People joke a lot about lesbians, particularly butches, being clueless when it comes to dating, and that’s all well and good when it’s just banter that’s largely contained to the community, but it’s also worth examining how that came to be.
Society treats lesbians, especially those who are trans and/or visibly gender nonconforming, as predatory, and views them with suspicion. It’s all but impossible to resist internalizing at least some parts of that stereotype, and that in turn makes lesbians averse to being perceived that way. That can be a huge inhibitor when approaching something like dating, and I think a lot of lesbians end up erring on the side of caution, never assuming that others have more interest in them than is explicitly stated. Speaking from personal experience, I’ve been in many situations where I would’ve likely made a move if it hadn’t been for that anxiety.
With that in mind, it really does make a difference to practice communicating more openly and working through that fear together by meeting each other halfway. Welcoming trans and/or visibly gender nonconforming lesbians in lesbian spaces and women’s spaces and ensuring they’re treated with the same degree of respect as anyone else goes a long way as well. The community as a whole will be a lot stronger if there’s more of an active and conscious effort to combat internalized lesbophobia and transphobia within it.
Funniest thing is people saying “folx” to make “folks” (a gender neutral word) gender neutral
ok but fuck you ok? Cos it’s real hard to convince Southern ppl to be genuine human beings, so I write “folx” whenever I can to show people in GA and KY (of all places) that being inclusive is *easy.* They don’t have to stop saying y’all or type folx themselves. They can use they for one person the same way I did for them just now. Fuck that negativity.
Y’all really just say any stupid shit that comes to mind huh
Imagine thinking a) transphobia is fixed by de-gendering non-gendered words, and b) that transphobia is a geographical issue like that isn’t rooted in deliberate classism & racism & like there’s only cis people in the south and only trans people in the north
how is folx inclusive like what does this mean
From what I understand it originally came from the music scene and then got twisted into like, a more inclusive way to refer to a group of people? Largely bc white ppl saw Latinxs using the x in place of a or o, and decided to just. Take it. So then you have two separate groups doing it for two separate reasons that i st got blended together into some weird way to show that you’re woke™️ without having to do anything.
^^^^
you just gotta end your nouns referring to a group of people with the letter X that’s how things work nowadays
“it’s real hard to convince Southern ppl to be genuine human beings”
At least it’s nice to see these people admitting they’re engaging in dehumanization along the lines of geographical origin
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