radicalecks:

dykealectics:

tranarchist:

Remember the TERF group that
spent £40,000 on a full page ad attacking trans rights in the Metro newspaper, which was apparently funded by US-based conservative Christian groups?

Now they’re boasting on fb about encouraging random men and “gangs of lads” to commit violence against trans women.

TERFs will claim in one breath to be against male violence, while with the other they incite this very same violence against the women they hate.

handing out propaganda to men and encouraging them to enact violence upon already oppressed people in order to supposedly “protect their wives and children”… not like that’s such a common and exclusive tactic of reactionary hate groups that it’s a hallmark of fascist organising or anything 😬

TERFs aren’t just silly internet weirdos with regressive beliefs; they’re a hate group with a very clear mission statement in removing trans people totally from the public sphere if not eradicating them entirely. Their politics are inherently violent and they will seek to enact that violence whenever they get the chance.

It’s not just internet discourse. This shit has a bodycount and they’re looking to increase it.

“protect our children” Hey assholes, the people you are encouraging violence against ARE your children. Attacking your children and claiming you are doing it in order to protect them is really fucked up.

tilthat:

TIL that wolverines are being trained to find and rescue avalanche survivors, because they are naturally inclined to sniff out animals 20 feet below the snow and eat them.

via reddit.com

Good news! You will not be crushed by snow.

Bad news! You must fight a wolverine to survive.

Black senior citizens ordered off Georgia bus taking them to vote

thecringeandwincefactory:

lame-and-corny:

…When they’re suppressing votes, they’re going to come up with any kind of excuse about what your problem is.

…
After the seniors got off the bus, they were initially told they could
ride in a county van provided by the senior center to go vote, Brown
said. But then the seniors had to get off the van because the senior
center’s leaders decided it was close to lunchtime, and the seniors
could vote another day.

“Black Voters Matter had received permission in advance for the event at the senior center, Brown said. The event was originally intended to encourage seniors to vote, and when some of the seniors asked whether they could ride the bus to an early-voting location, Black Voters Matter agreed to take them.But someone apparently saw the bus, painted with the words “The South is Rising Tour,” and called county government offices, Brown said. That led to the phone call from the county clerk to the senior center. When they were asked, the senior citizens agreed to leave the bus.“

A while ago I fucked a (now former) male friend who I recently found out was a serial sexual assaulter and harasser. I was not 100% comfortable with how he approached me and was in a very vulnerable place at the time but I did consent. I know feel ashamed because willingly accepted what was forced on others and also signaled his behaviour was acceptable. I am interested in your perspective on this?

intrigue-posthaste-please:

pervocracy:

You know who should feel bad about this situation? HIM. He should feel bad. He’s the creep here. You’re the person who did the best with the information you had at the time. (Seriously, click that link, it’s a post with really good advice about forgiving yourself in a “I had no way of knowing… but somehow I should have known” situation.)

Honestly, it makes me angry (not at you) that you’re one of the people having to bear the emotional weight of this guy’s behavior. You shouldn’t have to, because it’s not your fault.

The decision he made was “I’m going to assault and harass people, pressure people for sex, and then keep it a secret.” The decision you made was “I’m going to have consensual sex with a guy I know.” There was nothing wrong with your decision.

I have had this experience and had to come to the same realization. I think the emotional core here is shame: you feel like part of you knew this guy was essentially an asshole, but unlike other people you disrespected yourself enough and had low enough self-esteem that you actually wanted him. This jerk who repulsed other people because he mistreated and harassed them – you’re the one person who welcomed him in. Feels bad.

But Cliff is right: recognize that what you’re feeling is shame that isn’t rooted in what’s really going on. What’s really going on, the fact of the situation, is you had sex with a guy. You did not hurt anybody. Maybe you feel you made a decision that didn’t turn out to be healthy for you, but that doesn’t make you anywhere near a bad person. Making decisions that later turn out to be unhealthy for yourself is an essential part of learning which decisions are healthy to make. That includes letting assholes into your life, and it applies even if part of you knew he was an asshole.

yeah okay lmao im gonna tell a librarian about my trauma so they can advise me about what books might trigger me. sure. makes sense.

lenyberry:

dragonmuse:

thelibrarina:

“Hi, I’m looking for a book with adventure, but no graphic violence.”

“I’m interested in a thriller that doesn’t have any rape scenes.”

“I want a gay main character but I don’t want it to be a coming-out story. And no anti-gay violence.”

“Oh, no, murder’s fine, but no animal cruelty.”

All separate reader’s advisory questions that I’ve answered, and successfully. I don’t know why any of these people asked for those specific parameters, and I didn’t ask, because it’s not my fucking business. And it’s no one else’s business, either–up to and including the government.

Librarians don’t make you reveal your trauma in order to justify what you read or write. You may be confusing us with, uh… *checks notes* …fandom.

We are literally trained not to ask. Any halfway decent reference professor nails it into you. Even if it would help you answer a question, you never ask a patron why they need something.

It’s really not that hard to understand that part of a librarian’s job is to help you find books you want to read. They don’t need to know WHY you want them, they just need to know as many specifics as possible about WHAT you’re looking for so that they can help you find it. Don’t want rape? Specify “no rape scenes”.

You can say stuff like “I loved the political intrigue in Game of Thrones, but there’s too much sexual assault (and/or graphic violence) for my tastes. Got anything similar without the rape (/gore)?”
You don’t even have to give that much explanation. You can if you want to. But you don’t have to. “I’m looking for political intrigue like in Game of Thrones but without the graphic violence / sexual assault”.

Just tell them two things: what you explicitly DO want, and what you explicitly DON’T want. Nothing more is needed.

Having spent enough of my life at the local library reading just about everything I could get my hands on… not once has a librarian done anything to make me feel judged about my book choices. I’ve had nerves about checking certain books out, but that’s me and my generalized anxieties from sources that are not “a librarian actually did or said something judgmental or made me explain myself”.