILL DIDN’T TAKE THE HINT!!!
Wanna know how I finally figured out that this girl I had a crush on for like almost a year at that point liked me? Because after she asked me out for the second time and we had our first kiss she said it was fun and we should do it again, so I told her to kiss me if she wanted to, so she did. Then she started making out with me. And. I still. Was not entirely 100% sure so. I stopped making out with this girl so we could have like a 5 minute “what are we” discussion. After she had already asked me out twice.
The real kicker? We had this discussion while she was not wearing a shirt. And I still felt like we had to have that conversation.
So yeah. If that can happen, I’m quite sure that someone could be on her 5th date with a girl and not know it. Like anythings possible for us lesbians at this point
I’m screaMING
trufax I’ve accidentally ended up on A Date with a girl that I didn’t realize was A Date until halfway through dinner… and the kicker is I’M the one that asked HER out!
Bad at flirting in gay? Yeah, I’m definitely that.
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