With my own eyes, I just saw a lesbian on twitter say she was being oppressed by asexual folks because their flag is everywhere, and it’s asexual people’s fault that lesbians are now ‘the last on the conveyor belt in the LGBT community’.

Like. Dude, if you need a scapegoat for your suffering, capitalism is right there. Institutionalized religion is also a great contender. Saying asexuals caused all your suffering because their flag is slightly older and therefore more recognisable than yours is like. my god, have a snickers. 

No. No. If they want a scapegoat, turn to the TERFs. There was a perfectly good lesbian flag that was well known in the 90s, that nobody uses anymore because the TERFs took it over. It was known and used before the ace flag was a glimmer. You want to be pissed, get pissed at the part of your own community who is trying to set up walls. Take that shit back if you want it. Use it while holding signs of trans sisterhood. You gave your flag up and are looking for recognition for a new one. That’s why your flag isn’t well recognized yet. Signed a transgender man, former part of the lesbian community for ~14 years.

You want to be pissed, get pissed at the part of your own community who is trying to set up walls.

This is so important.

We need a tag or shorthand phrase for “that thing where the TERF/SWERF/radfem crowd invades lesbian communities, makes it seem like any attack on them is an attack on the lesbian community, drinks all the punch, poops on the floor and leaves the next generation growing up without symbols or a cohesive community”, because it’s fucking happening again.

This is the older lesbian flag, the one that got grabbed by radfems /
TERFs / SWERFs and that very few anti-radfem / anti-TERF lesbians ever
made a concerted effort to reclaim. The Labrys flag:

It was created in 1999, eleven years before the creation and popularization of the ace flag. That gets thoroughly ignored, because it’s not convenient to the radfem rhetoric of ‘lesbians are the most oppressed members of the community EVER’
(uhhh…. trans women of color would like a word? Trans people in
general? I’m not even going to get into m-spec people and every study so
far showing that our parameters re: everything from rates of sexual
violence to poverty are much worse than those of both straight and gay
people, because that’s not the topic of this post).

I want to be very clear on this. When a young lesbian who’s been brainwashed by radfems says that ‘lesbians are the last on the conveyor belt in the LGBT community’, what she means is ludicrous nonsense such as this:

  • all those ace pride flags? They should be lesbian pride flags instead, because under her beliefs, lesbians deserve absolute prioritization over other members of the community, on the basis of being ‘most oppressed’
  • the community being seen as a coalition of EQUALS IN MUTUAL SOLIDARITY isn’t
    acceptable (at least not at more than shallow, declarative level),
    because acknowledging equality of marginalized orientations and refusing
    to build the community under a hierarchy is seen as ‘de-centering lesbians’
  • remember what radfems actually said, in opposition to ‘queer’ as a term? ‘Queer de-centers and erases lesbians / lumps lesbians in with bisexuals and deluded men (hella transphobic code for trans women) and stops them short of naming their actual homosexuality.’ Changing the discourse to be solely about personal harm was a move of genius
  • attention being given to issues that affect ace/aro people / activism for ace/aro people
    automatically takes away valuable time, valuable resources and valuable
    effort, that should have been spent on lesbian issues instead
    – therefore, any sort of ace/aro-centric work and the presence of ace/aro people is harmful to lesbians.
  • hell, attention being given to issues that affect bi/pan people / activism
    for bi/pan people automatically takes away valuable time, valuable
    resources and valuable effort, that should have been spent on lesbian
    issues instead – therefore, any sort of bi/pan-centric work and the
    presence of bi/pan people (particularly ones that aren’t ‘SGA’) is harmful to lesbians
  • insert
    the exact same thing about nonbinary / genderqueer people, about trans
    people (though most of the Usual Suspects haven’t quite gotten to the
    point of open and blatant transphobia), about intersex people (it’s my theory that this is at the base of that sudden and widespread campaign of ‘drop the I, intersex people are making their own community’, even
    in the face of many intersex people who fought like hell for their
    right to remain included and to keep the letter. Some, like @vergess, got rewarded for their effort by being called ‘pedophiles’ and being run off Tumblr)

