They are literally the problem and they don’t see it because that’s how they’re used to treating Black citizens….approaching them in an incredibly assertive and abraisive way first, then backing off when someone points it out and saying they weren’t doing anything.
That’s why it’s important to call this behavior out when you see it. It’s not enough for Black people to point out their behavior…we ALL have to hold the mirror up to their faces and call them out.
Because it’s not a case of a few bad apples, the tree those apples come from is poisoned. Some apples are perfectly safe to eat, but a majority of them contain the poison they were watered with.
^This.
Like, the very least they can do if they aren’t racist dirtbags is acknowledge that acting aggressively towards people makes them very uncomfortable and unsafe? You don’t even have to “see color” to understand that threatening to rip someone’s door off its hinges is going to put ANYONE in a state of massive anxiety and fear.
To any people that think they might be aro/ace or on the aro/ace spectrum let me tell you something.
The moment I first realized I was asexual I was 14 years old. I was alone in my grandparent’s computer room and I read the definition online and immediately knew I was asexual. I did not have a moment of clarity or happiness. I cried. I literally fell off of the grey computer chair and had to suppress my sobs as I leaned over on the floor and pulled at my hair. It felt like I had just been given a death sentence. A guarantee that I was a freak and not something anybody could love.
Over the next year I tried to fix myself. I did things that I will not go into, but know that I inflicted trauma on myself. I hurt myself both physically and emotionally. More than once I wished I was any sexual orientation other than asexual. As problematic as that might have been, it was something I wished for. I felt like freak. I felt like there was something fundamentally wrong with me. I seriously considered entering myself into a sexual relationship to see if that would “help”. The very idea of it made me want to throw up.
Don’t do what I did. Do not. Do not hurt yourself. Do not put yourself in any situation that you’re uncomfortable with. If you’re not proud of being ace/aro yet that is fine. It is fine. You can get there. You can. I am 20 now and I love being asexual because it is fundamentally a part of me that is not something to be “fixed”. If you turn out to be ace or aro, Then you turn out to be ace or aro. If you don’t, then you don’t. And that’s nothing to be ashamed of. Whatever you are you are not something to be fixed.
I tell you this because I feel like I almost never see that side of an “asexual/aromantic awakening” as it were. Everyone else seems to have had their aha moment and been so happy. Finally felt a sense of community. It took me way too long to get there. If you weren’t relieved when you found out you were asexual/aromantic you are okay. You are going to be okay. You have a place in this community and you are going to be okay. You are lovable and worthy of belonging. If it takes you time to accept yourself that is okay. Just be careful. You are not something to be fixed. You are complete and whole just as you are.
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Me: Given all that’s been going on, and especially with the TERFs that led London Pride, I think it’s a good time to address the fact that we have a serious issue with inclusion on this site, specifically on sapphic/wlw blogs. A lot of blogs that claim to be inclusive of sapphics are actually really exclusive/tansphobic/aphobic/generally unwelcoming to a large majority of wlw. And it’s time that all of us- lesbians, bi, pan, poly, ace, trans,nb, ALL wlw band together for a more welcoming, inclusive environment on tumblr. Because TERFs and exclusionists and gatekeeping hurt all of us in the end and only make it harder for wlw to find a place to be themselves online.
Y’all Hellspawn: omg this is so lesbophobic/ why do you hate women?
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