Ever since I bought my first embroidery machine I said I’d start customising my clothes like this. It’s only taken me 2 years to get around to doing so. I used metallic thread but you can’t really see that in the picture.
+ Chronic pain too. I talked about this a bit when I did my podcast interview. How my brain starts over-analyzing all the steps. And you don’t think about it but it really is that many steps you just don’t have to take that into consideration when your body and mind work like they should.
The TL;DR is that this is why I sometimes “forget” to eat. Food has just become rather low on the hierarchy of needs.
Well said, with the hierarchy of needs observation. And a lot of people who haven’t experienced this just don’t understand how that’s possible.
That can also make for a great combo deal: seriously limited energy/ability, on top of existing executive function problems and tendencies to get stuck.
(Including limited energy to put toward working around it, but yeah.)
That said, at least IME this example sounds more like a straightforward executive function thing than the getting stuck kind of inertia. Chronic illness/pain can really complicate both.
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Do exclusionist really think that when we say “include aspecs, even cis aroaces and cis het aspecs” we mean to say that they can weigh in on conversations about how homophobia and transphobia affect us or any other conversations specific to gay/bi/trans/nb people? Because it’s really not
Cis aroaces and cis het aspecs would be able to weigh in on discussions about acephobia and arophobia and how it affects ace and aro people, as well as general discussions about cisnormative and heteronormative society and oppression and how to tackle things like homophobia, transphobia, etc
Being part of the lgbt community doesn’t and never has meant you can speak about the experiences of other people, I’m a cis lesbian so I’m not gonna start talking about how transphobia and biphobia have affected me, but I can talk about how homophobia and lesbophobia affect me
This is the problem with exclusionists.
They think that’s what we mean when we say “I think cis/het aces/aros should be included” because in their minds, their inclusion in the queer community gives THEM the right to talk over the experiences of people with orientations that are not their own.
Ever notice how much overlap there is in the way ace exclusionists talk about aces, with the way biphobes talk about mspec folks, with the way terfs talk about trans folks? And also the way that all those people talk about orientations that are not their own? Like they know better than the person they’re speaking over.
There’s this attitude in any group that tries to gatekeep the queer community that they are the ultimate, all knowing authority. And if they haven’t experienced something (which they wouldn’t have anyway, because they’re NOT ace/bi/trans/whatever) it CLEARLY doesn’t exist.
It’s a superiority complex problem for the most part. That’s exacerbated by the identity politics/oppression olympics on tumblr.
Hey so, I need help. Desperately so. Through a series of dramatic errors by the government, I’m not receiving benefits, and I’m technically homeless and surviving on good graces, and I’ve got car insurance and tax to pay, plus like. I gotta eat. I don’t have a lot worth money to sell, but I was planning on opening an Etsy shop, and I’ve finally done it in sheer panic. I’ve not got a lot up, but all pearls come with sterling silver or rose gold plated sterling, and I have plenty of gemstones and silver/gold plated findings that if you want something specific, I can probably do something like it!!! I need about £150 to get my bills covered by the end of the month, so even if you can’t help me please boost!!! I’m going to keep making stuff and throwing it up, so if you can save my backside, I would be. So bloody grateful.
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