And I could keep going! The spearhead of radfem infiltration within lesbian communities if two-fold – one, the rhetoric of ‘you are the most oppressed and any sort of attention being paid to these superfluous identities directly harms you’ and
two, the notion that radfems are the ultimate champions of lesbian
rights, the ones who will make certain that lesbians are always centered
and prioritized. That’s how you end up with large recruitment into
radfem ranks of young, inexperienced lesbians, who (naturally) feel
flattered, protected and prioritized. That’s how radfems can shield
themselves of criticism for their fuckery, by saying that any criticism
of radfem rhetoric is an direct attack on lesbians. That’s how you end
up with wankery such as ‘TERF is a slur used to demonize lesbians.’ It’s
my prediction that in several years’ time, the currently-in-use lesbian
flag (the lipstick one) will end up as much of a widespread symbol of
radfems as the older Labrys flag, in the exact same way that the other
flag was taken over.  

What’s the solution? Widespread acknowledgement that no one is owed automatic centering solely on the basis of their identity and that the community wasn’t created to serve the needs of predominantly one or two groups. Thorough education on what ‘equality’ and ‘solidarity’ actually
mean in the context of the struggle against
cis-perisex-heteronormativity and actually implementing them in
practice, rather than keeping them on as empty buzzwords.
Acknowledgement that just because one has suffered under oppression, it
doesn’t mean that others haven’t as well and that acknowledging and fighting against the oppression others deal with doesn’t lessen or ignore one’s own.

Read this and then read it again. Keep it in mind another TERF/bi/panphobe/REG arbitrarily accuses you of Lesbophobia.

And don’t let them conceptualize themselves as representing the entire Lesbian community. That’s unfair to us AND lesbians as a whole

on Big Deal Moments in Discworld


















Guards! Guards! has one of the first Big Deal Discworld moments for me, and I’m not very good at articulating what that means.

The moment I’m thinking of is the dragon’s speech to Wonse – “we were supposed to be cruel, cunning, heartless and terrible. But…we never burned and tortured and ripped one another apart and called it morality.” That’s a passage that always makes me stop and reread it a couple of times. And it’s a small moment – it’s the only time we hear the dragon speak at all, and it’s a speech that has no bearing on the rest of the story. It could have been taken out of the book entirely and nothing would feel like it was missing. But the fact that it’s there is a Big Deal moment. The great big monstrous antagonist’s judgment of humanity is unavoidable in its accuracy.

And the Discworld series is full of moments like that. Sometimes it’s just one line, sometimes it’s a full scene, and most of the book is so full of shenanigans coming so quickly one after another that you don’t always see the Big Deal moments coming. We think of Pratchett as a humor/satire writer and yes, the books are hilarious, but in between the jokes are these Big Deal moments that casually rearrange our perspective and stick with us even after we think we’ve forgotten.

Then there are the other Big Deal Moments, that are Emotional Meteorite Strike Moments (e.g. the phrase “that is not my cow” can now instantly put me in the fetal position) but I’m having a hard enough time describing this one as it is so I’ll probably go on a tirade about those ‘round about that One Part in Feet of Clay. (You know the one.)

Suggestion: Reblog this with your favorite Big Deal Moment.

YES. It’s so fun hearing everyone’s Big Deal Moments! (although choosing just one is so hard…)

I think my favorite one changes, but right now it’s in Feet of Clay:

The vampire looked from the golem to Vimes.

“You gave one of them a voice?” he said.

said Dorfl. He reached down and picked up the vampire in one hand. “I
Could Kill You,” he said. “This Is An Option Available To Me As A
Free-Thinking Individual But I Will Not Do So Because I Own Myself And I
Have Made A Moral Choice.”

“Oh, gods,” murmured Vimes under his breath.

“That’s blasphemy,” said the vampire.

He gasped as Vimes shot him a glance like sunlight. “That’s what people say when the voiceless speak.”


All my Discworld books are packed, and usually I’m a City Watch guy, but the first moment like that for me, and still I think my favorite, was in the first Discworld book I read, Small Gods, where Didactylos the Ephebian philosopher is brought before the militant evangelist Omnian priest, Vorbis. 

Vorbis demands that Didactylos recant his claim that the world travels through space on the backs of four elephants who stand on the back of a giant turtle (which in Discworld is true). Vorbis insists that Didactylos agree that it is a sphere, as the Great God Om intended.

To all appearances, Didactylos easily and happily recants, saying something like “Sure, let it be a sphere” and Vorbis – for whom this is as much about humiliating Didactylos as it is about what’s “true” – decides to let him go. Didactylos gets all the way to the doorway before he turns, throws the lantern he carries into Vorbis’s face, and yells “NEVERTHELESS…THE TURTLE MOVES!” before legging it. 

