Month: September 2018

This evening: Another episode of “What Can I Do With A Couple Of Boneless Chicken Pieces Plus Assorted Vegetable Remains (Without Going To The Store)”.

We had some odds and ends stir-fry recently, Indian takeout the other night, some chickeny pasta last night, and I’m the only real vegetable soup fan here.

But, I spotted some coconut milk, so I guess Kitchen Sink Thai Curry it is. (Haven’t quite decided on red or green paste yet, but I try to keep both in the fridge.) Jasmine rice? Check.

What usually passes for meal planning around here 😅 “What do we have, and what’s not too repetitive for the one who cares more?”

tenderstatue:

republicanidiots:

animesocialistparty:

Capitalists will have children go without food before they give up even the tiniest part of their wealth.

I’ve actually asked Republicans why they’re against feeding children.  They believe the kids are hungry because their parents aren’t working hard enough.  Republicans think people will work harder if their children are hungry.  In other words, they believe it’s okay to TORTURE CHILDREN to get their parents to do what they want. 

re-reblogging because THAT’S SOME SOCIOPATHIC SHIT

eternallydaydreaming2015:

f1rstperson:

allthingshyper:

spoonie-living:

finnglas:

lechadodi:

angelofgrace96:

“I’ll remember” is the ADHD demon talking. You won’t remember. Write it down.

bold of you to assume i’ll remember where i wrote it, or even that i wrote it

Visual exhaustion is another symptom of ADHD, which means that if we see something enough times (or we see enough instances of something), it fades into background noise and we fail to notice it.

This is why a lot of ADHD people can stand living surrounded by mess/clutter, because it’s just visual background noise to us. We don’t even notice it anymore.

So if we write something down and see the note stuck up somewhere a lot – or if we write a LOT of somethings down and have a lot of notes hanging around – then we’re even less likely to think of/remember the thing because it’s just part of the scenery now.

ADHD is the Catch-22 of brains.

A very good thing to know about ADHD. Don’t fall into the trap.

A lot of folks in the comments are talking about writing on themselves or setting phone/calendar reminders. Your mileage may vary on those. You may also want to consider ways to set a habit of referring back to a planner or similar every day/hour.

To get those brain juices flowing, check out this Buzzfeed article on different ways folks with ADHD stay on top of things.

Readers, let us know if you have specific advice for this situation!

This is why sticky note reminders don’t work??

The mess clutter thing is something I’ve always had and ppl will walk in and be like “WHAT IS ALL THIS, HOW DOES THIS NOT BUG YOU” and i’m like literally why would i ever be looking at any of it????? What??

But then also if someone were to take the clutter and change it in some major visual way it messes me up for a few days bc then i’ll keep noticing it

So i guess my advice on this is make it intrusive and annoying if you’re gonna leave yourself reminders

Hmmmm…all of these sound like me.

I left my boyfriend because he cheated on me. He’s now twisting the story such that I’m the bad guy for being bigoted against poly people.

polyadvice:

I walked in on my boyfriend with another woman and I then and there broke up with him for cheating, something I told him at the beginning of our relationship told him was a straight red card for me. I moved out of our shared apartment and have tried to cut off contact, at least for the time being to get past my hurt. He claims now that he is poly and I am being intolerant and that was wrong to break up with him because of it and especially to label it as infidelity. He’s even gotten some of our mutual friends on board with his defense, telling me if he’s poly what he did was not cheating and I need to get over it and apologize for calling him a cheater. I do try to be tolerant. I have no issues with people who want to be in polyamorous relationships, but I know they aren’t for me. Him being poly was never something he communicated to me in the 6 years we were together, I wouldn’t not have entered into a relationship with him if he had. Is what he did cheating? Or am I being ignorant?

Wow. The cojones on that guy. This nonsense would be funny if it wasn’t so maddening. I don’t want to make this about me instead of you, but fuck do people like this give polyamory a bad name and make me want to explode with baffled rage.

You are not ignorant. You did everything right. You knew your boundaries and stuck to them. He is 100% in the wrong. There is no grey area or wiggle room in the situation you described.

This guy is an absolute disaster. Of course what he did was cheating. Do not second guess yourself on this. Do not look back. Cut ties with all those “mutual friends.” Find new friends. All I want for you is joy and fun. Do everything that makes you happy. Be self indulgent. I’d send you on a cruise if I had the money.

