Many of the men I have talked to about this have begun of their own volition to speak about “no longer objectifying women.” To wonder whether they should just stop looking at pretty women at all, if the act of desiring another person is itself violent. It’s very sad that that confusion has arisen; it should be possible to want someone without dehumanizing them. But we have apparently created a world where it is incredibly difficult for a man to desire a woman and treat her as a human being at the same time.

brutereason:

I was thinking about Jon Ronson’s book about public shaming and about recent debates about political tactics and something came together:

When making arguments about ethics, white men consistently ignore power as a lens of analysis. For many of them, actions are either right or wrong regardless of power differentials between the people involved, the stakes for those with less power, and the options they have available to them.

Protesting to have Milo disinvited from your campus therefore becomes *just as bad* as Milo’s own actions towards marginalized people, despite the vast disparities in harm done and options available. (This is not a strawman. When y’all say, “This makes you just as bad as them,” that’s literally what you’re saying.) That Milo’s talk, as planned, would’ve caused serious, measurable, and irreparable harm to specific students, and that protesters had exhausted all “proper” channels for months beforehand, doesn’t seem to matter in this analysis.

All that matters is the specific action taken. “Preventing a person from speaking.” “Destroying property.” “Public shaming.” These actions are seen as unethical regardless of who did them and why, what consequences they face if they do not take these actions, and what other options–if any–they have available.

I keep coming back to MLK’s quote about riots being the language of the unheard. For the most part, people resort to tactics that fall into ethical grey areas because other tactics are unavailable or have already failed. I’m sure that there are people who do so despite having better options, just as there are always people who act unethically in other ways.

But unfortunately, for an outside observer with no skin in the game, it’s very hard to tell whether or not that’s the case. I saw so many posts patronizingly chiding Berkeley students for not trying other tactics before protesting and/or destroying property (although most did not destroy property, and the oft-used phrase “violent protest” implies much more than that). They had no idea of the lengths to which the protesters went to utilize “appropriate” means to keep themselves and their community safe. It didn’t work. They remained unheard.

Any ethics that ignores the role of power will privilege the powerful. Our Republican members of Congress don’t need to riot, set fires, and block the streets in order to get what they want. They do appropriate, ethical things like draft policies and have debates and vote. Because they have the power to. The specific actions they take–drafting policies, debating, voting–are not seen as inherently unethical things to do. Yet they’ve destroyed lives, families, and communities. They’ve achieved a level of destruction that even the rowdiest masked protesters never could, not that they’d want to.

revivalish:

This is all I’m gonna say on the matter, but:

I hope all my allistic followers are aware that books like To Siri With Love are the sort of thing that get autistic people killed. We die in real life because we’re seen as creepy, unsettling, yet still somehow laughable caricatures of humanity, and we are medicated to death, driven to death by family members and medical professionals who treat us worse than how they’d treat animals, and there are people who advocate to stop us from being born if there are “signs of autism” in an otherwise perfectly healthy (and wanted) fetus, because they think our lives are a fate worse than death.

This book is like a cross-section of that culture. 

The person who wrote this book is actively and knowingly – I don’t believe for a second that she’s just a well-meaning but misguided parent – contributing to a culture that wants her son dead. I hope he gets away from her quickly and never has to see her again. I hope he meets people who treat him like the worthy individual he is and help him heal from the trauma she’s caused. I’m so fucking sorry he has to cope with this book being out.

I don’t usually say things like “please unfollow me if”, but if you believe that autistic people should be medicated and sterilized against their will, or that cruelly and invasively mocking an already vulnerable 13-year-old in a bestselling book is acceptable, unfollow me.

(Actually, you know what, edit: allistic people are encouraged to reblog this.)

lovely-lady-of-fandoms:

firebirdeternal:

taraljc:

xjessr:

ATTENTION ALL GIRLS: Being a ride or die means staying by a man’s side whether he has $500 or $5. Not when he cheats 10 times and you stay.

“Ride or Die” also means that if he ever hits you, he dies, and you call your bff for a ride.

Loyalty through hardship is one thing, loyalty through cruelty is another. 

Don’t forget that it works both ways, he should be willing to ride or die for you too. The goal of a relationship is support and love one another

notasubmariner:

hermionegranger:

autisticcole:

debrides:

I worked with toddlers and pre schoolers for three years. Sometimes I accidentally slip and tell a friend to say bye to an inanimate object (“say bye bus!”) & occasionally they unthinkingly just do it.

I’m glad there’s a teacher version of “accidentally called teacher ‘mom’”

when I worked at Medieval Times occasionally I would slip in real life and call people “my lord”

My boyfriend once held the door open for me out of the post office saying, “outcha go, outcha go!” like he would do to get the dog out of a room.

thekimonogallery:

fujiwara57:

Ozaki Shōzō 尾崎捷三

Shōzō Ozaki est un artiste vivant et travaillant à Setagaya-ku 世田谷区 – un des 23
arrondissements de la préfecture de Tōkyō-to 東京都. Le sujet principal de son travail est les chats, bien
qu’il peint d’autres animaux comme les hiboux et les oiseaux. Ses pièces
sont généralement faites dans des couleurs douces qui procure une sensation de
sérénité.

Source :
https://www.facebook.com/shozo.ozaki/about

Shōzō Ozaki is an artist living and working in Setagaya-ku un 田 谷 区 – one of the 23 districts of Tokyo Prefecture-東京 都. The main subject of his work is cats, although he paints other animals such as owls and birds. His pieces are usually made in soft colors that provides a sense of serenity.