I was thirteenish at the time and wrestling with religion, and I was familiar with Galileo and eppur si muove, but it’s never as satisfying for there to be a myth of a whisper when you want there to be a legend of a roar. Didactylos bashing Vorbis on the head and screaming the truth before beating feet was much, much more satisfying. And as someone who has never borne fools in power easily, it was an object lesson in how to do the thing. 

There is so much I sympathize with, when it comes to Moist Von Lipwig, but if I had to cite a “big moment”, it’s when he’s deconstructing the idea of currency.

“But what’s worth more than gold?“

“Practically everything. You, for example. Gold is heavy. Your weight in gold is not very much gold at all. Aren’t you worth more than that?”

When you get your head around the idea that something’s worth is based on a subjectively agreed upon set of standards, it can rock your capitalist-based worldview right to the core.

He was also the first character to articulate what has kind of become a guiding philosophy for me:

“Make the change happen fast enough and you go from one type of normal to another.”

There are so many for me, but the one that jumpstart out is death and Susan talking at the end of hogfather about the importance of believing in morality and goodness.

“Humans need fantasy to be human. To be the place where the falling angel meets the rising ape.”

I want to add one more, because I just finished reading Raising Steam.

The bit where Moist literally throws himself under a train to save a pair of children had me in absolute tears.

A lot of that book is really good to be honest. This line is also really good.
“That’s the trouble, you see. When you’ve had hatred on your tongue for such a long time, you don’t know how to spit it out.”

One of the top ones for me is one that crops up a couple times and a quote/comment that I use in conversation frequently.
I always remember it from in I Shall Wear Midnight;

‘What was it Granny Weatherwax had said once? ‘Evil begins when you begin to treat people as things.“

But of course it’s also in this conversation in Carpe Jugulum

Granny Weatherwax: “…And that’s what your holy men discuss, is it?”

Mightily Oats: “Not usually. There is a very interesting debate raging at the moment on the nature of sin. for example.”

Granny Weatherwax: “And what do they think? Against it, are they?”

Mightily Oats: “It’s not as simple as that. It’s not a black and white issue. There are so many shades of gray.”

Granny Weatherwax:“Nope.”

Mightily Oats: “Pardon?”

Granny Weatherwax: “There’s no grays, only white that’s got grubby. I’m surprised you don’t know that. And sin, young man, is when you treat people like things. Including yourself. That’s what sin is.”

Mightily Oats: “It’s a lot more complicated than that–”

Granny Weatherwax: “No. It ain’t. When people say things are a lot more complicated than that, they means they’re getting worried that they won’t like the truth. People as things, that’s where it starts.”

Mightily Oats: “Oh, I’m sure there are worse crimes–”

Granny Weatherwax: “But they starts with thinking about people as things…”

•People as things•

I always loved the line from the Hogfather mentioned above, but one that usually sticks out more to me from the same book is Susan’s reminder that “Someone should do something” isn’t at all helpful if you’re not gonna end it with “and that someone is me”

because nothing gets done if everyone just sits around thinking “someone should fix this” but no one actually gets up and tries to fix it

I’ll also add another one of my favorites from Feet of Clay which is “Someone’s got to speak for them that have no voices” [I’m probably misquoting slightly but that’s the core of it] and on a larger scale is that the same book gives a voice to one of those voiceless- instead of JUST speaking for [over] them, one of the voiceless gets a voice of their own and a platform to speak from which is so important on so many levels

“A watchman is a civilian, you inbred streak of piss!’

Just like that, in one angry  line, Commander Sam Vimes defines what a police officer is and by extension how they should act. A watchman is not a soldier, and therefor can (should) never act like one.

As a very, very young transgender person who didn’t quite understand what he was, this line from The Fifth Elephant stuck with me:

“But they at least shared one conviction—that what you were made as, wasn’t what you had to be or what you might become…”

It’s from the scene where Lady Margolotta is at the vampires’ society.  Now there are a LOT better lines about trans-ness—–that are actually ABOUT trans-ness, and not self-destructive behavior—–but… well, I was always pretty literal.

Also a line from Snuff.  I don’t remember it perfectly and I can’t find my copy, but it’s where Vimes is conversing with the Dark about the goblins.

