overloadextravaganza:

makingqueerhistory:

Well, queerwashing is a new one. 

I am going to go ahead and assume you are referring to this post where I say:

“Feminism has a terrible history not being inclusive of queer identities. And feminist groups need to face that history and learn from it instead of just repeating the same patterns over and over. They need to be active in their inclusion of queer identities in their politics, and no, having a “gay best friend” does not count.”

And none of what I said in any way disputes what you said here. There were and are queer feminists. But feminism as a movement has a history of exclusion. 

Remember the lavender menace? They formed because prominent feminists were spouting queerphobic rhetoric. 

Want to talk names? Let’s discuss Julie Bindel, who co-founded Justice for Women described bisexuality as a “fashionable trend”, and ridiculously transphobic. Also she was a lesbian feminist, so being a lesbian and a feminist does not mean you can’t be queerphobic.

Also we of course won’t forget to include the Redstockings, who are your garden variety homophobes.

These are just a couple that come to mind, but let’s talk more recent. TERFs, the acronym does not stand from Transgender Exclusionary Radical Friends, those people are self proclaimed feminists. 

How about the more recent controversy, when Chimamanda Adichie said that transgender women aren’t women. 

So yes, feminism has included queer people in certain pockets of the movement, but that does not absolve them of their history of exclusion. Just because some were good, does not mean the movement as a whole can pretend that there have never been problems.

For feminism to be inclusive it cannot deny its history of exclusion. It must face it and learn from it. 

And if hearing about the history of feminism angered you so much, then maybe you need to examine yourself. Because denial of the negatives of any movement is dangerous, and if you promote that denial then you are actively damaging the people who are trying to improve. 

You can’t hide feminism’s problems behind the queer people who tried to fix them, and I doubt that those people would have wanted you to in the first place.  

I’m really tripping over the use of the word queerwashing, because I don’t think it means what they think it means.

The answer is very informative though

honeybruh:

chinaglaze:

in general ppl tend to lack self-awareness and emotional intelligence so they think their emotions are at odd with their rationality. but our emotions tell us things that stoic reason cannot. emotions in general are not irrational, the feelings we have are, at their core, expressions of need.

sometimes we feel desperately sad when we’re alone. we might think of calling someone from our past who used to give us comfort. logic may indicate that this is not a good idea, but this impulse is a signal that your needs are not being met. loneliness is a rational response to your need for companionship being neglected.

the emotion driving you to drunk dial an ex, or something to that effect, is not some wild unreasonable thing. it’s the first step in the process of making a decision. you can follow the emotional wave and send a risky text or you can talk yourself out of it because you feel like the outcome is predictable and unfavorable. both are rational. both are logical. duh

Gary Zukav said that emotions are like pain – they’re calling our attention to a need, not just afflicting us needlessly based on outside stimuli. if you break your leg, the pain is alerting you to the break so that you can take action. when you have negative emotions, they’re alerting you to something that you need to be happy and whole so that you can take action.