Day: July 16, 2018

nuevayor:

nuevayor:

Help me and my family get a new stove!

July 14, 2018

My siblings and I have lived in my house for nearly as old as I am, 23 years, and every single appliance is as old as that too. If you know anything about kitchen appliances like stoves, it’s a miracle it even lasted over 20 years. Anyway, last year our stove finally died and this summer we made the time to take it out of the kitchen to dispose it.

Now, that leaves a huge gapping space where a stove should be. Seeing that space really brought up a lot of emotion because our dad is the one who pays the mortgage, but refuses to invest in any maintenance of our livelihoods beyond that, lest it be under his scheming conditions only. It’s a lot more complicated than that, but the point is we are four siblings and one mother in a home with no stove and a manipulative father who refuses to help. 

The five of us use exactly one portable hot plate to cook, but it is a huge inconvenience for us all. It results in us spending more money on food because we cannot properly meal prep and simply do not have the space to fulfill the needs of five people at a time.

As some of you may know, I am moving to Paris in August for at least 10 months for graduate school. Soon I will not be living in my childhood home anymore, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to contribute to it. All of my siblings and I are working to fund this stove, pooling and budgeting our income in order to make this work. I am asking for any consideration to help fund this new stove for my family: 

venmo @ rocio-montalvo-1

paypal.me/rociodmontalvo

cash $rociodsanchez

Please, my siblings and mother deserve basic kitchen appliances to have some semblance of a functioning life. I truly appreciate your compassion, your reblogs, and whatever donations you can spare.  

July 15, 2018

France may have won the World Cup but our family of five is still without a stove!

I would love to be able to provide this for my family before my departure on August 15.

My preliminary goal to fundraise is $200. I’m already $55 there!

Source: nuevayor

autismserenity:

vampireapologist:

I’m really done with the infantilizing of white women, acting like anything they do wrong is because they were somehow “forced” into it by men. In my own life as a white woman, some of the most heinous words and hateful hearts I’ve ever encountered belonged to white women. News Flash: it’s 2017. Barring some bizarrely specific abusive relationship, no man is forcing any white women to vote for racist politicians, to join the KKK, or to call someone the N word on twitter. White women have autonomy, and we are capable of evil all on our own.

But we’re also capable of putting a stop to it in our own ranks and doing good.

So stop making excuses and start making choices about where you want to stand.

it’s not an accident that terf blogs are often walls of White Feminism™ posts infantilizing cis women, and investing heavily in the fantasy that men are all abusers (and only abusers) and women are all victims (and only victims).

Majority of U.S. Muslims now support gay marriage, while white evangelical Christians remain opposed

socialistexan:

pear-boomerdang:

socialistexan:

littlelamblillianna:

muslim-support:

Opposition to same-sex marriage has decreased across a broad swath of religious groups in the United States, with white evangelical Christians one of the few movements for which a majority remains in opposition. Three years on from the Supreme Court ruling that same-sex couples should be allowed to marry, the findings from the Public Religion Research Institute’s 2017 American Values Atlas, published Tuesday, showed growing support for LGBT rights, including a majority of U.S. Muslims backing same-sex marriage for the first time.

Muslims, by a margin of 51 percent to 34 percent, favor same-sex marriage, compared to just four years ago when a majority, 51 percent, were opposed. There were similar results for black Protestants, with 54 percent opposing gay marriage in PRRI’s 2014 American Values Atlas, compared with 43 percent in the latest findings.

Indeed, opposition to same-sex marriage is now limited almost entirely to white conservative Christians. Fifty-eight percent of white evangelical Christians and 53 percent of Mormons—an overwhelming majority of whom are white—are opposed to allowing gay couples to marry. The group with the most opposition, though, is Jehovah’s Witnesses, a group which is 36 percent white, 32 percent Hispanic and 27 percent black in the U.S. Just 13 percent support the law.

I didn’t know this! I’m so happy! Alhumdulillah!!!!

Most religious groups in the U.S. now support same-sex marriage, including overwhelming majorities of Unitarians (97%), Buddhists (80%), the religiously unaffiliated (80%), Jewish Americans (77%), and Hindus (75%). Roughly two-thirds of white mainline Protestants (67%), white Catholics (66%), Orthodox Christians (66%), and Hispanic Catholics (65%) also favor same-sex marriage. A slim majority of Muslims (51%) favor same-sex marriage, but only 34% are opposed; 15% offer no opinion on this issue.

It basically leaves only Mormons and White Evangelical and Protestants as the last religious groups against gay marriage.