I’m being so blunt here because I think, from your letter, that you know how absurd his argument is, and just wanted a sanity check because you’re being massively gaslit right now. If you want me to actually dive into why he’s wrong, why “tolerance” does not obligate you to accept horrible behavior from people, why this counts as cheating – send me a follow up.

Very Tiny Animal Joins A Herd Of Wild Horses

rjzimmerman:

Excerpt:

In a herd of wild horses, it’s the lead stallion who often drops behind the herd as they’re running, helping to guide his group safely to food and water.

And so, whenever Clare Staples, founder of Skydog Ranch, a sanctuary in Oregon, sees Cassidy drop behind the herd of rescued wild horses, she can’t help but laugh.

At just 39 inches tall, Cassidy (who is named after singer David Cassidy) is far from being a wild mustang.

Cassidy is actually a miniature mule, or “mini hinny,” a mix between a mini horse and mini donkey. And even though he was saved at the last minute from a miserable place, and is several feet shorter than the horses with whom he’s bonded, that doesn’t stop him from thinking quite highly of himself.

“We tried to put him with the donkey herd several times,” Staples told The Dodo, “and he just goes under the fence and back to his wild mustang herd.” Cassidy was saved with a mustang from a kill pen in Waco, Texas, back in 2016. Kill pens are where unwanted horses, donkeys and mules are sent when no one wants them anymore; if they aren’t saved from these places, they’re sent to slaughter in Canada or Mexico. 

Very Tiny Animal Joins A Herd Of Wild Horses

sartorialadventure:

cestriankiwi:

josef-tribbiani:

bigwordsandsharpedges:

The native Maori people of New Zealand have tattooed their faces for centuries. They had a complex warrior culture before the arrival of Europeans, and suffered under early colonialism, but have experienced a cultural revival since the 60′s. 

The marks are called moko, and are etched with chisels instead of needles to leave grooves along with the ink. The true form is sacred, unique to each person, and distinct from European tattoos that mimic that traditional style.

There arent many pictures non combat related that look this badass

Actually most
Tā moko are done with modern tattoo equipment these days, but some people get them done the traditional way. And, as others have said, they’re not for Non-
Māori, as they have specific meanings and significance. If you want a tattoo with Māori

style, you can get a
kirituhi. These avoid any designs associated with particular tribes or famous people you’re not related to.

Kirituhi is a Māori style tattoo either made by a non-Māori tattooer, or made for a non-Māori wearer. Kirituhi has mana of it’s own and is a design telling the unique story of the wearer in the visual language of Māori art and design. Kiri means ‘skin’, and tuhi means ‘to write, draw, record, adorn or decorate with painting’.

Kirituhi is not restricted to only Māori people, and it is a way for Māori to share our cultural arts with people from around the world in a respectful manner, and for non-Māori artists to enjoy our beautiful art form as well. I happily do kirituhi for my clients around the world and it is a privilege to do such work for them.

Kirituhi is no lesser an artform than moko, however it is different and I believe these differences must be acknowledged and respected, so that the integrity of our taonga Māori – moko, is maintained around the world.

Moko is uniquely Māori and it is strictly reserved to be done by Māori, for Māori.

If either the recipient or tattooer do not have Māori whakapapa, then the resulting design is a Māori Style tattoo or kirituhi, NOT moko. The word moko originated from the Māori atua (god) of volcanic activity and earthquakes, Rūaumoko – therefore the origin of tā moko is divine and sacred – to me this is no small thing, nor should it be dismissed.

As my mentor once told me, ‘moko is about 99% culture, and 1% tattoo’.

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brooklynmuseum:

Half the Picture: A Feminist Look at the Collection is organized by themes that relate to urgent conversations happening today. One theme, No Surprise, is inspired in part by the #MeToo movement. It includes Sue Coe’s depiction of Anita Hill being burned at the stake (a reference to witch hunts) while the all-male, all-white Senate Judiciary Committee and press corps look on. 

During Clarence Thomas’s 1991 Supreme Court confirmation hearings, Hill accused Thomas of sexual harassment. Broadcast live to the nation, the hearings became a national scandal, with Thomas denying all allegations and eventually being confirmed, a position he’s held since 1991. The accusatory and disbelieving tone of both the committee and the media effectively put Hill, not Thomas, on trial. 

Nearly 30 years later, have things changed?

Sue Coe (born Tamworth, Staffordshire, United Kingdom, 1951) Thank You America (Anita Hill Trial), 1992. Photoetching on wove paper, edition 24/150. Gift of Marco Nocella, 2012.90.