“The hated have no reason to love!”

Again, it’s not a line explicitly connected to queerness, but I relate pretty heavily to it considering the amount of hatred queer people get.

I’m quite tempted to say the entirety of I Shall Wear Midnight, because really, that book hit home in so many painful and wonderful ways for me. But I think the pieces that really stood out the most to me, if I had to pick them – was this:

cook has told me that you are a very religious woman, always on your knees, and that is fine by
me, absolutely fine, but didn’t it ever occur to you to take a mop and bucket down there with
you? People don’t need prayers, Miss Spruce; they need you to do the job in front of you.”   

Of course the brown-haired quote:

“ But she had seen what they had not seen; she had seen through it. It lied. No, well, not
exactly lied, but told you truths that you did not want to know: that only blonde and blue-eyed
girls could get the prince and wear the glittering crown. It was built into the world. Even worse,
it was built into your hair colouring. Redheads and brunettes sometimes got more than a walk-on
part in the land of story, but if all you had was a rather mousy shade of brown hair you were
marked down to be a servant girl. “

And this one: 

“Poison goes where poison’s welcome.
And there’s always an excuse, isn’t there, to throw a stone at the old lady who looks funny. It’s
always easier to blame somebody.”

That one hit me the heaviest, I think. There were times reading it when I had to stop because it hit so close to home.

hands down my biggest Big Deal Moment is from ‘Jingo’ where vimes arrests the army for attempted murder.

the man. the legend. the boots.


“words in the heart cannot be taken”

pretty much the entirety of Thud!, especially the very end – you cannot make  vimes kill an unarmed man. Witches Abroad – granny Weatherwax putting the wolf out of his misery. Night Watch – when Vimes burns the cable street station – and then goes back in to save the torturer.  Tbh, most of vimes.

(The knowledge that Vimes has darkness in him, has the Beast in the back of his mind, caged and always ready to break out – but he /can/ cage it, and that needing to doesn’t make him less of a hero, has been incredibly important to me.) 

Probably my top two of all time are “Words in the heart cannot be taken” and “Sin is when you treat people like things.”

But there’s also this one from Unseen Academicals. At first glance it looks like just a pun, even if it follows on some heavy stuff, but there’s so much going on here:

“I would like you to teach [the orcs] civilized behavior,” said Ladyship coldly.

[Nutt] appeared to consider this. “Yes, of course, I think that would be quite possible,” he said. “And who would you send to teach the humans?”

There was a brief outburst of laughter from Vetinari, who immediately cupped his hand over his mouth. “Oh, I do beg your pardon,” he said.

“But since it falls to me,” continued Nutt, “then, yes, I shall go into Far Uberwald.”

“Pastor Oats will be very pleased to see you, I’m sure,” said Margolotta.

“He’s still alive?” said Nutt.

“Oh, yes, indeed, he is still quite young after all, and walks with forgiveness at his side. I think he would feel it very appropriate if you were to join him. In fact, he has told me on one of his all too infrequent visits that he would be honored to pass the rate of forgiveness on to you.”

“Nutt doesn’t need forgiveness!” Glenda burst out.

Nutt smiled and patted her hand. “Uberwald is a wild country for a man to travel in,” he said, “even a holy man. Forgiveness is the name of Pastor Oats’s doubled-headed battle-axe. For Mister Oats the crusade against evil is not a metaphor. Forgiveness cut through my chains. I will gladly carry it.”

There’s so much here that’s important to me. The way Nutt calls out Margolotta’s reference to “civilized behavior,” Glenda’s insistence that Nutt, as a victim of violence and conditioning, doesn’t need to be forgiven, and Nutt’s subtle implication that the struggle against evil means liberation and the breaking of chains.

I really loved the development of Mightily Oats’s character in Carpe Jugulum, and the first time I read Unseen Academicals I was wonderfully surprised to catch this glimpse of where his journey ultimately takes him. Nutt was kept chained up for years, because everyone knows that orcs are unthinking monsters – until Oats, a man who now spends his life battling with monsters, cut him free.

Sometimes PTerry manages to pull off a sentence that’s both a groan-worthy pun and a Big Deal moment. “Forgiveness cut through my chains” is one.

Reblogging this because that last scene means so much to me. And the Audible dramatization cut every single quoted bit and made the primary significance gratitude to Margolotta, which is an absolute betrayal of the story.




