when signing out forms to apply for disability / filling out a form for diagnosis
you’re supposed to fill it out as you on your worst days
like, I filled out forms that said I could do most things usually
like, my doctor added in the conditions like “yeah, they can feed themselves when not stressed” “they can do this when not stressed”
but how I should have filled it out was more like
“some days I can’t feed myself” “some days I can’t leave the house”
My doctor didn’t even know this, but I talked to someone who had worked with people with both developmental and intellectual disabilities for a number of years, and she told me to write down how it is for your bad days
this should be a thing they tell you, but it isn’t
part of the reason I didn’t get my autism diagnosis as soon as I should have is because I filled out forms wrong!
This also goes for filling out forms for disabled parking rights. I’ve been rejected multiple times for a pass cause I didn’t find this out till recently.
Wow
Also you’re generally supposed to fill it out as you are without help.
That throws me too. Because the more help I get, the more capable I get. It’s easy to forget what happens when the help falls away even partially let alone completely.
The medical staff that give me my autism diagnosis apologized because, in the letter they’re writing to help me get my status of disabled worker, they basically have to paint me as “helpless” and “almost unable to function on my own”. They have to amplify everything and basically invent a whole tragic story, otherwise I’ll just get rejected.
I haven’t read it yet, but I’m pretty sure it’s going to hurt to see me painted in this way.
It’s awful to think that, for just a bit of necessary help, you need to cry and beg and paint yourself as an helpless victim, who can’t do nothing if the righteous able-bodied/NTs in your life aren’t helping you. Sigh…
I am familiar with this post. I came across it for the first time when I was in the process of getting my own autism diagnosis and going on disability pay + disabled worker status.
I am surprised to say that, I didn’t have to act “pitiful”/helpless during this process, or write what I was like on my worst days. I just wrote what it was like for me on most days… 🤔 maybe i was “pitiful” enough then, or maybe I had other things going for me that I can’t think of right now… what do I know.
I do think that perhaps the MDPH (France’s disability office) is actually less strict than what the psychiatrists say.
This is the best and most scariest jump scare that ever definitely for-real scared me, a grown human being who is afraid of nothing but this jump scare
We are all the giant cat momma pretending to be surprised by her baby.
Boozhoo (hello), my name is Ken, I am a disabled Ojibwe artist from northern Wisconsin. I am writing this post because I am having a hard time making ends meet and any donations I could possibly receive at this time would be greatly appreciated. Recent events have left my bank account depleted and my cupboards bare, I have some food but it will not last and I still do not know how I will cover all the utility bills.
I do have PayPal, that is really the best way to donate at this time, the email I use for that is: baapimakwa@gmail.com, or you can click here.
I have the opportunity to move, and this is something I desperately need to do for my health and well being, I will have better access to medical care and the services I require. To make this work I am going to need to be bringing more funds than my disability payment, I really need to get some art together and get more things on my redbubble, I would love to do something like a patreon but I don’t think I can put out timely content at this time.
I have a scanner now, I am desperately in need of a new computer, I have been using a borrowed computer for the last few months and will have to give it back before I move, and it is not compatible with my scanner and I am unable to add editing software to it even if I could.
I am trying to raise at least $1000 at this time, for moving expenses and a new laptop, I am trying to move forward but there is so much holding me back and I need help.
I’m not even worried about the laptop at this point I just really need to move and I need help to do it, anything helps.
It’s Oct 1st, in just over a week I will be moving and I’m really hoping this works out. I figure I’m $400 short at this time.
Being mean isn’t funny. As adults we are often surrounded by people who are convinced that it is funny; who tell you confidently “I’m funny and I’m mean!” And I say: no, you’re using the same social leverage that bullies use. People laugh “with” you because they know that makes them part of the in-crowd, the safe place. If they don’t laugh, they could be next. This is how abusers get people to love them, I say, they surround themselves with harpies who are so terrified of talking back that they’ll laugh with you even if you’re horrifically un-funny.
And I think, in the age of the internet, we can stop pretending that being mean is lovely. We have all seen entirely pure videos on vine where nobody is hurt and we still wound up laughing. There’s easy access to millions of posts and videos and essays that are funny and don’t harm anybody.
My least favorite videos are those that the filmer is clearly making fun of someone who is just having harmless fun: and they’re usually bigoted. And I’m sick of it. I don’t ever find those amusing. The camera asks: come be in the bullying group, be mean to someone who just seems human.
But honestly I’d rather be in with all those people you hate for dancing with too-big bodies or because they sing off key and joyously. I’d rather be having fun too than making fun of someone. The truth is, every time you mock someone else, you’re telling the people around you “I’m not a safe person to come to.”
Urocyon's Jaunts 2.0 
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