If you ever tell a disabled person that they can do anything they put their mind to, you personally owe me $10,000.
When I was in primary and high school we often had PE. I would of course be the slowest and clumsiest person on the field who always got tired way before anyone else. I don’t know about anywhere else, but at my school, sport was status.
I have distinct memories of Friday afternoon non-PSSA cricket. The entire time I was fielding, I felt like I was going to pass out, I could never catch anything. When I was batting, I could hear the groans and laughs from my team because I could only rarely hit the ball, and when I did it was never far.
I can clearly remember teachers telling me I wasn’t trying hard enough. That I was lazy and unfocused.
But here’s the thing. I did focus. I put my mind to it. Every single time.
I loved the feeling of running, when it didn’t make me feel like my bones would slide out of place.
The things those teachers told me? I believed them. Of course I did, what else was I going to believe? Society has a very strict and narrow view of what constitutes a disability and I am the first person in my family to have an active EDS gene.
When my health deteriorated significantly further and I discovered I had hEDS, my view on all my memories changed.
I don’t currently have the words to describe the sheer fury I now hold towards all of these people.
Moral of the story is that telling us we can do anything we put our minds to isn’t just ignorant, its downright harmful. Even now I still feel the flush of shame when someone says I can do something I know I can’t.
Besides, the very definition of disability means there are things we can’t do. So accept these differences and accommodate for them, don’t just pretend that our disabilities don’t exist because they make you uncomfortable. That’s your problem.
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if abusers convince themselves and you that they’re doing it all for your good,
it’s still not the truth, they are absolutely not doing it for your own good.
the only reason they would try to convince you and themselves such a load of
crap is to alleviate their guilt, because abusers don’t wanna feel any guilt,
that human feature is just, annoying to them, they’ll do or say anything to
make it go away. like blame you, name reasons why you deserved it or why it’s
to make you stronger or whatever bullshit they give you. And no matter what
they come up with, the facts stay the same. They abused you for their own good,
not yours. They did something that was satisfying for them and only caused you
harm and pain. There is no sufficient reason on this planet for one person to
do this to another.
Do any other autistic people get that moment when you see another autistic person has done something you’ve struggled with, and for some reason it makes you feel bad about yourself for being unable to do it?
Like, I’d never want others to have the struggle too, and I’d always be happy for them, but sometimes I do get that feeling where it makes me feel bad about myself
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I honestly don’t know how to tell you these shocking facts but fucked up things in stories were not invented by AO3
I literally saw that someone replied to a post that talked about content in public libraries saying that that content should be regulated as well and Im just like when your statement can’t be distinguished from something a Southern Baptist pastor would say you really need to take a hard look at what kind of belief system you’ve let yourself fall into.
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