fierceawakening:

leproblematique:

anti-anti-survivor:

And it was coined by misogynists who think that a woman having her own life and interests in romance or sex outside of pleasing men / pleasing her husband makes them rotten and no longer fit for the consumption of said men / husband. It’s a reclaimed term.

Sometimes I wonder if there’s a significant overlap between the dingleberries that absolutely REFUSE to understand why ‘fujoshi’ came to be as a self-descriptor (women tired as hell of being demonized for not being emotionally and/or sexually available to particular men or to men period) and the nitwits who still throw temper-tantrums over ‘sin’ used for fannish content, even when it’s been said again and again that the ‘sin’ doesn’t refer to the nature of the content, but to the gender of the people making and consuming said content (again, a bunch of women reclaiming what would’ve been an accusation hurled against them, with ‘wantonness’ and open sexual desire still being considered ‘sinful’ in women).

Personally, I could be wrong on this but I think it’s part and parcel of this weird… intense aggression against reclaiming slurs and insults.

When I was a young kinky queer people proudly called themselves perverts, dykes, leatherdykes, bykes (you never see that one any more!), queers, etc. There was a lot of tongue in cheek “I’m a monster, woo scaaaaary!” sorts of… taking pride in being something other people didn’t understand, or even feared.

Nowadays anyone who does any of that is dismissed not just as “an edge lord” but assumed to either be appropriating or self hating.

It’s really weird to me, because that particular way of responding to insults has pretty much existed as long as there have been humans.