nonbinarypastels:

instructor144:

instructor144:

This ^^^ is good info. Love the examples of how invalidators work their toxic magic. BOOST.

Reblogged for a Follower who wanted the signs of emotional abuse.

Examples of Emotional Abuse Through Invalidation

• “Ordering” you to feel differently (Get over it. Don’t be so sensitive.)
• Ordering you to “look” differently (Don’t look so serious. Don’t look so proud of yourself.)
• Denying your perception, defending (You’ve got it all wrong but of course I respect you)
• Trying to make you feel guilting while invalidating you (I tried to help you. At least I __. You are making everyone else miserable).
• Trying to isolate you (You are the only one that feels that way. It doesn’t bother anyone else, why should it bother you?)
• Minimizing your feelings (You must be kidding. It can’t be that bad.)
• Using reason (There is not reason to get upset. Let’s stick to the facts. Maybe it’s because ___.)
• Judging and labeling you (You have a problem. You are too sensitive. you are hopeless.)
• Tell you how you “should” feel or act (You should be excited. You shouldn’t let it bother you.)