The “friend zone” and unrequited love are not the same thing. Unrequited love is, “I love you, you don’t love me in that same way, I am sad about that.” The “friend zone” is, “I love you, you don’t love me in that same way, you have therefore wronged me.”
Unrequited love is, “My unilateral crush is my problem.” The “friend zone” is, “My unilateral crush is your problem.”
if you see someone being interrupted in a conversation, acknowledge them, don’t let them be pushed to the side. if you see someone lagging behind, walk beside them. if someone is being ignored, take the step to include them. always remind people of their worth. it hurts when it feels like you’re being forgotten. that small gesture can mean a lot.
all adults have a responsibility toward the safety+well-being of all children they’re around, irl and online. i can’t believe this #hot take is controversial like. at all
When I go to conventions, my eyes are always open for kids who may have wandered off, because in that environment it’s real easy for parents to lose track.
And if a child wants to involve me in their play, then I will join in. In a manner that’s appropriate. I had a young boy ask to borrow my sonic screwdriver prop at a con. He promptly used it to pretend to kill a Dalek (I don’t know how the operator was not laughing out loud) and then handed it back. I could have been a mean adult and not trusted him.
And if you cosplay, you have a special responsibility to kids who recognize you, especially if you choose a child oriented character such as a Disney princess, a gem from Steven Universe…even a popular superhero. Or if the kid mistakes your Daenerys for Elsa (which has apparently happened to more than one cosplayer).
When you are around children you become part of the village raising that child.
If you see a child alone, look for their parents. If you see a child upset, find their parents.
Let them include you in their play.
Let them be kids. You don’t have to “like” kids or want kids, but do you really want to be written into that kid’s next imaginative play as the Grinch?
Because why should children ever have to learn boundaries or that they arent entitled to a person’s attention because of how they’re dressed? If you want to play with random kids, you go right ahead. But no one owes anyone their time and attention merely because it is demanded, no matter their age. Some people just want to go about their day in peace and they should absolutely get to. Learn to respect this. Dont be judgemental about people simply not being interested in acting like free public babysitters, just minding their own business and not bothering anyone.
As for safety issues or lost children, it’s best reported to security or police to handle. It’s their job and they no doubt have protocol for just such a situation. Seriously. This is what any expert will tell you, too. Dont take the child anywhere, call for help and let the people best equipped handle it.
And parents, parenting is a verb. Do it. Take responsibility for your own children. If you actually care about your kids, act like it.
1. I never said to take the child anywhere. I said to look for the parents. If they aren’t close, then yes, look for security. I don’t call the cops for anything but traffic issues these days. If the kid’s black in America for the love of whatever you call sacred don’t call the cops.
2. No, you don’t have to play with kids, but if you’re dressed as their favorite superhero and are nasty to them? That could put that kid off something they love. It’s not free babysitting, it’s giving that kid a *moment* with something they care about. But then, I’m talking about cosplay specifically, which is generally something people do FOR the attention.
If you want to be left alone, fine. I’m talking more about people who are fine getting attention from adults but react badly to kids like kids aren’t people.
I’ve never actually seen what it looked like before Mt. Rushmore…it’s so saddening.
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Additional note, is more then likely that the people who commissioned this or the people who pushed for this KNEW that this place was sacred. And to push westernization and imperialism. It was intentionally placed here to effect native Americans; socially, emotionally, and via the perception of ownership.. THe same way confederate monuments conveniently pop up around the time of major civil rights events.
During coverage of Hurricane Florence, Hurricane Harvey, and a summer of raging wildfires, media outlets barely mentioned how climate change makes extreme weather worse.
After Hurricane Maria, they obsessed over Roseanne Barr instead.
You know, one thing that confuses me about this whole “political lesbianism v 2.0” that has taken over tumblr is the whole “bi women give their energy to men”
Like, what even does that mean? I let them use my wind turbines?
Boozhoo (hello), my name is Ken, I am a disabled Ojibwe artist from northern Wisconsin. I am writing this post because I am having a hard time making ends meet and any donations I could possibly receive at this time would be greatly appreciated. Recent events have left my bank account depleted and my cupboards bare, I have some food but it will not last and I still do not know how I will cover all the utility bills.
I do have PayPal, that is really the best way to donate at this time, the email I use for that is: baapimakwa@gmail.com, or you can click here.
I have the opportunity to move, and this is something I desperately need to do for my health and well being, I will have better access to medical care and the services I require. To make this work I am going to need to be bringing more funds than my disability payment, I really need to get some art together and get more things on my redbubble, I would love to do something like a patreon but I don’t think I can put out timely content at this time.
I have a scanner now, I am desperately in need of a new computer, I have been using a borrowed computer for the last few months and will have to give it back before I move, and it is not compatible with my scanner and I am unable to add editing software to it even if I could.
I am trying to raise at least $1000 at this time, for moving expenses and a new laptop, I am trying to move forward but there is so much holding me back and I need help.
I’m not even worried about the laptop at this point I just really need to move and I need help to do it, anything helps.
Tomorrow (10/13) is the day! And as anyone who has moved before knows I’ve forgotten a thousand things, gonna need to stock some cupboards, and actually get some cupboards, also a shower chair, and I’m going to need a new frame for my bed, physically I can’t get up off the floor.
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