there’s such a complete lack of compassion when people talk about girls in abusive relationships and it’s like unless you’ve been manipulated and had your self esteem been ruined to pieces by a boy who consistently gaslights you and makes you feel like you’re wrong all the time then please watch ya tone all right, is not something that’s easy to see until you get out and when you’re being abused, you’re not in the optimum state of mind to realise that you need to get out. It’s not easy at all and I don’t think messages like “girls allow themselves to be treated badly by guys” help, bcs no girl is *allowing* themselves to be abused
They’ve been broken down to the point where they don’t see his behaviour as abuse, they see it as love and they romanticise everything he does bcs they don’t know any better and if they do know better, they’re too fucking scared to leave so maybe just relax with the self righteous tone when talking about girls staying in shitty relationships yah
Honestly, people seem much more concerned with patronizingly, accusingly questioning why girls stay(ed) in abusive relationships than they do with those girls’ trauma or bringing abusers to justice. Different version of the same “you deserve this” bullshit those girls are already getting from their abusers. Really fucking helpful.
Speaking alongside Camacho is his colleague, human rights lawyer Julian Aguon, who adds, “Militarism is normalized on Guam. It’s part of our meat and drink. It’s a protein we have to work very hard to break down.”
The two lawyers pivot back and forth reciting a litany of adverse impacts, from a military housing allowance they say makes housing unaffordable for non-military residents to the military discounts for everything from gasoline and milk to baby formula and toilet paper.
Camacho says military service is incentivized to the point that it encroaches on identity. “You have this culture on Guam where everyone is very proud of being Chamorro but on the other hand you have this constant exposure to the military and militarization… It’s almost part of the narrative on Guam: all these great benefits from being in the military.”
Aguon adds, “In many young people’s minds the military service is the tried and true road to wealth and well-being and so they quickly get with the program.” With the military dangling financial incentives before Guam’s people, he says, it drives parents to encourage their kids to enlist.
“What’s happening now is but one chapter in a long and complicated book about the breaking of a people,” Aguon says, adding that militarization and colonization are inseparable.
this is an example of what i’m talking about. war as industry.
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