Day: January 13, 2018

@ajax-daughter-of-telamon – Feist will, at least. It surprised me too when it first started happening. I was also more worried at first, and tried to keep her in away from them after dark. (Which wasn’t too successful. Determined cats.)

But, having this round little cat charging at them like a demon seems to surprise them even more 🙄 Still surprised I haven’t seen any evidence of them even touching her in 10+ years now. You’d think some of them would try to fight. No signs of it if they have.

Still not so happy about it. But most of them aren’t that much bigger than she is (around 12-15 lbs full grown), and these foxes are definitely used to living around cats. Even if I don’t get the idea most of them are so used to the cats running at them like Feist 😹 But, they’re thankfully not nearly as big or aggressive as coyotes, and not nearly as likely to go after cats.

Still kinda hoping she won’t start it up again once it warms up enough for her to want to spend time outside again, though. I still keep worrying that she’ll finally mess with the wrong one.

I have no idea wth kind of drama has been going on in the local urban fox community, but there’s been a lot of squabbling and screaming out there every night lately.

Some of it really close, since at least a couple of the ones involved live in one disused back garden the next house over. They keep running back and forth yelling through ours.

Anyway, I’ve been kind of surprised that Feist hasn’t been trying to chase them off. Since she got in the habit of defending the fortress when there were kittens, and she still doesn’t want a fox anywhere close. She’s getting older, and the weather seems to be enough to have her going lolnope now. Hasn’t been wanting outside much at all, more than last winter.

Just as well, since I really don’t want that cat out tangling with already seriously pissed off foxes. Retiring from the job? We can only hope.

But, the surprise tonight? They’ve been back and forth a lot behind the house. So, her uncle has decided to set up watch by the back door. He’s been camped up on a nice perch out there for at least an hour now.

Felt kind of dumb that it took me a little while to figure out why he didn’t want to come in when the Fox Wars sounded pretty close. Might help explain the other night too, when I went to run a couple of them off the (walled) patio with a flashlight, and he was hanging around out there then.

I’ve never seen Mirrors actively go after any foxes before, and thankfully he doesn’t seem to want to get involved now. (That perch also looks pretty secure, and they mostly do stay outside the wall. I would probably try to grab him in if he didn’t seem reasonably safe up there.)

But, apparently somebody needs to take over sentry duty if Scourge of Foxes is going to slack off and sleep in the front window instead 🙀 Or maybe he’s just being the nosy neighbor. Possibly a combo.

kaijuno:

In 300 years someone’s gonna make a Hamilton-esque musical with Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton and Bernie Sanders and teenagers on the internet are gonna stan Donald Trump like “uwu my trash son Donald being a drama queen as usual” and I’m gonna have to do it. I’m gonna have to come back from the dead and destroy the planet.

xxkylalalaxx:

twentyonelizards:

my boyfriend and I sometimes struggle to be on the same page when it comes to comforting- often i just want to vent and don’t need advice, whereas validation confuses him and he wants a plan of action

to counter this, we’ve come up with a system where we ask: “do you want advice, empathy, both or neither?” 

if it’s just advice, i know to go straight to action points and not spend time on fluffy words 

if it’s just empathy, he knows i want to be reassured and comforted and that’s all

if it’s both, it’s time for advice that recognises how hard the situation is and is perhaps gentler in nature

if it’s neither, just a hug is really good

i recommend trying to use this in your lives! it makes sure you’re giving and getting what you need, and reduces the risk of resentment or similar

My parents did a similar thing to me where they would ask, “sympathy or solution?”. If the answer was sympathy, they did not want to hear me talk about the issue anymore. I was made to feel bad about talking through my problems.

When using this kind of system, it is important to acknowledge and make it clear that it’s okay to want comfort without resolution.

thefeelofavideogame:

one of the weirdest things about tumblr is the bizarre subset of people who pretend to shun aggression while being constantly upset and highly aggressive

like one would think shunning aggression would lead to pacifism but inevitably the people on this site degrade into weird muted pastel goblins who harass and bully others in the most baffling ways but refuse to use any curse words and also uwu-type