EVERYBODY knows (or should) that you DO. NOT. STOP. in Vidor, Texas. 

It’s best to just run out of gas elsewhere. Whatever you do, black folks, DO NOT STOP IN VIDOR, TEXAS. 

There’s a good chance you’ll get lynched or just come up missing – and I’m not joking.

also do NOT stop in Harrison, Arkansas!!!! (relatively close to OK and MI) a nazi town with a BIG KKK organization.

Reblog To Save Life

Unsurprisingly, Harrison also has a fucking terrible crime rate and really bad education. So much for “no bad neighborhoods.“ I suppose that’s technically true, when the entire town is bad, but not exactly in keeping with the image they’re attempting to project.

I mention this not because it really matters if their sign is true – their overt racism and facism is reason enough for anyone of conscience to avoid their cesspool of a town, and certainly reason enough or anyone of color to avoid it for their safety. But rather, to make the point to anyone who remains open to persuasion that “diversity” is ever the source of any issue whatsoever that there is no such thing as a peaceful bigot.

Hate is an internal poison which has nothing to do with any external factors. Even once they’d manage to scare off or kill all the POC, they just turned to attacking each other instead, because that is what hateful people do. In a town that’s 97% white, I wonder who the fuck they want to blame for their abysmal rape, assault, and theft rates.

The internet is real


The internet is real. The internet exists in the world and it affects the rest of the world.

I’m a person all of the time. I don’t stop being a person when I log on, and neither do you. It matters how we treat each other, and it matters what kind of culture we build through online interactions.

Further, no one can opt out of being affected by the internet. The interactions that take place online impact the whole culture, not just those who are directly participating online. For instance, whether or not someone ever uses a smart phone or takes a selfie, if they spend any time in cities, they’re going to encounter others doing so — and if they go to events, they’re likely going to encounter backdrops made for that express purpose. There’s no way to opt out of being affected by the existence of selfies and selfie culture.

There’s also no way to opt out of the way the internet can be used to attack people. For instance, for over a decade, had a hotness rating, and female professors couldn’t opt out of being affected by the way that encouraged sexual harassment. Similarly, Monica Lewinsky and others who have faced internet-aided attacks could not have made them go away by logging out.

Online interaction is even being used as a form of warfare. Most notoriously, Russian intelligence agencies successfully used Facebook, Twitter, and Tumblr to interfere with the United States presidential election in 2016. Even if I logged off today and never touched a computer again, I could not opt out of being affected by the fact that Donald Trump became President of the United States in early 2017.

At the same time, marginalized people are also using the internet to build forms of power and solidarity that we didn’t have before. Before I found disability selfie culture online, the only images of people like me I’d ever seen were all illustrating tragic stories about our parents. Connecting with other disabled people online made it possible for me to realize that I could be fully human without being cured — and that I could be taken seriously without becoming normal.

Similarly, not everyone uses Twitter or hashtags, but everyone lives in a culture in which #BlackLivesMatter, #YesAllWomen, and #MeToo are uningnorable. Privileged people have lost some of their power to silence and isolate people — and marginalized people have gained a lot of power to find and support each other.

The internet is real, and the things we do online matter. We can make better choices when we remember that what we’re doing is real.

(TW) Please help my mom leave an abusive relationship


I know these kind of posts can get annoying to some of you but right now this is really serious. My mom has been living with my father for more than 20 years ever since she left her poor situation to live with him. Ever since then she didn’t get a job and the only money she has is this very small heritage from her father that is currently on lock.

My mom has been trying to get a divorce for as long as I’ve been alive but my dad is a lawyer and of course he knows she’s terrified of being alone and poor again. My dad is very manipulative and often use his lawyer friends to scare her by saying she’d end up penniless if she left the house. I know that is not true, but turns out that she doesn’t have money to hire a lawyer of her own. Eventually she gave up.

This is very hard for me to share but two days ago my dad yelled and hit my mom and left a huge mark on her leg. I woke up to his yelling and when i left my room my dad was leaving and my mom was left crying. She is very depressed right now and hardly even leave the room.

She herself asked me to make this post so she could get enough money to hire a lawyer full time. I instructed her to not talk anything about this to my dad and move out to a friends house while getting better instructions from her lawyer. I’m scared that if she stays in she will either get physically abused or give up.

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