Day: July 3, 2018

glumshoe:

Sometimes asking people to tag certain things on their own blogs is uh… not… considerate. Sometimes it’s best to just unfollow. Asking someone with, hypothetically, a visible disability to tag their selfies with “body horror” or “injury” or something? Don’t do that. Just unfollow.

First Nations Prof From B.C.-Alaska Territory Forced To Leave Canada

cheatthis:

allthecanadianpolitics:

A First Nations woman working to revive a threatened language in her traditional territory of northern British Columbia says she’s being forced to leave the country on Canada Day.

Mique’l Dangeli belongs to the Tsimshian First Nation, whose territory straddles the border between Alaska and British Columbia. She says Canada won’t recognize her right to live and work in B.C. because she was born on the American side on Annette Island Indian Reserve.

Her visa expires July 1, she said.

“For me, what I consider home is my home community and my people’s traditional territory, which is northern B.C.,” she said. “We’re not immigrants to our people’s traditional territory.”

Continue Reading.

“The colonial border between the U.S. and Canada dissects Indigenous territories in ways that sever the lifelines between First Nation families, communities, languages and ceremonies,” Dangeli’s petition says.

Dangeli says she considered applying for Indian status in Canada, but learned the two-year process hinged on the baptismal record of her great-great-great grandmother in Prince Rupert, B.C., in the 1860s.

“So if she decided not to convert to Christianity I would not be considered an Indian under the Indian Act. The whole process is about one colonial institution affirming the power of another. It has nothing to do with our inherent Indigenous rights that predate colonial law,” Dangeli said.

This whole article is worth a read but this part deserved highlighting.

First Nations Prof From B.C.-Alaska Territory Forced To Leave Canada

trashgender-neurotica:

youthincare:

datingcptsd:

Try to remember that your partner might need more explanation for your thought process than you think is necessary, especially if it’s a “negative” thought.

“I disagree with you” –> “I disagree with you, but I’m not angry at you, and I’m not going to yell at you for not agreeing with me.”

“I’m hurt by what you did” –> “I’m hurt by what you did, but I don’t hate you, and I don’t think you’re a bad person. I just want to discuss it.”

“I’m frustrated” –> “I’m frustrated, but it doesn’t mean I don’t care about you.”

What feels obvious to you–the underlying asumption that of course you still love this person, of course this is just a single feeling–is not obvious to someone who has been trained to flinch at every criticism. Take the time to explain your feelings and their meanings to ease both your fears.

Why does this need to be addressed? Because cptsd involves a power imbalance with someone you had a relationship with (partner/caregiver, etc.) that abused their power with you continuously. 

The aftermath of the abuse leaves you now more conditioned to believe that someone does not love you if they express any negative tone towards you. This helps with assurance and validation. 

omfg this would help me so much.

vaspider:

spyderqueen:

jessicameats:

thehumorousace:

apocellipsis:

FUN FACT: it seems like more and more people are coming out as asexual because we finally feel safe enough to do so, it is not a fad, it is not a trend, and if you think it is one of those things please hop on the shut-the-fuck-up train to don’t-fucking-speak-to-me-ville.

Holy shit, it’s been put into words.

💜🌈💜

Also, people are coming out as asexual because we finally know that this is a thing that exists. We are reading things on the internet and thinking, “Oh, this sounds like me,” and, “There are other people who feel like this?” and, “Maybe I’m not broken after all.”

I wasn’t aware asexuality even existed until a couple of years ago. I mentioned asexuality to a coworker maybe a month ago and her reaction was astonished joy and, “That sounds like me!” I spoke to a woman in her fifties who said, “I always just assumed I was broken.”

People are coming out as asexual because they’ve learned that asexuality exists.

We’re also finding out more information about asexuality so even if we already knew it was a thing but thought “But I can’t be because X” can now go “Oh, the X thing doesn’t actually change that!”

This shouldn’t be surprising in a general sense – this is exactly, exactly, EXACTLY what happened with bisexual folks and trans folks, especially nonbinary and genderqueer folks.

Fun fact: when I first knew I was some variety of queer, I would sit in my bed at night and whisper ‘I’m a lesbian’ to myself bc I didn’t know there were other options. And then I snuck out books by fucking Kinsey in the library when my mother wasn’t looking, because this was 25+ years ago, and looked up sexual orientations… and found out bisexuality existed.

And then a few years later, after saying ‘oh gosh you know if I could just have a dimmer switch for gender I’d love that, or if I could swap my body and my gender around or if I could just present this way one day and this way another’ for a long time, I found the words ‘genderqueer’ and ‘genderfluid’ as those became more part of the queer vernacular… and it was like a light went on.

This is part of why bi and trans and genderqueer/genderqueer and trans ppl keep saying ‘look, it’s like what happened with us.’ It’s not ONLY because of the way that people are treating aces, telling them AMG YOU ARE NOT ONE OF US U FAKER, it’s because THE WHOLE THING is so much like what happened with us. Including the lightbulb moments and the realization that we’d always been this way, we just needed the words.

So yeah.