So I know this isn’t right but I got confused for a second and thought those percentages were part of a whole, so like 80% of the LGBT community were Buddhist, so in conclusion America is 658% gay

Smash that mf reblog button if you’re 658% gay.

Majority of U.S. Muslims now support gay marriage, while white evangelical Christians remain opposed

orc-lady-unabi:

spaffy-jimble:

undercover-underdog:

For those of you who don’t know, I work at an anarchist co-op coffee shop.

Apparently, all the Chicano/Cholo boys in my neighborhood have caught on the the fact that I sneak food and stuff to all the little punk kids and homeless kids at the coffee shop.

There are three in particular who call me Mom.
Not Mami, not Ma, Mom.
The rest refer to me as “Miss”.

They’ve decided to always have one of the three of them there with me on my night shifts. (Especially after they witnessed the last bad shift where I had to kick a bunch of tweakers out. Said tweakers lit my fucking bulletin board on fire.)

Tonight, one of the boys actually charged up a crackhead who wouldn’t get out when I told him to leave.

About an hour later, I was emptying bus tubs when that same lovely boy walked in and wetted a wash rag. I asked what he was doing and he told me not to worry. So, I went about my business, doing dishes, bussing the main dining tables, etc.

I’d left a broom in the smoking room and a fresh trash bag in the bathroom for once I was done with the dishes.

When I walked out, everything was spotless and the trash had been replaced. He’d wiped all my tables, swept, mopped, and emptied all the ash trays.

He’d also picked the lock on the bathroom so his friend could take out the trash for me. (Which I’m not sure whether I should scold him for. Haha)

They snuck around and did my closing shift duties to thank me for keeping them warm and fed.

I’m fucking crying.

Kindness begets kindness.

Picking a lock so you can take out trash for someone who’s nice to you is the most chaotic good thing i’ve ever heard. ❤

bittersnurr:

clatterbane:

A little more on the tag commentary here, and learned social anxiety.

(#a history of getting bad reactions #when you’re expressing enthusiasm #really doesn’t help #totally learned social anxiety here #betting it’s not uncommon #for otherwise neurodivergent/disabled people #also not totally irrational the way a lot of people want to act)

I believe it was on Jane Meyerding’s old website where I ran across something that really spoke to me. So, of course that’s been long enough that I can’t find anything like what I was looking for now.

Anyway, to paraphrase from memory? I at least started out as a person who would talk about anything with anyone. Then you see some of the reactions that ends up getting you…and yeah.

That type of experience won’t necessarily encourage a person to be more outgoing, or more confident interacting with people they don’t already know reasonably well.

And it’s unlikely to be a totally imagined set of concerns, when you do have actual experience of social interactions going horribly wrong. Often down to reasons beyond your control, if not also your understanding.

Faking confidence and forcing yourself into uncomfortable interactions is unlikely to make this version of social anxiety better. At all.

(As an oversimplification of actual advice based on the idea that any fears must be overblown, and any problems that exist in that situation can necessarily be fixed by applying CBT.)

I’m also reminded of that “We Can’t Keep Treating Anxiety From Complex Trauma the Same Way We Treat Generalized Anxiety” post from the other day. Some similarities, where we are talking about learned social anxiety based on experience.

Yeah there was actually an article in my twitter feed that I went off on over this exact thing because it basically was about this but instead of concluding that people treat neurodivergent people poorly it concluded that people “don’t understand” when we are trying to be social and just give up on us.

But the main thing that makes this so obviously the main problem is like, I for years would get harassed to the point people laughed at me if I answered the teacher in class (even if I didn’t raise my hand) CORRECTLY even. If I said anything ever I was laughed it. It took me years but eventually online conversations brought my confidence up a bit.

So I start Actually Talking and my mom actually chews me out because I am “being rude” and “lacking social skills”. My mother who a few years prior chastized me for saying “there is no point in addressing my social anxiety when I am too sick to leave the house” because it was apparently important I fix it.

Like idk what people expect? If you tell me to shut up I shut up, this is not a defect in me, this is an order you have given me. Stop sending me to therapy for something you will immediately break if I manage to fix anyway because it was never a distorted thought and only your behavior.

mhunter10:

armitageadoration:

maaarine:

@MariliaSavvides

And men make fun of women for travelling in packs. Sighs.

Seriously, if you see this happening and you can speak up…do. If you are unable see if you can find someone who will help.

You don’t even have to be directly confrontational. If you see some people being bothered by someone, invite yourself into the conversation and just be obnoxiously painfully woefully oblivious that you’ve interrupted. Gradually push the creep out of the conversation or press them so aggressively to continue that eventually they will give up and leave.

Throw the creep off their game, essentially

Source: maaarine